Okay i am 18 yrs old and my bf now hubby just turned 19 yrs old.Both of us are still in highschool but when we thought his family was going to move away we did something drastic 6 months ago.We went with his family to vegas for his grandmothers b-day the two of us snuck out of the hotel walked 3 blocks to a white chapel and got married without telling anyone .Eveything from then on has gone from bad to worse he is failing classes,partying to much and is currently grounded again!We keep fighting over everything too!One of my friends told me last night he hooked up with another girl(showed me a pic) at a party he snuck out too.I am so mad and hurt i have decided to start seeing someone else to make him jealous.Will this make him go back to normal?
2007-03-10 07:10:00 · 16 answers · asked by Katie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We planned on telling our parents after graduation that we were married but now i am not sure?
2007-03-10 07:14:57 · update #1
His grandfather signed it giving him permission and i was 18 yrs old at the time.
2007-03-10 07:17:42 · update #2
How long ago did you turn 18, if it was less than 6 months ago then you didn't go to Vegas and get married because even in Vegas a minor can NOT legally get married without parental permission...also the guy would have to be 21 in order to marry in Nevada without parental permission...are those cowpies you're cooking up?
2007-03-10 07:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You two have or even had no idea what it takes for a marriage. Granted you love each other, but at your age it is hard to understand the meaning of real love for a marriage. One day everything can be fine and the next problems, which all marriages go through this, but with your age it makes it even harder to understand the concept of what it really takes. Plus your not living together, so that is another strike against both of you. When I was 18 I wasn"t ready to settle down to one person. Plus now your saying I am going to start seeing someone else to make him jealous, that is high school games. What you both need to do is come clean with your parents and tell them what you did, that way if you still want to be married you can live together. But one thing is you married because you both thought he was moving. That in it's self was rushed without thinking this through, now you need to think more clearly if this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-03-10 07:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ay, AY, Ay...Your description the relationship translates into problems... severe problems that love can't heal or solve alone. It seems that the most basic problem solving, conflict resolution, anger management and basic respect/trust issues have yet to be established.
Finally, whatever problems you have now will surely multiply as the marriage proceeds (in time). My suggestion- annulment ASAP!!! and if this is out of the question, couples therapy, also ASAP!. I can almost ensure you that if what you say is true, your marriage will be extremely difficult (and you think it's tough now) once children arrive or as time moves on, and eventually, from the sounds of it. Telling your parents is the least of your worries-- both of you will most likely be extremely miserable and over time (<2 years), divorce may surface after a few years given how this has started.
One more thing- cheating on him almost guarantees that the marriage will collapse, given your logic. Someone needs to grow up fast... parental help is needed, and not in the form of incrimination, but real help!
2007-03-10 07:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why you shouldn't think about marriage until you are about 28 years old.Most kids that are around 18 are way to immature to be married.Neither of you can afford to take care of the other and neither of you are mature enough to tell your folks what you have done.Tell your parents and fix this problem soon.
2007-03-10 07:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your move was very hasty, not a good idea|
To marry someone, it is needed to get to know the person a while| First passion or first love or whatever, is not usually a good indicator, since there is more depth to the person that needs to be investigated, which usually comes out only in time|
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2007-03-10 07:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you guys are in way over your heads. I'm assuming that you guys never told your families and that your not even living together either since he's grounded....
Did you guys even consumate the marriage? Maybe you can get an anulment.
Neither one of you is ready to be married, especially to each other.
2007-03-10 07:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest yeah i think u have gotten in over your head cause i gat married when i was 16 years old and i am now divorced but since you are married now how can he be grounded and him sleeping with some 1 else is illegal and u too cause marriage isnt a game
2007-03-10 08:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by jonnysgurl25276 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has cheated on you and no you shouldn't cheat on him. You two were not thinking when ya'll went and got married, apparently it didn't mean anything to him. Talk to your parents and see if you can get out of this marriage before things get even worse, or end up pregnant with an unwanted child.
good luck, god bless.
2007-03-10 07:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you know the difference from lust than love. You kids were to young to get married you can however fix this by getting it wrapped off can't think of the correct word at the moment. wait for a while before you do that again.
2007-03-10 07:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both entirely too young for this kind of lifetime commitment and judging from what you've described, you're both still too self-centered and immature. Tell your parents everything and resolve this situation immediately.
2007-03-10 07:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋