My friend from university got engaged at Christmas. My fiance and I got engaged in Oct 05. We have booked our wedding for 26th July 2008.
My friend said tht they were getting married in Aug 2009. However, all of a sudden she has told me that she is now getting married in summer next year - like me! We are both teachers and therefore have to get married during the summer hols. She said she had found a reception for the weekend after mine and aks me when me and my fiance would be on our honeymoon? Of course I answered yes we would, as he has already booked time off work. They cheeckliy enough she then asks if I could delay it for 2 weeks so I could go to her wedding!!! What 'friend' tries to book their wedding straight after your own then expects you to delay your honeymoon.
The funniest thing was that I said why dont you have your on the 16th Aug, we would be back from our honeymoon then. She then replied cheekily "Yeah but that doesnt leave much time for a honeymoon!" What u think?
2007-03-10 07:44:46 · 14 answers · asked by Fairy Dust :*:*: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well why don't you just drop everything you were planning as well as all that you were doing so "your friend" can keep her plans and her agenda will remain nice and tight and cozy. This sound like a good story line for the new show "Wedding Bells". Possibly even "Bridezilla". This friend seems like she undermines everything you are trying to plan for youself. She's cheeky all right with a large ammount of nerve thrown in to boot. Why is it that she would change her plans so suddenly as to coincide with what you are doing? Can't she plan her own wedding without borrowing your ideas? So how important is this friendship to you anyway? Is there anyay that you could possibly have a wedding of your own design withouther trying to rewrite your schedule? Wow! You have your own wedding plans you take care of without worrying about how to manage a second one. Weddings are tough enough to deal with without taking on another one. Especially in such a close time frame. You had yours all set up before she came up with these plans that intruded on you. Like all of a sudden you have to change your plans so they will fit her program. Make you wonder if should have told her anything at all. But hey, friendship is friendship no matter how one sided it is yeah? Just see how long this friendship can last if you are determined to carry out what you wanted to do from the beginning. You probably should too even though you seem more of the type of person who would try to accomodate for the sake of a frienship. Still there is enough time so maybe something can be worked out.
2007-03-10 08:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go ahead with your wedding. if she wants you their bad enough she will work around YOUR scheduel because YOU have already made reservations. don't delay your honeymoon, you only get married once(hopefully) and you need to do what you want that day. Weddings are all about you and your hubby. good luck!
2007-03-10 15:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree if she truley a good friend, she wouldn't of asked you to delay yours, she should pick another date so you could be there without delaying any of your honeymoon plans. That's the real meaning of a friendship put your friend before yourself during any of the same circumstances.
2007-03-10 15:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by LADONNA A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is only thinking about herself and being very selfish.
Have your wedding, go on your honeymoon and don't worry about your friend if that's what you want to call her. A true honest friend would have sense enough to know that you already have all your plans.
Congratulations, god bless,good luck.
2007-03-10 15:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you don't have a very good friend. It doesn't sound like she has much respect for you and your fiance ether. tell her all the tell her that you rather no put your honeymoon off for two week. Then you need to disused what is in importune.
2007-03-10 16:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by C.K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your un-friend is trying to steal you thunder. Go on your honemoon for pete-sake!
Send her a note of regret and a $20 gift card to Target or somewhere.....then she should get the message.
She is rude and inconsiderate. You should be in the market for a new friend!
2007-03-10 15:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a twit. Why do you want to go to her wedding anyway? Tell her you have your plans and if she wants to schedule her wedding during your honeymoon, I say "oh well". Afterall, you had your plans set first.
2007-03-10 15:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Adara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead with your scheduled plans. Don't give it a second
thought. Good luck to you and your fiance and have fun on
your honeymoon.
2007-03-10 15:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by karonj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just being a bit selfish and inconsiderate, nothing more and nothing less. Go ahead with your plans, either she'll fit round you or she won't. Either way the day is about you and your husband, not anyone else.
2007-03-10 15:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nutjob, but what are you gonna do? Just plan your wedding like you started, and if you can make it to hers, good. If not, it's her fault.
2007-03-10 15:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋