My ex (kids father) & his g/f live w/me. My daughter slept in bed w/them today. When i went in to put laundry in their room i noticed she was topless & I am pissed. Is that a form of sexual abuse if my kids see another womans ****? I think its disgusting
2007-03-10 08:23:50 · 23 answers · asked by missy e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Me & him were living together when he met her. He let her move in. We cant afford to get our own apartments. They are expensive.
2007-03-10 09:36:31 · update #1
my daughter is 2half. I put their laundry in room cuz it was left in dryer, & I was doing mine & my kids laundry.
Another thing besides not having money for own apt. I am trying to get my own. Its hard, but he threatens me. Like he will call welfare take them away& he'd get custody(stuff thats not true & he says they will believe him).
2007-03-10 09:42:41 · update #2
I have a REAL problem with this whole scenario. You need to move out , yesterday! Your daughter does not need to be subjected to the lifestyle you're subjecting her to. Yes, you ought to be real pissed...at yourself!
2007-03-10 08:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you may need to revisit the situation you put yourself in and how it might not be fitting your Comfort level. While there maybe a logical explaination of her toplessness ( I have a bad habit of getting hot & flinging it off in my sleep & wake up suprised). I would calm down, have a chat with your ex and say how you really would appreciate your children not having so much Skin exposure and would she mind covering up. If it is blatent then I might make it clear to the GAL that you all just want what's best for the kids and their not ready for that. And as long as she's living there .....there are decency rules. Maybe if you take a Calmer more Adult approach til you can MOVE them out.....you might get a better response. I'd also make sure you talk to your kids about things and see if they can shed any discomfort about it or anything inappropriate.
2007-03-10 08:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have way too many questions for you. 1 why is your ex living with you, and then why is his GF there too?? If you were putting laundry in their room, did you do their laundry?? If so WHY?2 Why is one of your children sleeping in the same bed, as they are, (thats just wrong), and NO, they should not be seeing any part of her body undressesd!!!You must kick out your ex, or find another place for you and your children to live!!!!
2007-03-10 08:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should get the kid out of that house, there is no way that living wiht mom, dad and dad's girlfriend can be good for him or her. Think about it like you should do things like this.... Does that seem normal? If not you should remedy the situation because there is a reason things like that are not normal. It causes children to be maladaptive and will cause confusion about how things should work. The issue is not that she was topless in front of your child, it is that the child has to live thru in a total mess of a situation.
2007-03-10 08:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by n0tsan3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your ex and also to his girl friend about being topless infront of your daughter. However it does not seem to be any form of sexual abuse. Talk to your daughter as well and get everything clearified. You should take your decision only after knowing all the details and there is nothing fruitful coming out of only by worring about the situation. Be bold and positive. Find out solution of a problem as every problem has a beautiful solution. There is nothing to piss.
2007-03-10 09:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pramod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just being a lil jealous towards the whole thing that its your ex's girl. Its understandable. Now my thing is, how in the hell did you all end up in a situation where you all have an orgy type of family. How come she even live with you? How come he is being your ex still there around you? If he have a partial custody over your kid then he can have it but outside of your personal and private premises? What is really going on in your household? And yes it is a lil weird that she is nude in front of your child. It can in some way effect they way child grow up and how his or hers (you never told us gender) behavior develop in a future when they grow up. You definitely dont want your child to develop sexually earlier then he, or especially she, need to.
2007-03-10 08:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not abuse but depending on the age of your daughter it is inappropriate. It's an unusual living situation, maybe you need to make clear your rules and boundaries so that nothing similar happens again.
2007-03-10 08:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not seeing another woman's breasts. You guys shouldn't live together. PERIOD. That should be obvious. That environment is not suitable for a child.
Next time post a picture of the bare breasts in question. THX
2007-03-11 09:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by guylookin4fun06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!!!!! WHY? What are you thinking. Get them out and tell her to put some clothes on. Weird situation and not healthy for the kids either!
2007-03-10 08:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's disgusting. Tell your ex to tell his girlfriend to keep her clothes on in front of your daughter.
2007-03-10 13:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋