my boyfriend has a child with his ex girlfriend, she has a boyfriend who sees the child but im not allowed to see him, he sees him occasionally but is not allowed overnight contact, she messes him about all the time with visitations and is not allowed to have him on his own...help???
2007-03-10 07:37:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Go to court its the best answer
Have it written out by the courts
Unless your boyfriend has a history of vilolence or abuse there is nothing stopping him having his child once a week for over night contact or every other weekend
she can not dictate to you, as long as he is safe and well looked after during this contact visits
2007-03-10 07:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitation is what is best for the child NOT the adult and partner's NOT in a solid relationship have no right of access. Stop using the child as a battleround if you really have the child's best's interest at heart go to Court
2007-03-10 08:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tapsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as you personally are concerned - you have no rights and no say in the matter at all.
As for the childs father....if he doesn't like the visitation schedule, have him go to court and get what he wants.
All the adults in this matter need to stop using this child as a pawn in some adolescent game of boyfriend/girlfriend nonsense.
2007-03-10 09:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to spell out the visitation! My husband had something like that for visitation and it became in reality on the mercy of his ex. For the first 5 years we said his daughter a good deal (from age 3 - 8). after we were now no longer needed as childcare we did not see her again for about 8 years, no shaggy dog tale. We even employed an legal professional and took her to courtroom (spent thousands and various time over many years) and they did easily no longer something. The courtroom in reality cared that he became paying baby help, no longer if he said his baby. i could in no way tell absolutely everyone to leave it obscure.
2016-12-01 19:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he not allowed overnight contact by court order? Or is there no REAL schedule?
And if there are issues - court would be the best place to solve it.
If y'all are living together - she might be able to prevent over nights - but she would not be able to have her boyfriend sleep over or live there either.
2007-03-10 07:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it all depends on whether it's 'gone' through court!
If not then it's up to the parents to sort it out.
It can be really messy as you both want to see the boy. It really is up to 'mummy' who sees her son.
I suggest if it isn't already gone legal to get your boyfriend to first ask his ex to get visits, if she says no, then go legal. Just remember the child comes first and how he will be affected.
2007-03-10 07:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by declanwoz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-10 07:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by citronge69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. judging by your last question i think the mum has a point, you might be pregnant, the baby might be black, you dont know whose it is, shall you pass it off as the boyfriends???? you obviously havnt been on the scene long, are not stable in your relationship and not that trustworthy, i wouldnt let my kids near you either... i think you have not been with this man long enough to even have an opinion let alone voice it.
2007-03-10 23:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must resolved in a court or by state agencies.
2007-03-10 07:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by sam simeon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋