Has this ever happened to someone before?

Question

Me ex broke up with me and I am pregnant. He moved 20 hours away. He knew I was pregnant when he left. We are young, 22 & 23. Been together for awhile, lived together. Engaged before baby. He thought I was dating someone else and flipped out, I told him I wasn't. Now he tells me that he started "talking" to another girl...already..haven't even been broken up a month. I am busy with getting my babys room ready but I still want him to come to his senses. He moved with his father who deserted him when he was a child. Has this ever happened to someone before? I am trying to move on but its hard when I have a part of him growing inside of me. I really do love him and would never get back with him just because of the baby. He said that towards the end we fought too much, well, I'm pregnant.

Answer 1

The person growing inside of you is a part of you too, but more so this baby growing inside of you will be an individual....he/she will be the person you raise it to be. A child can thrive without one parent....as long as the child has one loving parent....of course it would be better to raise a child with both parents...but if one of the parents are there out of responsibility only then the child will pick up on it and will grow up with a really warped idea of his/her own self worth and about love in general. The father of the child has shown his true colours....he is not committed to you and the baby, so how about you forget that its a part of him growing inside of you and concentrate on the individual you are going to raise....concentrate on what a wonderful mother you are going to be....and just be thankful that he showed his true colours before you got married. You will be able to devote a lot more time to your baby without him in the picture because if he was around you would be probably trying to raise 2 children instead of one. A man accepts his responsibilities....a boy will run away from them. I dont believe any couple should be together for the sake of a child, and if he doesnt love you, then why would you want him back?

Answer 2

Unfortunately he learned from his father how to run away from responsibility, the truth is , he got scared and fled.. has little to do with the fighting, has little to do with anyone else in the scene .. just the fact that he was going to have to grow up and be a man, and he's not ready at all to do so.. Time to get things in gear, time to contact your states child support enforcement, and start filling out the paper work to have this matter taken care of.. because he's trying to put u and the baby in the past, and he doesnt want to own up to his responsibilities, and he needs to atleast pick up the financial end, and he's going to have to be made to do so, so i suggest getting the state involved cause it costs way to much to get lawyers every time he choses not to pay.. protect ur child, ur child needs more of a father then he is capable of being, like the saying anyone can be a father , takes a special person to be a daddy, and ur child needs the daddy type and he's already shown he is incapable of doing so cause he left his child already..

Good luck.. be picky with the next man u chose dont let losers keep comming into ur life, now its more then just u that has to pay for it, now ur baby will have to pay the consequences of any bad choices u make, so be extremely picky next time around..

Answer 3

that almost happened to me...i have a bf and we've been together for about 11 mos. wen i found out i was pregnant..we wer both 22 then..i told him and well, there's nothing more we can do since the baby is already growing inside me..he went home to his parents for 3 days and never contacted me.i called him to ask if he was avoiding me w/c he denied.(we're not living together by the way).. he went back and we continued as we wer..we kept fighting on and off for the duration of my pregnancy till the day i was admitted to the hospital. a day before that, he told me that we r over. on the day i gave birth, after delivering the baby, i was sent back to my room in the hospital and he was there. he told me to forget wat he said b4 coz he realized that he loves us both. ofcourse i made sure its not just bcoz of the baby that he's staying..u know how it is wen ur pregnant, all those raging hormones and everything w/c made us fyt a lot...anyway, we're both 23 now and the 3 of us r very happy..however, this is not to give u any hope thou...the father of ur child is a jerk in being w/ another woman while ur pregnant w/ his child... he doesnt deserve u both..he'll regret it sumday

Answer 4

My guess is he accused you because he WAS DATING BEHIND YOUR BACK.
Funny how men/women lose trust in their S/O because of their unfaithfulness. Yet they put so much trust in the person they are having the unfaithful affair with. People are morons.

Well congratulations YOUR GOING TO BE A MOTHER! I'm thrilled for you. There is no better gift in this world then a child. Please cherish this child, it truly is a blessing.
But I am sorry to say the father is selfish and still a child himself. He acts as though he could careless that you are with his child. But you should move on, this man would not make a good father. He only thinks of himself. Maybe as time goes on he will learn how to be a GOOD RESPONSIBLE MAN/FATHER. He hasn't grown up yet.

Answer 5

this particular things hasn't happened to me but my ex husband of 10 years all of a sudden "heard" that i was messing around on him, so he left. two weeks later i found out that he was living with my best friend. so if he already is talking to someone, he's probably been talking to her before you broke up. you don't need him. i though my world would end, but it did't. i met a very nice man, we do every thing together and we've been together for 5 years now. as for my ex, my "bestfriend" got on drugs, he kicked her out and she committed suicide. i've talked to him 1 time in 5 years and he seemed miserable. HaHA. just don't let your baby's daddy get by without paying child support. He owes that to the baby, Good luck and keep your head up, there's someone out there that will love you and your baby who will be a great person to you

Answer 6

All politicians blame the previous incumbent for each thing going incorrect and take credit for issues going nicely. that's a actuality of existence. Take the united kingdom as an occasion; Gordon Brown nevertheless blames the Conservative governments of 1979 - 1997 for the subjects of the united kingdom, even nevertheless he ran the monetary gadget as Chancellor of the Exchequer from 1997 to 2007 and is now top Minister. They milk it for all that's well worth. yet do not subject approximately what they say, subject approximately what they do.

Answer 7

Well now, I can't relate to the pregnant part. but from my own experience, I have to wonder if there was something between him and this babe he supposedly just started "talking" to before he moved out. The fighting is probably just an exuse he's giving for his own immature behavior and inability to truly commit. I CAN relate to that part

Answer 8

so sorry to hear of your dilema!
did not happen to me, but my neice.....they kept going back and forth......she had a baby boy.......they got married the following year....but still fight all the time.....he cheats on her.......smokes pot now.....and just dont give a damn......
so........ANY MAN WHO WILL DESERT HIS CHILD......does not deserve a second look......make the dumba$$ pay child support, but that s IT......find a loving man who will treat you and the baby right and you will never regret it........god bless.....

Answer 9

Ask him to go to counseling..
And remember you going to be a parent now so it your child who future is at hand now.
Good Luck to you.