plz help me out.i really duno wat do to and i cant share my probs wid any1:(?

Question

my hubby doesnt love me that is for sure..there r a million thins that have proved it, some of which is that he never do anythin that will make me happy.its always about his choices, his life his probs even if im feelin sad and cryin he instead of tryin to calm me down he will always tell me that hes feelin bad and will expect me to makin him feel better.i have cared no only about him but his entire family including his uncle and aunts and cousins and they tell him that hes luky he has a wife like me.
anyways...i cant take a divorce i just cant (coz of my family...cant hurt them).can any1 plz just tell me how can i live wid him widout feeling hurt.i cant take this anymore i think i'll have a nervous breakdown someday.plz help me out.i really need some advices.thx a lot for listenin to me:(

i have talked to him about it a million times.its seriously no use.coz for him just sayin sorry is enuff and he doesnt think that hes rong.he blames me for feeling things.he says that im crazy and that he loves me and if feeling sad then im blind.he just dun understand even his bro tells him that he shud try to be more sensitive towards my needs and feelings:(he aint willing to try counsling.im stuck

Answer 1

Have you tried counseling? Have you tried talking to him, telling him how this makes you feel? You know, it sounds like you both have a lot built up inside of you two and you never communicated and now it's comin' back to bite you. You need to throw this out in the open, and you need to talk to someone: a close friend, one of your parents, one of his parents, a colleague at work, SOMEONE! Don't take this to Yahoo Answers, you need a person to comfront face to face with and pour out your problems. You need someone who knows you and kinda has an idea of whats goin' on bc, honestly, none of us over here know what's goin' on in your life. So, talk to someone and talk to him.
I'll be prayin' for ya.

Answer 2

It doesnt sound like u have a problem, it sounds like he does.
I was with someone who was like this and he has a psychological problem. He couldnt admit he was wrong, he was insensitive, and distant most of the time. He had good days, but the bad outweighed the good.
My suggestion is that u talk to him and tell him u feel as though he needs to see a doctor and see if the problem lies with him. That u cannot live the way u have been and see what his reaction is.
Hun, u may not want to leave, but sometimes its the only way to be happy. This lifestule is not healthy and everyone deserves to carry smiles on their face instead of frowns.
If he wont listen to u, perhaps mentioning it to someone whom he will listen to is a suggestion.
I wish u luck.

Answer 3

I believe you need to realize that your feelings are more important here than the feelings of your family. would your family not be the persons who would understand just such a thing as not feeling loved by yr man? your family are the ones who should support you in this. the divorce should be way easier for you than staying with this grown baby who expects you to be his emotional slave.... your family cannot hold to the statement that that is good for you... Please re-evaluate what you think about your family. Not leaving this man that doesnt love you, just to not hurt your family is the world upside down love, and you should put it right again. You have a right to be happy too and this bastard should have his ears twisted because of making you unhappy. you deserve way better and if your family can't understand that, they do not deserve your love for them. So, re-evaluate, re-plan, re-try and recover.... I wish you all the luck in the world and I hope you find a person who loves you for you and will care truly for you. Someone who makes you feel it and never forget it that you are worth the world to him.

Answer 4

You have to speak to your family. Tell them everything you just said. Wouldn't they care if you were to have a breakdown? Divorce is not to be taken lightly but It sounds as if this man is totally insensitive and selfish. If your family is so important in the scheme of things, why don't you ask them to intervene. Maybe they can convince him to go for counselling with you. As for staying with him in the hopes that you can get over feeling hurt, that's just a crazy dream. Resentment will cause huge problems in the marriage if not resolved.

Answer 5

Go to a counselor yourself. Its always good to talk to someone about your problems. A priest/ minister works good too and they don't charge as much. But getting back to your problem. You have already said that he doesn't care if you are feeling lousy the only one that matters is himself. Then no amount of talking either to a counselor or priest is going to change that. You also said that divorce way out of the question. No one has a magic pill that everything is going to make everything good. If you know your situation and also know that your partner is not going to change, then lower your expectation from happy to tolerate. However once you do that your satisfaction of life if always going to go down. Can't get out your stuck. Not much of a life. Good luck!

Answer 6

How can we change your husband? How can we make an inconsiderate man, who is selfish into a considerate sweet man? You dont want to leave him , which I understand if you both are willing to make it work but is he? And it doesnt make any sense at all that you wont leave an unhappy situation because you will hurt your parents??? Does that mean you have to stay with a man that doesnt love you so your parents will have a smile on their faces????? Your husband sounds very very needy and self centered. All I can say is ask him to get counselling or that you need to be listening to and soothed when you are feeling badly. If he wont do anything to change...well then you will just get more and more unhappy, because you worry about disappointing your parents MORE then you personal happiness. Very silly of you.

Answer 7

Well my sister is in a fixes like that, she now feels better about her self, because she has focus only on her self and made herself happy, the only advice I got to give is make your days count go out meet someone have a friendly relationship, and if things get heavy, talk to his family tell them the true and all I can do is wish you the very best. but please be very honest with yourself.

Answer 8

I think you need to see a couselor to help you with all the emotional stuff. Will he go to marriage couseling? Can you sit him down and tell him how he makes you feel and ask him why or does he really want you to feel this way? talk to him and see if he wants to help in some way. Take care Heather

Answer 9

i am truly sorry to read your situation, but i cant seem to understand why your willing to deniey yourself happyness. your not happy with your guy and he dosent care to even try to make you happy at all. maybey if you swicht the rool around and ignore his problems and act as if u dont care he might think he's loossing you and change his act.thats is there might be some one else in his life i hope not for your sake but if so divorce him yeah it might sound easy for me to say but think maybey there is some one out there for you who will make you happy and will think of your feelings and so on you will never know and if youe husband is the man for you he will change for you with time he will see what he lost and what a women you are and you can always reconsile. well hope my advise helps sorry for all the misspelling but if you need to chat with some one im me.

Answer 10

ok this is gonna be hard to answer...I think, that you should talk about him first...tell him he should think about the things that made him marry you...if that doesn't work...maybe you should go somewhere, stay with your family for a while or something, or with a friend for a few days...just a bit of time that might make you miss him or make him miss you
I'm sorry i can't give you really GREAT advice, but that's all I can think of