How was your heart broken? How quickly did it mend? Are you ok now?

Answer 1

This will take a while so take a bathroom break now.

Kay, it started 4 years ago. I met this girl at my new school. She was nice, and we ended up being best friends. But you see, I was naive back then, very naive. She'd do bad things, bad things best friends aren't suppose to do. She had no respect for my privacy, she'd push me around, she always made me follow her around and do what she wanted and she'd tell me things like, "don't come looking for me, its embarrassing." "You're wasting your time drawing, nobody liked them anyway." "Guys don't like you, but if you stick with me, I'll make sure they do." But she didn't, in fact she did the opposite. She'd always make me feel guilty when ever I didn't do what she said. This carried on for 2 years, then when I started high school, I met this guy.

It was all down hill from there.

Here is what she did in chronological order
1. Tell everybody
2. Tell him
3. Make sure he'd never like me
4. Try to turn me against him *and I went along with it because I didn't want to upset her*
5. Rub it in my face when he got a girlfriend
6. Make me feel like a obsessed fangirl when he broke up with her.

At the beginning of the 4th year, I finally realize what she’s doing, and when I start standing up for myself, and tell her what she’s doing and how it makes me feel, she turns into MEGA B***H. She was so convinced that I only cared about myself, and told me dumb things like, "you said your self that over the summer, you'd get over him, you said!" At the time, I was not focusing on the guy, in fact, she had spent almost the whole 4th year trying her hardest to completely turn me against him, harder than ever!


Here is where it gets good, the story that is, in my case bad.

In comes the new girl, tall, blonde, pretty, and a deceiving b***h who likes manipulating people just as much as the first one. Now, I don't want to mention any names, and since there are 2 girls I'm talking about now, well call the first friend b1 and the second one b2.

So here’s the deal, b1 misses the first 2 weeks of the new school year because she was still over seas on her summer vacation. So I'm here, hanging out with 2 other friends *of b1, but they're not important to the story* and b2. I became good friends with b2, in fact she was like the white version of me, or I was the black version of her, which ever sounds better to you. We did lots together but not much of that time when b1 finally came back from her vacation. We even recorded a video for a Halloween contest together. It was awesome, until..

At this point, I had become friends with that guy I liked, we had patched things up from the previous year and it was all good. We were buddies.

I’m also that type

..I found out that b2 liked the same guy as me. Here is what happened

1. B1 screwed my chances of ever being with him and I’m not allowed to date until I’m 16, so I never asked him out
2. b1 and b2 became best friends and b1 took b2’s side, even though b2 hadn’t been around for more than 3 months at the time
3. b1 is a b***h and thought b2 deserved the guy more than me, which was why she tried to get me to hate him even more *but I didn’t*
4. b2 was afraid of me because I’m the type of person who sits through Texas Chainsaw Massacre laughing. Therefore resorting to asking him out behind my back
5. I fully knew
6. I’m a perfect attendance student so she didn’t know when she could have done
7. I went on a class trip one day, a class she wasn’t in, and asked a few of my other friends to keep an eye on her
8. She noticed so she didn’t have the guts to ask him out knowing that I knew.
9. I caught her flirting with him, confronted her, and we got in a b***h fight.
10. I won and she gave up on him

It doesn’t end there, oh no. you see, I was still friends with b1, even though I knew she had taken b2’s side and lost my trust a long time ago. I didn’t want to cause any more trouble because I was too busy thinking of a way of killing b2 in her sleep for completely betraying my trust by:
1. Lying to me
2. Asking the guy I like out behind my back

I stopped hanging out with b1 because she obviously liked b2 more than me, and kept me at the side for some pushing around every now and then.

During the Winter break, after Christmas, b1 invited me to a sleep over along with another friend. She said it was just for fun, to come hang out with friends. I played along. I had brought my sketch book to draw in before we all went to sleep, in it a drawing I did of me holding a knife to b2’s neck.

About half an hour into the sleep over, b2 shows up, and b1 convinces her to stay. I tell b2 “as long as you don’t try to write on my face while I’m asleep, I don’t care if you’re here or not.” She asks “Why would you even think I’d do that?” “I don’t trust you, you know that.”

While I’m downstairs having a snack with the other friend when b2 comes down stairs. “I saw what you drew.”

1. We start arguing
2. B1 takes b2’s side
3. They both back me into a corner to b***h slap me
4. Other friend tries to stop them
5. They trash my stuff
6. B1 kicks me out of her house and throws out all my stuff after me, its well past midnight.

That’s how my heart breaks.

Results:

1. lowered self esteem, leading to bulimia
2. feelings of extreme stupidity for putting up with all that
3. Reasoning for never having a boyfriend, b1.
4. Everyone hating b1 and b2 for being b***hes

It took a while to mend, and I’m okay now.

Here’s the deal:
1. started hanging out with my real friends who had tried to make me realize everything that was going on
2. b1 and b2 are on my hit list, and they know it, they now completely fear me
3. I’ve gotten a lot closer with that other friend
4. Me and the guy are buddies again, and he forgave my b***hy behavior because he know why now, and hates b1 and b2 for it.
5. B1 became a ****, and sleeps around with 9th graders
6. I remember what happy is.

Answer 2

My heart was broken Xmas 2005. I found out that my now ex had been having an affair with his sisters best friend. I was devistated. I truly thought that my life had ended. What made it worse for me is that I lived 300 miles away from my whole family.I truly felt alone. It all changed when I was visiting my family for a bit of time out and I bumped into an old school friend. He could'nt belive how I had changed as by this point I was withdrawn and a shadow of the girl that he knew at senior school ( the reality was that the 7 yrs I had spent with my ex where hell, I just loved him so much I could'nt see it) I promised to keep in touch and returned back to my house down south. After several tearfull phone calls to my old pal he told me he was sending me money to get the train and the hell away from the situation I had found myself in.I left all my possesions and left. I felt no sadness, I was liberated !
I had a few wild nights up north, hooked up with old friends and went on plenty of dates and now a year and a half later I am engaged to a wonderfull bloke who is nothing at all like my ex. The ex ? he's still with the ***** who split us up but from what I hear they are always broke, to the point where he has to wait until he can scrape together enough money to pay maitenance for our child. Aww, the things you do for true love eh !!!!!

Answer 3

I've had my heart broken 3 times. Lived through each one. On average they lasted me about 6 months to a year. Can you believe what a slow healer I am? I came to the conclusion though that I deserved to have it broken 3 times because I kept falling for the same type of guy. So it was no wonder. I finally learned though and chose a totally different type that is very very good to me......8 yrs of marriage now. So my answer is YES I'm ok now.

Answer 4

My husband and I are separated and have been for year, we haven't seen other people up until a week ago, when I went to his house and there was another women there. I couldn't believe it and I said I am is wife, she says I don't think so.He made me leave and told me he would call the police if I came back. I didn't know and didn't see this coming. He has not return any calls or emails and I have had no contact and no answers of any kind. I hope I mend soon and no I am not ok,

Answer 5

Oh, honey... yes, my heart has been broken, mended and broken again. The worst was when a man I was so madly in love with left me for another MAN. That took a long time to wrap my head around and get over.

The one thing to remember, as I sit here happily married for 20 years, is that there IS that one special someone out there for you. My father told me, "every pot has a lid, even weird pots have matching lids" and it's so true.

You have to have courage to try again, not be frightened, learn to trust. It takes time, but in the long run it's more than worth it when you find that gentle man who has ALSO had HIS heart broken so many times. You can lift each other up and find magic.

Kahlil Gibran said that you "have to have your heart absolutely empty to know what it feels like to be full".
((((hugs)))

Answer 6

My heart was broken by my first love, he failed to realise that love is about making sacrifices. It took me 2 years to mend by broken heart and until this very day, I'm still in pain but not for letting him go, but for the fact that i should have seen it coming. Nonetheless after all that pain i learned my lesson.

Answer 7

my heart was broken on Christmas day over three years ago, by a cheating husband who left me for the other woman. it never did mend, it has gotten easier, but only time and getting ones self worth back helps, to get ones self worth back one has to face the truth about the person who did the hurting, and accept it. i am okay now, but it left me with scars, left me a bit jaded, and unable to fully trust, as i once did. it is usually not the initial deed that breaks the heart but the lies, deceit, cover ups and blaming of the brokenhearted one that causes the heartbreak. only my faith got me through this, and the help of some good people, and being able to talk about it.

Answer 8

my heart was broken but i eventually moved on and i am now married to an amazing person. I have to be honest and say i still think about the other person now despite being totally happy with someone new. I think being so badly hurt allows you to appreciate love in the long run. Time heals almost everything, eventually.

Answer 9

I have treated loads of people with a broken heart, every one left smiling. Find a TFT or Thought Field Therapy practitioner in your area. They can fix this really quickly, no probs, sometimes even in minutes. Even Paul McKenna has started using it because its so fast!! Some people call it the tapping therapy!

Good Luck

Answer 10

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Answer 11

my x cheated on me,with loads of girls,a male friend who worked with him told me,my heart was broken,it was my first love,i felt worthless,unloved,cryed myself to sleep at night..my hearts mending slowly,i still now,after 3 yrs,get upset and sometimes sadly emotional..id like to think my hearts healed,but in a strange way it still feels raw.