2007-03-10 10:24:09 · 42 answers · asked by bertalou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not for one second - I can't begin to express how much he would be sorry for the day he chose to do that either; I would make his life a living hell in any and all ways I could possibly think of.
2007-03-10 10:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am a man and therefore will not have a hubby, however given your question-NO!!! Send the bastard to jail!! Given his life to "God" my a**!! The guy is a paedophile and molester of children (yours!!) and should be treated as such!! Even though he may be the spouse, that does not excuse what he has done and should pay for his crime!! I would stand by as he was put into handcuffs and hauled away (and would probably want to put the cuffs on myself!!) Did he "give himself" before or after the abuse? Before? Then he is also a hypocrite, and is double damned!! After? Then he is just hopping to get some redemption for an act he knows was wrong, and still gets a direct line into the lowest level of Hell when he dies! A little aggressive an answer, but that cannot be tolerated from anyone!!
2007-03-10 10:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- whether or not your husband is your daughters' biological father or not, he has crossed the line of moral behavior, and possibly has damaged her for life. A child should NOT be exposed in any way to this behavior, no matter how "God fearing" a man has now claimed to become.
For now- Get yourself and your daughter into counseling. Both of you get away from this man. Take your other children with you ( if you have any). Find out why you would even consider staying with a man that could take advantage sexually of a child. As a mother, your first responsibility is to protect your children and give them the chance to grow up with as little emotional damage as possible and liking themselves. If you stay with this man, you will have betrayed your daughter. Think of the consequences of what you are considering.
2007-03-10 10:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? If he sexually abused your daughter call the police and have him locked up forever!!!!! Giving himself to the lord is a crock. He is a poser and not giving his life to the lord. Once a child abuser always a child abuser it is an illness and he will do it again. LEAVE HIM and keep him away from your poor daughter who is paying the price for you wanting a man in your life more than you love your poor abused daughter.
2007-03-10 10:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by lover_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because sexual predators are never cured. He could re-offend. Your obligation is to protect your daughter from being abused again by your husband, and the only way would be is to end the relationship. If he has found God, that is all well and good, but that still does not mean that he will not re-offend again. He needs psychotherapy for sexual offenders and medication to limit his sex drive, so his religious awakening could only be a coverup for him to come back into your life. Do not under any circumstances take this man back, especially if your daughter is still living in your home. I wish you well.
2007-03-10 13:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, that would be a definate "deal breaker". Not only would I divorce him as soon as possible, I would also go directly to the authorities with the information.
Sure, I would be glad that he had given his life to the Lord, but he still did something that to me, is just too much to handle. I have faith in the Lord as well, and I do know that Jesus would forgive him.. I, however... I just don't think I would ever be able to do that.
My child will always come first in my life, even before my own husband. If he ever did anything to him (I don't think for one second he ever would) it wouldn't even be almost a hard choice for me. Protecting my child is my number one priority.. the husband would out so fast, he wouldn't know what hit him.
A Mother should always be there to protect her children, and if something bad like that ever does happen, then she should know that it is her duty as a Mom to see that her child is safe from harm.
2007-03-10 11:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many more answers do you need? Get a life!
My husband is in jail for sexually abusing my daughter. should i stand by him. i do really love him.?
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2007-03-10 11:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Atzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just love it when guilty people suddenly find the LORD after getting caught..
I thinks is a crock and a play to win back loved ones.
Think about the terror your daughter would feel if you allowed this man back into your life. It's time to stop being naive and protect you daughter. Mothers before Lovers!
2007-03-10 10:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Your daughter is your priority, and what your husband did is WRONG. He abused her in the absolute worst way possible, and she is looking to you for support. If you stand by your husband, you are telling your daughter that you do not care about her, or her feelings. As a victim of childhood sexual abuse myself, I can tell you that I have never experienced such trauma, and 15 years later I'm still trying to deal with it. As her mother, you have a duty to your daughter to condemn what your husband has done - this is not only a terrible thing to do, but a CRIMINIAL ACT. Please, PLEASE take your daughter away from this man as soon as possible - almost all child molesters are repeat offenders. This may be hard to hear, but your daughter needs your help, and you need to take drastic action to protect her.
2007-03-10 10:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Once a pedophile...always a pedophile. Jesus can't take that out of anyone. They almost always do it again. Why do you think the government has allowed the Megan's Law website so people can keep an eye on these perps? Giving his life to the Lord is a crutch and a manipulation. Show no mercy on these types of people and do not trust him. And do not allow him to throw the Bible in your face.
2007-03-10 10:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Tadow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance. He made his choice, let him deal with the consequences. Your loyalty should be to your daughter... she needs to know that you support and believe her 100%, and standing by him would give her reason to doubt that.
If he's given his life to the Lord, good for him. Hope he's happy and has asked forgiveness for his sins. But let him do it FAR AWAY from you and your daughter.
2007-03-10 10:59:41 · answer #11 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋