My husband and someone that we both work with are having conversation everyday. I know that he has kissed this girl at least once. I have a feeling that he is having an affair. Is it wrong of me to confront this girl and let her husband know what is going on? My husband and I have talked about it and he say there is nothen going on but my gut feeling is that there is.
2007-03-10 10:07:55 · 30 answers · asked by bmac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did talk to my husban about this and let him know how i feel. This girl just will not take no for a answer! My husband was trying to be nice and be a friend because she is not happy in her on marriage. He tried to give her encouragement to work things out with her own marriage.
2007-03-12 19:13:43 · update #1
U r given a women intuition for a reason. I suggest u listen to it. Its never been wrong for me.
If he is texting this woman, and isnt letting u see the texts, then yea, I would definately think something is up.
Ask him to see what he is saying to her. If he does, then it will ease your suspiscions. However, if he gets defensive, then there is definately a problem.
And if he does get defensive, dont let him turn it around and make u feel like u have no right to ask. U r his wife, and u have every right to ask whatever u wish. There is no room for secrets in any serious relationship or marriage.
I wish u luck and hope your fears arent warranted.
Best wishes hun.
2007-03-10 10:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kissing the girl is cheating, and if you allow this to continue without having it out over it, the situation will just get worse. A guy does not confide in a girl and talk or text to her everyday unless he desires her and regardless of whether they have had sex or not he shouldn't be doing this with another girl when he is in a relationship(and marriage in this case!).
You and he need to set boundaries for friendships with others so you both can talk to the opposite sex and understand what hurts each other...calling someone on the phone or texting them shows involvement and is different than simply talking while working. If he is unwilling to respect the limits you two set together or set them at all I promise you that he will continue things and make them worse knowing he can get away with it.
2007-03-10 10:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by mark63049 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing going on? right! I am not so sure I would want to keep a liar on tap as a husband...cheating is one thing, but lying is another...so unnecessary. Dragging the girls husband into the fray doesn't sound particularly great either...but you are going to do just that, aren't you? I suspect that you are looking for just one "yes, tell the husband" to act. So, I might as well be the one....ask the husband what all the texting is about, why are they kissing, etc.? Does that make you feel better? Good luck
2007-03-10 10:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever asked him why? what's the urgency? If she's attempting to get him to help sparkling up a situation, does it take that plenty texting? Is she in simple terms bored? What approximately her boyfriend? Does he be attentive to? If the female is starting to be an emotional reliance on your husband there's a situation. If he brushes you off yet has a tendency to her all day and night?! OH HECK NO! he's the two have been given something occurring together with her, or is headed that way. Confront him and his brother, mutually. Get all of it out interior the open. Straighten the mess.
2016-11-24 19:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No husband should be text messaging another woman everyday unless they are working on some work project, which doesn't seem to be the case here. I'm not sure I'd recommend confronting the other woman's husband, but you a conversation with the woman is not out of order. Good luck.
2007-03-10 10:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating, or at least thinking about doing it. He's kissed this woman right? That means that there's atleast something physical there. I'd go with your gut.
Talking to the other woman would be bad. Take care of what you can on your end first.
2007-03-10 10:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by dubi4u 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you, what are you gonna do just let him? I wouldn't worry so much about confronting the other girl. It is your husband you need to worry about. He is the one with the commitment to you not her.You seem to have a strange attitude about him kissing her, almost like it is no big thing. I think you may need a lawyer. I really wish you well!
2007-03-10 10:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why approach her, its your husband who you would ask. She of course is going to say nothing is going on. How did this happen that he kissed the girl at least once, and he claims there is nothing to worry about? He isnt cheating yet but he laying the foundation to cheat. There is a strong attraction to say the least and no I wouldnt like nor tolerate this. How did you find out he was texting her? How would he like it if you did that? Yes it is almost cheating and most women wouldnt like it at all.
2007-03-10 10:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's cheating - but I wouldn't confront anyone until I had concrete evidence to back up your gut feeling!! Lay low and get the proof.
2007-03-10 10:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Zabes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your gut. Its not the texting thats cheating its the kissing!!! But nothing is going to change until he comes clean.
2007-03-10 10:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋