My brother in law is a meth addict and lost his house a few years ago. My husband and I let him put his stuff in our garage. It's totally full! My husband's den has become our storage. He has 2 junk cars in my driveway and my back patio is full to the brim with his belongings. I have told him 4 times over the last 2 years to get his stuff out and he ignores me. I've given him ultimatums and he doesn't care. My husband is fed up and wants to at least get rid of the cars and the stuff on the back patio. I agree, but it seems wrong to just give his stuff away. (He's sober now and lives with a very well off man, and he has a job). How many chances do I give him? Oh yeah, we are expecting our first baby and need to declutter our house. Also legal ramifications?
2007-03-10 08:14:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You write him a letter, make a copy of that letter, and make sure that you state in your letter that you have asked him numerous times in the past 2 years to come get his belongings. Give him a sufficient amount of time to retrieve his belongings, and if he does not get them when the time is up. HAVE A YARD SALE, You will probably have ot have the cars towed, without the title you cannot sale them.
But always check with a lawyer to make sure that you have gone by the letter of the law. He can be forced to get his belongings. It has been long enough, he either needs to get them or you throw them away......take pictures of all his stuff in your yard, make extra copies to give to him, you keep a set
hope you get your yard cleaned up
2007-03-10 08:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of your own immediate family first. I agree with your husband. It is time to get rid of the junk. I would let your brother in law know that if he hasn't picked up his junk by noon on Friday that you will be having it hauled away to the junkyard. You have given him more than enough time and a court of law would agree with you. He can have his well off friend rent him a storage facility instead of using the room you and your husband need for your new baby.
2007-03-10 08:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you not followed through with your ultimatums before? He may not take you seriously or he may really not care. Set a date for a garage sale and tell him you will be selling all of his things if he does not take it away. If he hasn't taken the stuff by the date of the garage sale sell it. Not the cars, there are title issues that I don't know about.
2007-03-10 08:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this by the numbers to cover your ***. Ask a lawyer what your rights are and if you can throw away all of his crap if he doesn't come pick it all up by a set date. Don't tolerate negative behavior. He is like this because you ALLOW him to be this way with you.
My ex-girlfriend's sister pulled this crap on her. My ex's apt. and car was full of her sister's stuff. The trunk in her Corolla was at max capacity. That stuff was in there for about a year. I told her sis she has a week to pick it all up or I'm dumping it all. Guess what. I ended up dumping it all. She was pissed but my ex was happy to have her apt. car, and sanity back.
2007-03-10 08:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yea Yea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, call one of those high school help groups that take old cars and fix them up and give them to peopel that need them..and you an use that as a tax deduction..then the rest of the crap..have a big *** garage sale...price it all low, who cares its not your stuff, and you'll be making a bit of extra money for when the baby gets there....No legal ramifications..he abandoned the stuff years ago.
2007-03-10 08:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? I think you have given him enough chances! Get those cars out of there to send a message that you guys will not take it anymore! Get the cars out and then tell him he has 1 month to get the rest out or you will start throwing it out! Send it to him in registered letter,and a phone call! You should be very angry.
2007-03-10 08:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, he has abandoned his property, you have the right to dispose of it, write him a letter, telling him he has one week to clear out his belongings or they will be hauled off, and he will be presented the bill, if he does not respond, then have property disposed of, and take him to small claims court, for the fees to have junk removed.
2007-03-10 08:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay an attorney to write him a letter demanding he remove his property by a certain date, if he doesn't do it call the Salvation Army and they'll come out and get all his "junk".
2007-03-10 08:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter telling him to remove his items from your residence within 30 days or you will consider them yours to dispose of. Have it notarized. Then do it. If he needs help in moving the items to another location, then offer whatever assistance you are able to.
2007-03-10 08:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like since it is your husband's brother, that he needs to do the talking. It's his family in a sense, and he needs to stand up to him and stand up for you and your future family.
2007-03-10 08:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋