How long was it until you were engaged? I am currently engaged and we've been together for 1 year and 1 month....are we too young to get married?
2007-03-10 07:07:47 · 22 answers · asked by jackiebrawdy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
were i'm 21 hes 22....
2007-03-10 07:12:29 · update #1
we've got a 6month old son
2007-03-10 07:12:45 · update #2
I met my husband in oct 2005 and on christmas eve in 2005 he proposed to me i said yes. and than we got married in march of 2006. We are 10 years apart so no i dont think you are to young to get married or i dont think its to soon to get married i got married at 20 and he was 30 and its been one year i will be 21 and he is already 31. Its all about how you love each other and not about what everyone else thinks i am sure there will be alot of things that people have to say about it i know there was with me but ya know what love over rules everything and i hope everything works out for the best for you two
Good Luck
2007-03-10 07:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon you dont tell us how old you are so we have no idea. But if you are under 18 then (I think) you are too young. If you are over 18 but under 21 then marriage might be ok but still try to wait a while for kids, over 21 no you are not too young.
My husband and I dated for one year and 2months before engagement, were engaged for 10 months before marriage. That was 37 years ago I was 19 when I got married, first child at 24. We are still together even there tho' there are days when we both think the single life sounds good.
2007-03-10 07:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't state your ages. Age does have a lot to do with it. It depends on how much life experience you both have to determine if you can make a lifetime commitment work. You need more than just great sex and telling each other I love you every day. Make sure that you know the difference between lust and love(your bf too), know that your current good looks will not last long, that your current health conditions don't always remain the same, that you need to discuss where you will live, what you expect as far as responsibilities from each other(housework, child care, etc.), when and if you will have kids(and how you will afford to take care of them), that you both have bad habits(and do you know what they are?), and that marriage isn't all rosy. A good marriage is a commitment of hard work that can be fruitful and the best thing that has ever happened to you both. Make sure you know each other very well before that commitment is made. Marriage is not to be an experiment it is a sacred and sincere promise to be with each other for a lifetime.
2007-03-10 07:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
No, you had a CHILD too young. Getting married, that depends. Biblically yes, get married. You have already gotten married in God's eyes.
But on a side note, if you two fight all the time or have a relationship that is not healthy, you need to work on that before you get married.
Use this knowledge you have to speak to other kids. You may be able to reach out to young folks and tell them not using protection will get them pregnant. I know, you may say you did, but did you really? Really? Birth control pills are nearly 100 percent effective.
But that's not the point. You should help others to not end up having a baby, and ending up with decisions they may not have thought of having to make.
Lots of folks get married at your age. But you need to look at the whole picture. What is best for your son? Is your realationship healthy?
2007-03-10 07:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were engaged after dating six months and married eight months later. You've been together long enough to be engaged but I can speak to the age question. If you're 19 or 20 I'd say wait a while. During our twenties we change so much.
2007-03-10 07:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by alikilee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you??
Personally, I think you should be with someone a minimum of 2 years before getting engaged. After 1 year, I still don't think you know the person enough because you haven't had the chance to experience many things together yet.
2007-03-10 07:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were dating for 3 years until we were engaged, and we were engaged for 15 months.
If you have to ask if you're too young to get married, you know you are.
Have you gotten past the honeymoon stage? What about college? What about jobs? How do you two deal with fighting? How about communicating?
Don't ask us if you're ready. Marriage is tough. The longer you put into preparing for it (dating, etc) the less likely you'll have to deal with a divorce.
2007-03-10 07:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should RUN, not walk, to the courthouse to get married as soon as possible. Do this for your son. You would not be having a "traditional" wedding, anyway, because of the circumstance, so just do it quickly and with just close family there.
Normally, I would say you are too young, obviously, but since you already cranked out one baby...
2007-03-10 07:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't too young. But alot of things will change for the both of you over the next three or four years, so take it slow.
As for me, my husband and I were together for 2 years, and then engaged for almost 3 years.
Best of luck.
2007-03-10 07:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are. We dated for 5 years before we got engaged.
2007-03-10 07:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋