Our current custody agreement allows for equal time, one month I have her and the next month her mom has her. We live in different states and have for 4 years. Child is about to start school we will be going back to court to make a new custody arrangement. Any people out there in a similar circumstance? What I mean to say is does anyone else have 6 months with one parent and then 6 months with another parent during school. Child is 5.
2007-03-10 06:52:16 · 11 answers · asked by mark c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have that situation with my son. He lives with me in CO, and visits his father in CA.
I have him during the school year. Christmas and spring break he flies out to be with his dad.
And also 7 weeks during the summer vacation, he's in CA.
That was court ordered. I pay for his plane ticket out there and his father pays for the return flights, back here.
The court will order her to live the whole school year with one parent. They never make a child switch school, during the year.
Good Luck
2007-03-10 06:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by lady luck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don’t anyone who has 6 months with one parent and 6 months when the other when it would mean the child attending a different school (much less schools in different states). That would be VERY HARD on a child. Even if that’s what you and Mom both want, I imagine a court would be reluctant to approve an arrangement such as that. But that’s just my personal opinion.
2007-03-10 14:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not in your exact situation, although i do deal with my own custody arrangements. i have 3 kids, and i have to say that having a child move back and forth every 6 months is crazy. you cannot expect a 5 year old to be uprooted after 1/2 a school year and transplanted to some new school the next half. in my opinion that would be incredibly unfair to your kid. you should think about changing the agreement so one parent is the main custodian during the school year, and the other takes the child on summer, spring, and winter vacations.
2007-03-10 14:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are setting this child up to do poorly both in school and for her social life. How long do you guys plan on doing this? All the way through elementary school? Junior High? High School? This makes no sense whatsoever. What idot judge in his/her right mind would allow this?
You and your ex need to get an agreement where the child lives with one of you for the school year and then the child can come out during holidays and summers. That is the best thing for the child.
2007-03-10 15:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a family that does something similar, but they live in the same town. I think the best you are going to be able to get is 1 of you has custody during school & 1 of you in the summers & on vacations. (You didn't mention how far apart your states are, so I don't know how difficult it would be to do the 3 or 4 day weekends that often occur during school.)
My step-daughter lives halfway across the country & it's awful for us to see her so infrequently.
Good luck. I hope you reach an amicable resolution...
2007-03-10 14:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Quarter Midget Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that switching schools twice a year is going to be terrible for her education. Schools are on different schedules, and she could miss huge chunks of important stuff by skipping around like that. Instead, why not switch off every year? One parent has her during school, and the other for all holidays and the summer. Then the next year, vice versa.
2007-03-10 14:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't envy you at all.
I would consider moving back to where her mother lives so as you both can be there for her.
You daughter need to know that both parents are still her parents even though you not together anymore!
My wife bother has that agreement and it does work for both parents and child!
Good Luck
2007-03-10 15:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My steps sisters did the 6 months in one home and 6 in the other and it worked our very well for them. They were able to better enjoy closer friendships as well as have a wider range of friends.
2007-03-10 15:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a confusing arrangement for your child. When she starts school one of you needs to have her during summer and holiday breaks. give your child the love and stability she needs.
2007-03-10 14:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by misse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds so confusing and unstable for that little girl. I'd worry that she's growing up without a sense of "roots". I'm in no way judging you guys - It sounds as though you're trying to do your best in a tough situation,but this little girl has got to be a bit mixed up by this, no?
2007-03-10 19:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by sylvyahr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋