My good friends know all about me: my insecurities, interests, etc They never make me feel bad about myself, even though they know what they could do to make me hurt: just bring up something i am insecure about or act in such a way regarding something that i am insecure about. if they did, they wouldn't be such great friends, and it wouldjust make me feel bad talking to them.
I have this other friend, who I think is starting to turn on me. Lately he has been doing things he knows would hurt my feelings, and i even got the nerve to ask him, he pretended like he didn't do it or didn't do it to offend me. And lately a lot of the things he's been saying have alluded to something that I have told him I was worried about. I am not sure if he does it consciously, but the last few times I've spoken with him, i have left feeling confused and distanced from him. i didn't understand what he is doing. Prior to this behavior, we had an argument that i thought was settled. NEbody know his deal?
2007-03-10 07:10:31 · 9 answers · asked by erockairheaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know that is vague, but i hope that makes sense.
Please just take my word for it that I sense he is trying to be hurtful, because there were blatant things he did that made me feel more insecure.
2007-03-10 07:13:16 · update #1
If he continues to take this kind of advantage, you need to cut him loose as a friend. Acting that way is an obvious signal that he is not really a friend. He knows well enough to know where your vulnerabilities lie and is hitting you below the belt. Of course, he is doing it consciously. To know you as well as he does, then he would know he was doing wrong as he did the things he did that hurt you and would have stopped short. However, he did not stop. And on more than one occasion. Watch your back, pal! If you ask him about any of these things again and he pretends not to know what you mean, tell him to get real because you are on to his games. You owe it to noone to be their personal door mat!
2007-03-10 07:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 01:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed, you are under psychological attack by that person|
If someone says something or tells a joke that seems innocent on the surface, but somehow you are hurting because of it, chances are you were the target of an attack|
Bullies are very sneaky in knowing a person's vulnerabilities and how best to attack them, often under the radar of conscious awareness (the only part that is conscious is the feeling of hurt that results)|
It is a cowardly form of action by those who love to hurt others, simply because they can|
It is every bit as wrong and malicious as an out and out physical attack|
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2007-03-10 07:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it even worth keeping this person as a friend... I know I'd boot them out on their ear because mates don't do that - and qualities like trying to be hurtful isn't what I look for in friendship. Find a better mate and let the other one go rot.
2007-03-10 07:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by no_fool 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bottom line and with out allot of rhetoric ,,,,, someone who is or has insecurities themselves ,,,, Anyone that would do that to a friend is not a friend at all ,,,, And you definitely need to re-evaluate just how much of a friend this so called friend or friends really are ,,,,,
2007-03-10 10:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a "friend" who you truly believe is trying to be malicious, drop him... simple as that... explain to him, in briefest words why you no longer want contact with him, and than stick to your guns. there are people out there in the world who don't take advantage of others.
i wish you luck!
2007-03-10 07:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by rachel c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing that seems obvious to me is that your argument is probably not settled in his mind if he's honest.
2007-03-10 07:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to remove yourself from this person's control.. because that is what he is trying to do -- control you.
Chalk it up to a learning experience, and terminate the friendship.
2007-03-10 07:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by kelannde 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what kind of person? a falic symbol. a ***********. the kind of person you do not need in you life.
my advice- tell him to get his act together or forget your friendship.
2007-03-10 07:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋