Okay, I'm pregnant with my first child. Ever since I got pregnant, my boyfriend has changed. He's always so busy working and never wanting to be around me anymore. He says he's making all this money but when I ask for it to help pay the dr., he yells at me for it. I know he's up there working 24/7. I have my sources. But I'm tired of him ignoring me. Every time I try to tell him how bad he's treating me, he tells me I'm being childish and immature. Then he tells me that I'm using being pregnant as a crutch, as an excuse. What do I do?
2007-03-10 10:16:10 · 16 answers · asked by Tonya W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you need to get an attorney and let them deal with him
he needs to be responsible and needs to offer support
unfortunately it sounds as if he may not be much help to you in the future ..... just remember to always keep the child's best interest @ heart
good luck ...... and congrats on the baby
2007-03-10 10:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old the two of your are both you both seem to be acting immature. As far as the Dr. bills go, he needs to help pay, end of story. I suggest if you two plan to stay together you need some counseling. Try going to a free clinic or a parenting class. You also need to understand that this isn't all about you.....I'm not "yelling" I am just trying to help you.....and understand that this is a big change for him too. He is probably freaking out because he has a baby on the way and isn't ready for it. You are probably worried because you have a baby on the way and you don't have his support. Get help! If you two want to be together, you need to do this together. Period. Good luck!
2007-03-10 20:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start making arrangments for you and the baby now. He sounds resentful as if you pushed him into having a child? Even if you disagree, HE may feel differently. Tell him you are leaving him until he can treat you with more respect. A "man" shouldn't be treating the mother of his child that way!
2007-03-10 18:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by daisyduke070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't want to be a father and probably feels you "trapped" him. He is immature and unable to face his responsibilities...(something you should have thought about BEFORE you spread your legs). About all you can do at this point is to try and get medicaid to help you with your doctor visits and then file for court ordered child support when you give birth. This guy isn't going to step up and be responsible it is quite plain to see so YOU will have to do it for him by filing for child support. Maybe next time you will give more thought as to the type of guy you want to become your next child's father.
2007-03-10 18:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WEll he is suffering from buy overwhelmed and feeling trapped. He probably is making money in fear of you taking him to court when he flakes out.
You are more sensitive now than you were before you were pregnant. Just try to get him to sit down and talk, or if things dont get better leave him.
2007-03-10 18:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by norwooddrafting 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing you and this fella are pretty young. i suggest you talk to him without the tears and ask him to shoot straight with you. try to do this in a non agressive or bitchy way.i'm guessing this is his way of dealing with things...having a baby is scarey ...its a lot of responcibility .so try not to push and let him deal in his own way if he says things are cool... he is either afraid and trying to find a way to deal with this news and planning for the baby or is about to lead you down a long road . i hope for your baby and your sake that it works out and yall can be good parents. also, dont be foolish ... prepare for the worse as well as the best ....you need a back up plan in case he isnt gonna be a good father and support his child. take care hun' and good luck !
2007-03-10 18:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by bigmommy240 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys work extra long hours just to have time to themselves, and to clear there heads, and think things through, maybe you should leave him alone for a few days or a week or something and then try to talk to him about what hes wanting to do about the whole thing. because he may does want to be part of your lives, but hasnt decided how hes going to deal with it.
2007-03-10 18:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Over and Over 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know 1)We need to talk 2) Explain to him how you're feeling and remind him you have not only yourself to think about but your unborn child and you really could use emotional support right now not just financial
2007-03-10 18:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you should of thought of that BEFORE you got pregnant!! I think its a little too late now. And its true, a baby requires LOTS of money! Its better he works than no job.
2007-03-10 18:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me he is one of the guys who doesnt actually want a child, and is looking for some reason to argue with you, to end your relationship... therefore, not take responsiblity for BOTH of your child. he helped make that baby, so he should pay some of the dr. bills.
2007-03-10 19:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by =] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋