I met this guy on the internet and we’ve been dating for 3 years. We’ve grown to love each other very much. 1 ½ yrs ago I moved to where he lived and unfortunately it didn’t work due to the differences of opinion with his family. So I came back home and about ½ yr later he asked me to marry him. Now it’s been almost 1 yr since we’ve been engaged and he still hasn’t told his family but I’ve decided to move back over because I am very unhappy not sharing a life together. He still lives with his family and I would be on my own. And I knew from the beginning that he wanted to finish college first before we got married but I had hoped that his missing me would be the difference. He wants help with his parents to pay but I feel for personal reasons that they dislike me(he says otherwise) but they won’t help him if they know we’re engaged, he said they would respond the same about anyone else. So I have to wait 2 more yrs before he can even tell them we're engaged. What should happen here?
2007-03-10 06:39:08 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think what your asking is SHOULD YOU STAY WITH THIS GUY?
Set a time aside and tell him what your saying here,and make him understand that your not the one to wait, you want to spend your life with him Now not tomorrow or two years from now!
I AGREE WITH YOU,life is to short to work out a family problem, when your the problem!
It's your life too, and marriage is hard enough without relatives getting in the way. of your happiness!
I hope this helps, I've been married 16 years and trust me extended family will kill you every time.
Good Luck.
2007-03-10 07:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move back home and start earning a living so you can save some money.He should continue school so he can graduate and get a descent job later on.Both of you should think about maturing more before you try to get married.If neither of you are mature enough to tell the parents that you are engaged then neither of you are mature enough to be married.Best advice I can give is grow up some more and then see how things look.
2007-03-10 14:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you want honesty. Get out of this as quickly as you can, return the ring, and move somewhere else. That situation is just too strange, and the guy sounds not great. Don't waste any more time or energy. Sorry...
2007-03-10 15:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a man here....do NOT move! If he can't even tell his parents about you, what kind of marriage is that going to be? You are making a HUGE mistake!
2007-03-10 15:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Find someone else..
2007-03-10 14:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have dumped him....
2007-03-11 06:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋