Do most gay men dislike the company of women?

Question

I am quite fond of the lifestyle (bisexual myself) and really enjoy conversations with gay men. However, it always seems I'm discriminated against because of...something I can't define. Is it my gender? For example, my father's gay friends are always friendly with my brother (who hardly speaks to them, since he's 13 and shy) but will make a grimace if I join the room/conversation. Why could that be?

Answer 1

Most gay men I know do not act like you are describing. I have a question though - have you examined your own personality? Not judging you or anything but I act like that when a person I can't stand comes into the room. Maybe you take over a conversation. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I would try to examine your behavior or attitude before your asking if it is your sexuality.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are talking about, yet it is difficult to describe. Many gay men are very friendly accepting and cordial towards women. Then there is that OTHER energy that can emerge, which is hostile, rejecting, mocking and even misogynistic. There is not way to tell which crowd you are entering, AND that crowd will change depending upon who is present. That is, if a dominant personality is in the room who has "issues" with women and enjoys taking it out on women around him now, then less assertive personalities may defer to him. The SAME men and even the dominant misogynist, may be very friendly in a one-on-one conversation.
What I have found to work:
Don't expect gay men to like you. Some of them have been hurt by women just as blacks have been hurt by whites.

DO expect to be treated with dignity and do not take any dumping on you.

DO cultivate a sense of humor and give as good as you get.

DO ask if you are busting in on a guys-only scene, or with a wink ask if they would rather be alone. This type of humor often diffuses any lingering negativity that is being misplaced in your direction.

DO try and be understanding...if you are bi, you might be able to understand how a room of lesbians might feel if a man just joined them in a conversation, right?

Awesome question.

Answer 3

They don't dislike the company of women, BUT, women are women and men... men... even though, they're gay, they're still men.
You don't share the same interests and they might feel a little off when a woman comes into the conversation, but hey, it's not that they don't like you, it's just that gay men are a little more special than stright men, it's a combination of man and woman, hard to explain.
One thing you could try is just go along with their conversation and make it seem interesting and appealing to you... Act as if you're interested in gay men's lifestyle, they'll like you right away =]

Answer 4

it may be that, eventhough you are bi, you may not understand what he is saying. it also depends on how much pride you ahow. I'm a lot closer to my gay guy friend, then any of my bi friends, just because he understands me more.

wait for a day when your brother is not around and start a conversation with him. try to talk to him about you being bi, how hard it is for you; this will let him see that you understand what he's going through.

not all gay men are like this though. My best friend is a gay guy, he's like a brother to me. It may be an age difference, how many years older is he than you?

Answer 5

Most gay men I've hung out with had no problem hanging out with me (lesbian). I don't think I ever met a gay man who had a problem with women - staright or gay.
Have you ever said something or done something that could have been misconstrued as a sexual move?
You may be more sensitive about the guys accepting you.
Have you ever mentioned to them or your dad that you feel slightly out of place? Sometimes we can clear up a misunderstanding just by talking about it -- i hope that's all it is.

Answer 6

It may have to do with the fact that you are bisexual. Many gay men don't seem to understand that. Most of my gay male freinds love to be around women but then there is not sexual question there either.

Answer 7

I've noticed that many gay men LOVE the company of women as many are trying to imitate women's behavior. The more they are around women, they more they imitate your actions. Imitation is the highest compliment.

Gay men LOVE women just as women love their women friends. A gay guy will go out with a woman the same way a woman will go out with another woman...just "girls" hanging out. Gays love it but get nervous if there is any sexual connotation.

Answer 8

It could be that you maybe trying too hard to be friends with them or they as individuals, and not as representatives of the whole gay community, don't like interacting with females. Look people are either nice or they aren't nothing more. Find other gay men that love chatting and having female friends - most gay men love their fag hags.

Answer 9

What are you on? i'm a gay lady and that i like adult males. i've got not regular any gay lady dislike adult males, gay or no longer, and it bugs the crap out of me whilst people say gay women hate adult males. it is an incorrect stereotype. yet particular you're authentic, there is not any explanation why we could continuously immediately like gay adult males. whether, we are on a similar "area" and that's sensible to be united with our LGBT sisters and bro's. as nicely, gay adult males (and girls) tend to have the main marvelous personalities, who does no longer pick to be friends with them?? :o)

Answer 10

A lot of women find gay men challenging. They think they can "convert" them with their womanly "charms". It is very annoying. If it happens often enough, they may be suspicious of any woman who wants to join in their conversations uninvited.