Lately I have become extremely self-conscience.?

Question

Over the past year and a half or so, I have become very un-confident about myself. I realized just now that my family is poor. I feel very ugly all the time and have become obsessed over my weight. I have been going on pro-ana websites alot too, and I have started to think very dark thoughts about myself. I have also had some serious thoughts of suicide a couple weeks ago, but now it feels so stupid. and that makes me hate myself even more. I don't want to complain, I want to know what i should do.
And i have also become a very judging person. i catch myself when I do it and tell myself that its horrible and that they're probably a way better person than me, but it keeps happening.

I'm 15 years old. I just can't cope with my life really. I need some advice.

Answer 1

sweetie you need to talk to someone about this.Sound like depression.There is a lot of help available.If you can't talk to your parents then anybody at school.
But remember you are special.God does not make mistakes!
Being poor is no big deal.It will make you stronger as you grow older.I grew up in a house with 7 kids.We had no money but today I know whats really important in life.Money is not it.

Answer 2

you shouldn't keep putting yourself down. I'm sure you're a really nice person. Everybody judges others - don't worry about it... it doesn't make you a bad person. Also, you don't have to have alot of money to do good things with your life... if you're only 15, you have your whole life ahead of you... even if things arn't going well at this moment, you still have the rest of your life to enjoy! What you are going through is normal for a teenager. I'm 17 and went through the same thing a while ago and have only just got over it. It's normal to worry about your weight, appearance etc... every girl thinks about the same things, however confident they seem to be. the thing is to try and get past how you look and be comfortable with the way you are. If you accept who you are, then others will accept you too.

Answer 3

Yikes! Did something happen before you began feeling this way? I don't know how old you are, but it can take a long time to realize that people are really more concerned about themselves than with judging you. I felt the way you feel more when I was a teenager/ early 20s (and still do sometimes), but eventually I started telling myself that I cannot be perfect and there is nothing to be gained from beating myself up about it. Seriously, being angry at yourself helps nothing. Try to focus on what is positive about yourself. If you do not start feeling better, you really need to go see someone about it. You can feel better!

Answer 4

How old are you? Did you get your period yet? You are going thru that wonderful thing we all call puberty.

When you go thru puberty, hormones run through your body that can make you very self concious. Sometimes even anxious. These hormones can be controlled with diet and medication. Stay away from the sugar. Sugar is known to cause anxiety and depression. It is in almost everything we eat. It is also addictive, just like any drug and it will make you want more and more. Try to wean yourself off of it. You may experience some withdrawals, but I lost 30 pounds in 4 months just by weaning myself off of sugar. Drink water when you feel hungry, or find something healthy that you like and keep plenty of it on hand (like carrot sticks and (low sugar) ranch dressing - yum.

And of course, you need to see a counselor or doctor - or you can talk to your pastor.

You will be fine. We all go thru this in some form during puberty. Some of us are still going thru it. But please, get help. It is not good to be thinking about suicide. The world would not be the same without you.

Answer 5

Life has it's ups and downs. Try to see the lighter side of life. There is beauty within you. I had also gone through a rough time growing up. But you must try to see beyond this time and realize there are so many other possibilities out there for you. I was glad that I didn't take the other road because I wouldn't have this life I have today. Stay Strong and know that You are worth it! Expose yourself to laughter and things that make you happy. Things change. You are Important.
Best Wishes

Answer 6

When I was 15 i felt the same way too. I felt like I wanted to hide in a hole...if I didnt have to go to school I wouldnt have..no one picked on me but I just had a lot of acne and was chubby and looked ugly..I hated people looking at me. I started not eating for a while and doing a lot of crazy stuff and my parents were concerned and then i started being a real ***** to my mom who's only tryin to help....but I only see that now 10 years later and I wonder why i wasted so much time in that dark place. You judge yourself because you are like a perfectionist..no one is perfect..just be the best person you can to yourself and to others...and you will feel good and when you give good it comes back to you. Just do some meditiation exercise and think about allthe stuff you can achieve or want to have....Accept your beautiful self but at the same time eat healthy and move that bod its good for you. Go to the salon once in a while but get your nails done, learn to do your makeup better...do things to pamper yourself...not for perfection just to feel good...BUT dont obsess do the best you can without hurting yourself just benefiting yourself and I promise you will feel better.............dont go on those websites......they hunt on the weak..not you because you are strong

Answer 7

I agree with Wondermermaid.
I know its hard to look in the mirror sometimes and see the person that you want to be. I have been through some dark times myslef, contimplated suicide many time, and also attempted it on a couple of occasions.
After hospitilization and being visited by counselors from a "mental health facility", I realized that nobody was going to help pull me out of that depression other than myself.
I decided that the efforts made to better myself outweighted the fact that I could end up in some kind of mental health facility where they medicate you to try to make you better.
I prayed more at this point in my 20's than I have every prayed in my life. I am not religious, but I decided that I needed to have some kind of faith.. I also tried to detect when my insecurites started. When did I turn happy to sad? One day I woke up and decided, that no matter how hard it was, I was going to stand in the mirror and tell myself EVERDAY that I loved myself, respected myself and appreciated myself because that was the first step in having a wonderful life. If I could respect and love myself, then I would be able to allow love to come into my life. I too felt ugly, I was obsessed with my weight also, I was fighting an eating disorder. But I still strived to feel pretty. I eventually was able to get passed a lot of my issues and start walking with my head held high. I seemed to pull out of that dark time.
.You have to realize, that just because you don't look or dress a certain way, doesn't matter.. Its how you feel inside that shows from the outside. If you feel beautiful inside, you will shine. Doesn't matter if you are overweight, or underweight. Doesn't matter if you have a wart at the end of your nose.
I have seen some gorgeous looking women and men in my life, but because they are so full of hate on the inside, it shows on the outside, and I would never in a million years trade my imperfect body for that!
As far as you becomming a judgemental person, its probably best that you should focus on your self and not others. I know that it is easy to compare others to yourself, but you don't know what others are going through in their lives, so you shouldn't label someone. I'm sure you wouldn't want anyone doing it to you.
Don't get so mad at yourself. You are your own worst enemy..I want to commend you on already being able to recognize when you are doing somthing that you shouldn't. (such as judging someone, or when you realized that suicide is not the right option)
That is a good step to helping yourself recover. I suggest that anytime you are having dark thoughts, to do somthing that makes you happy. Quite going to those dark websites, and start going to ones that interest you. ONes that you can learn from. Read other peoples stories about their lives. Go to your local book store, go to the self help section, grab a book that you can relate to, then go sit down and read parts of it.. You don't have to buy it, you can just read it there.
I wish you lots of luck and apologize for my message being so very long. But you seem like you are a great person with a good head on their shoulders. I think that when you heal yourself, you will be able to help others. And that is a gift that is very special...

Answer 8

Clearly there are people here
who care for you,
as you can see
you have received a lot
of good advice in here.

I would be repeating the same thing.
So my advice is to take all these nice advices to start with
and change your situation.

You are just 15,
if your family is poor,
they need you to help them.
[they need a hero/heroin]
But you need to help yourself first/
Go to school and find away
to make you feel better,
look better, be better
and have a better life.

Good luck!
ps: do watch>
The Pursuit of Happiness!

Answer 9

STOP JUDGING YOURSELF don't be ashamed of who you are. talk to somebody, just get it out there. pro-ana is just a temporary fix, find out why you feel bad about yourself, open your mind to yourself. you can talk to a counselor if you want they can offer some guidance but you have to help yourself. take responsibility for yourself. let yourself feel and go through what your feeling, don't repress it, don't worry about what other people think just focus on getting better for you.

Answer 10

i don't think all the same things, but i've become very self-conscious about myself, too. i'm a fish in HS and ever since i started going to HS i've become very unconfident about my appearance and i always think i'm ugly.
it's hormones, don't think too much about it. every time you get a negative thought about yourself, just think of something positive. like, if you think you're ugly compare yourself to someone uglier. if you think you're poor, think of those starving kids in africa.
hope this helped and good luck!