i don't know what to do?

Question

my parents are divorced, and i just don't know how to deal with it, because i only see my dad, sister and two other brothers everyother weekend, and im with my mom every time else with my younger brother. i just don't know how to deal with it. my emotions are all out of wack. i like someone one minute, and the next, they get me all angry and all. i just don't know!! :'(

im close to neither my mom nor dad. i fell like a nobody

i am 15...............

Answer 1

All children of divorce and even some grown children of divorced parents have these conflicting feelings. If your parents have adjusted to the situation and are stable, ask them to help you work things out (talk things out). If that doesn't seem like an option, find a teacher or school counselor to talk it out with. I was told once the only way to be through with a problem was to work through the problem. It is a strength to ask someone to help you work through it.

Answer 2

Sometimes things seem out of our control and that can be frustrating and difficult. How to bring things back into control is do all that you can do about a situation.
For example, what can you do about this situation? Probably talk to your parents about how you feel...brainstorm with them options of that to do, consider with your parents about a plan where you could live in both homes alternating back and forth.
Whatever happens, practice doing it for awhile to give it a fair chance of working. then, after a long while if it still does not work, then go back to trying something else on your list.

Answer 3

I went throught that too when my parents divorced. I woke up to my mom gone and my dad, who is a big guy btw, crying at the edge of my bed.
It's a tought thing to go through, but you just have to make the best of it. I know this sounds bad, but there isn't really anything you can do. Make sure you have a friend you understands and will talk with you. It's a rough time and you don't want to keep all your emotions bottled up, trust me. I did that and it all just exploded one day.
If you need to talk email me...

Answer 4

You should try talking to your parents. I don't mean talk to one and then the other, have them both sit down and tell them. Maybe they can change around your schedule so you see your dad/brothers/sister more often. I'm sure your parents only want the best for you. Besides, sometimes just letting it out helps.

Keep holding on.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a really difficult situation. I can tell you are serious and not just asking a goofy question. I'm not sure what I can do to help you, but I'll try to offer some advice and I promise to pray for you.
I don't know how old you are but, I'm an adult and I have gone through divorce as a husband. I know it had a terrible effect on my daughter. She always seemed to be caught in the middle. I used to tell her not to take sides but she found it hard not to. I told her that her mother and I were both right and both wrong. I think she felt like it was all her fault and that she had to defend me to her mother. I could see her pain and felt helpless to do anything good about it.
I always tried to let her know that she was not to blame and that it wasn't her job to fix things. I learned to listen to her and not give her answers. She needed to talk, to let out her feelings, especially her anger. Eventually she agreed to go to a counseller and she started to get the help she needed. Now she is all grown up and she is a strong successful woman. I think the suffering she had back then made her stronger, better. But, the truth is, I wish she never had to go thru all that.
I think your parents must feel the same way. Maybe you should tell one of them how you really feel and see if they can't help you feel better. I suggest you ask each of them, seperately to talk with you about something very important and personal. Then just tell them how you feel. Try to avoid talking about what they have done until they understand that you need to talk about yourself.
If they just can't do it, then you should try to find a responsible adult who is easy to talk to. But, please avoid strangers. A teacher, or minister, school counseller... Someone like that. If you can't find anyone on your own, ask your parents to send you to a qualified counsellor. I really think you would feel a whole lot better if you could just let it all out.
One thing my daughter did that she says helped a lot; she started keeping a journal. She would lay in bed at night and write down everything that came to mind. I know this helps because I do it myself.
Last I have to tell you what is most important for me to do when I have big troubles. I talk to God. He doesn't answer but I pour my heart oit to Him and somehow, it always helps.
And know this, someone out here cares. I feel your anguish and torment. You are number one on my prayer list.
One last thing, no matter how bad things get, they will not stay that way forever. Things will get better. I pray that things get better for you right now.

Answer 6

Uh, just try to deal with it sorry, you'll proably get used to it. I'm sorry for your parents though, and sorry for you. I hope that you see better days, everyone deserves at least that, and you will, everyone has their up and down moments in life. Hey, try making some friends, my friends are always their for me, maybe it'll work for you. I wish for the best for you, and keep going strong. You'll get through this, trust me, the world may seem bad, but it can't stay like that, it's just not possible, so just get through this storm, and you'll be fine.

Answer 7

This is a hard situation that you are in. I don't think that it will be happy being separated from your family. But in time your situation will be more accustomed to you or you will adapt to the change. Drastic life changes are not easy on anyone. So i suggest that you be strong for yourself and the rest of your siblings cause its probably effecting them as well.

Answer 8

Maybe it's possible to arrange to see your dad, sister, and other two brothers more? Would it help calling them? (or chating to them)

Does your mom know that you miss them so much?

Good luck with things.

Answer 9

well first my parents are proply going to get a divorce too ... and here is how to deal with it... whoever is the closest to u meaning the one you trust and can tell anything... telll how you are feeling about it ,do not worry your parents will understand