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A lot of times when a man asks his girlfriend/wife for sex she makes up some excuse to get out of it like a head ache or she just plain says no. So if its such a hassel for women then why don't they just let their husbands and boyfriends sleep with other women? Its known that men need more sex then women, so it would kill two birds with one stone, men get what they want and women get more time for themselves. As long as both people get tested for diseases and kept safe, I don't see what the problem is. I really don't see a drawback here.

Why would women object to their boyfriend/Husband being pleasured and given something wonderful even if its not from them?

2007-03-10 07:57:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Its called control....there are lots of women like that....but also men fall into that category as well....I dont think it is common knowledge that men need sex more so than women....If you enjoy sex man or woman then you will do it as often as you enjoy it. Women, I think, still hang onto age-old beliefs that sex is something you give your husband and I guess thats the reason a lot of women will withold sex when they are angry with their husband....We may have come a long way, but for some women, not far enough because they still view sex as a chore...something that pleases their husband, but not themselves.

I agree with you....if your partner does not enjoy sex, yet they know you do, then they should expect you are not going to put up with it for long. I think its dreadful actually.....a wonderful sexual relationship with your husband keeps the marriage alive. This is just one example.....a man married at 19 because his then girlfriend of 16(well, only 1 of 3) fell pregnant...he stepped up to the plate....was pressured by his mother to marry this girl.....gave his wife everything, his dreams were dashed, he ended up working in the mines so he could earn good money to support his family....he was a boy doing a man's job. She would make demands and he would fullfill them. The last baby popped out and the intimacy stopped....no more sex...so he was 23, when most young guys were experimenting and enjoying sex and he was getting none. For 30 years he lived like this.....he found a woman, fell in love and the wife found out about it...she begged him to stay and said she would kill herself if he left...he stayed out of guilt and responsibility....she still called the shots, but he couldnt be without love any longer so he kept on seeing this woman...the wife found out about her again, and the same emotional blackmail tricks were used...he stayed....she became quite attentive to her husband, and as much as she tried, and as much as she tried to be sexy, he just couldnt "get it up". Anyway, when the wife was certain the other woman was out of the picture, she didnt even try anymore....just went back to the way it used to be...she won......she maintained her control.....she knew she couldnt satisfy her husband and she caught him masturbating one day and told him how disgusting he was and that he was dirty.....so the point I am trying to make is.....she didnt want him to have another woman....she knew she couldnt satisfy him.....she was never really interested in sex anyway and she didnt want him to masturbate.....so it shows that she only wanted him for her own purposes......to feel in control....to have control of another human being......She was an absolute control freak......thats not love, and probably the same reason why so many women withhold sex from their husband/partner...in an effort to control.....If more men grew some balls and made these women responsible for their behaviour then maybe women would be a bit more attentive to their husband....or at the very least make them responsible for the outcome of what refusing their husband will cause....Maybe if more women didnt rant and rave and say "how could you" when they find their husbands have found someone else, but instead look at the reasons why and take half of the blame for the situation, then maybe the situation would not have arisen in the first place. I know there are exceptions to this and people cheat for all sorts of reasons....but the majority of men/women cheat because their needs are not being met by their spouse. What makes it worse is that the women/men know they are not satisfying, yet do nothing to try and change it, then when their spouse cheats they have no-one to blame but themselves.

2007-03-10 08:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 2 0

Ask yourself would you agree to let to let her sleep with some else when your not around. Would that be a ideal set up for you. Say, your gone on a week on your job traveling is it okay with you if she goes and gets boyfriend to come and stay that week and have sex until you get back, would it be okay?. You would be gone and why can't she be pleasured with another man while your gone , she'd stay satisfied until you got back home. That would kill two bird with one shot your side of the bed is empty she fills with her choice of men and when you get back ,you get your side of the bed back, just a problem solved.

Would you sign a agreement with her that when she doesn't want sex you can go have sex with your old girlfriend , but during the day or when aren't available she has whom she wants to come over and have sex. You meet each other coming and going out the door ,smile shake hands and call it a day. Just say to each how are you today, is she still in bed.

2007-03-10 16:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1 0

I don't know who told you that men need more sex than women. I think probably your are just an ignorant fool and "heard" it from the street instead of actually caring to learn about it.

A woman could have more time for herself and her mate if her lazy *** mate would get off the pc and help her around the house and with the kids that HE help create. Also, it might help the woman if 50% of the men who ask this sort of question would just get at least a part-time JOB, let alone a full-time one.

I also agree with the one who said you are probably lame in the sack. Sex is more to a woman than just getting your d*ck wet. Try satisfying her, which also includes emotionally.

Also, try to pull your **** out of the dark ages. Get a little education. It should at least help with your spelling problem.

2007-03-10 16:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

I hope you're not serious when you ask this question!
How would you feel if your women got sex from another guy?
This is simple when you deside to be in a relationship with one person, then you should only have sex with that one person. If you want it all the time and you are not getting it, then you need to talk to your girlfriend/spouse about that. If your not happy with just having sex with one person then dont be in a relationship.

2007-03-11 16:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nina1 1 · 2 0

She's probably making up excuses to get out of it because you are lame in the sack, dude. Take a hint. Or she will decide to look for someone who can last longer than 2 minutes.

2007-03-10 16:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2 0

grow up. if you think its going to be easy to find a woman to let you sleep around on them then your dreaming.
Being married and intimate with the one you love is why she wouldn't want you to be with someone else. Maybe the married man should make the lovemaking more enjoyable for his wife and in turn he'll have more of it.

2007-03-10 16:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 2 0

Because it's gross. You don't know where this other woman has been, who she's has sex with other than you, and you don't know what kinds of diseases she may be carrying. There's also the matters of loyalty, fidelity, and love. If you're not getting what you want from someone, do both of you a favor. I'm sure your lady would rather you break up with her rather than give her gonnorhea.

2007-03-10 16:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by kdd_angel 3 · 3 1

i think its because some men do it and leave or treat their spouses/gf badly afterwards due to guilt or getting an std or a girl prego or whatever...or he may treat his gf/spouse poorly because he thinks she might do the same to him. my mom went years perceiving that my dad 'might' be having an affair.
it was only until the woman told my mom in a letter that my mom filed for divorce. i wonder, had my dad treated my mom better tho he had an affair...would they still be together?
most people dont tolerate truth as well as they tolerate perceptions. peace

2007-03-10 16:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think y'all have missed his point. Basically he's saying ..... put out when a man wants it or don't BlTCH if he gets it elsewhere. Or,,to even let him get it elsewhere. I find it a valid point in the when you date someone it's hot and heavy. Two yrs into marriage, she whines around makes excuses, her time of the month is every other week. It's like we've been tricked into thinking we're going to get it as good as the first yr for the rest of our life.??????????? What's up there ladies?

2007-03-10 16:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by David J 2 · 0 2

If you have to ask this question you are one disturbed human being! Would you mind if she got pleasured somewhere else?

2007-03-10 17:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha C 2 · 0 0

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