My husband and I have been together for 2 years and for some reason he wants to talk more and more to his exwife. She calls and he drops everything to do what ever she wants. I try and tell him that it hurts me and makes me mad but he likes to throw the whole she has my kids and I want to see my kids crap. I wonder if you would think that this is just a smoke screen and he really wants to get back with her "for his kids"
2007-03-10 07:02:44 · 23 answers · asked by Kamalasundri N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to be the one to tell you, but if he is still talking to the ex and he "drops everything to do what ever she wants", he's still interested in her. If he is not acting on your requests to stop acting this way, tell him that he will soon have 2 ex wives. I think it is unfortunate that he holds the kids as "scapegoats" for seeing her.
My ex wife lives on the other side of the country. I like that situation much better. The kids are with me.
2007-03-10 07:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices: make him an ex husband, then let him talk to you a lot and drop everything to come running OR stop getting upset by it...take up a hobby, such as other men, a lover, whatever. The courts make the rules about the kids, not the ex..what kind of crap are you swallowing.????
2007-03-10 07:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the fact that she is the mother of his children and nothing more. He probably has a fear that she would take him back to court and take the kids away from him so he saves face and is nice to her. This is something you have to accept when you are married to a man who has been married before. There is no reason to be jealous. You should be proud that he is a good father to his children. He is being honest with you when he says it is for his kids and you should not be saying what he saying to you is a line of crap. Have more respect than that for your husband or you will be his second ex wife.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 07:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through because I went through the same thing a while back. At first, my husband's kids were little, and I understood he had to talk to his ex, but to a certain point. Like to see how the kids were doing in school or if they need anything(the kids). Now that the kids are older, he only talks to them because they can tell him what's going on. I guess there is always going to be communication bacause they have children together, but he should understand that he is with you now and he needs to respect you and your relationship.
2007-03-10 07:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not state what type of a divorce they had whether it was a mutual agreement or a bad divorce so with that in mind: He has a responsibility as a father to assist in raising his children. He has to have communication in regards to them with his ex. Do not blast him for wanting to be there for his children, but instead talk with him about the relationship with his ex. If you get along with his children then be involved when it comes to them to show him you care about his children too. This shows him your heart and compassion while letting him know you are by his side for anything. When we love someone we have to show them we can talk things through as adults to open the door for a better future as a couple. Good Luck!!
2007-03-10 11:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by ShoelessJoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his kids are always going to take center stage, but chances are he does miss his children, and along with his children comes the mother, so if he drops everything for her i would say there must be something going on here. if he makes them a priority over u, it usually means he loves them more. but this happens when u marry someone with kids and an ex.
2007-03-10 08:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should deal with it...thats what you should do he does have kids by her and its even harder on the kids than it is you. You tell him you get mad and you dont like him talking to her but when he starts changing just to please you and make you happy than the kids are getting hurt cause the kids feel as though dad loves his new wife than he does us.
2007-03-10 07:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know , women have the upper hand in a divorce. If they are kids involved, and the X husband pisses the X wife off, she will make life hell for him. He is proplably just playing his cards safe. But just keep on top of it , in case he is not.
2007-03-10 12:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to solve this problem for the two of them is get involved and act like it is not bothering you and very soon my dear both of them will recognize and stop this nonsense. Try talking to her often and get involved with the kids and hubbie will see something different in you and get his priroties together. Your involvement will stop anything that is not intended to be right.
2007-03-10 07:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't budge, he's just trying to convince you it's OK because of the kids. That's not nice, to say the least, he's using the kids as an excuse, which makes it worse then it already is. He doesn't seem to take you serious, you will have to find a way to show him your dead serious on this.
2007-03-10 07:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by inesp01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋