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I think my last question is being overlooked due to length...it is a true situation, and somehing i need help with. pretty please will you check it out and give me some input...thank you

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Answer 1

I just read your other question, and its a pretty hard one to answer....How do you get someone to believe what they are doing is wrong when they dont feel it themselves? How do you? I dont think you can....if he thought he was doing something wrong, then I am sure he wouold have been very secretive about it....well, thats not even true....he knows you dont hold his views on porn so he could keep it a secret because he doesnt want to upset you. I have a pretty open attitude to people looking at porn (its not just a man thing, women do it as well), but that doesnt mean its OK with you. We are all individuals.....we all hold our own beliefs and if one person thinks they are right and the other thinks they are right, then you have a problem. It turns into a power struggle when one party push their opinion and ignore the other persons point of view...yet both people think they are right.

If the relationship with your husband is a loving one....If the intimacy within your relationship is good....if the sex is good, then him looking at porn has had no ill effect on your relationship. If your husband still finds you sexually attractive and him looking at porn has not taken over from actually having sex with you, then there is no problem. If he prefers to looking at porn instead of being intimate with you, then there is a huge problem....which one is it?

Sometimes porn can make a sexual encounter more exciting...it gets you in the mood......its a stimuli that can really enhance your sexual relationship with him.....dont think thats hes thinking about whatever he saw on the porn sights when he is making love to you because the porn was the stimuli to make the sex with YOU more exciting. Porn is like fantasies....it excites you, but it doesnt mean you will go out and do it....it is purely form stimulation...to get you in the mood and sometimes gives you a bigger high when you are making love with your wife/husband. Sex isnt dirty, its a natural part of life....and sometimes with time a persons sex life can become a bit boring and we need extra stimulation to make our sex life come alive again. Have you ever tried watching the porn with him...maybe get into a sex neglige and give it a go.....show your husband the sexy side of you...show him you are prepared to share the excitement it is giving him.....lots of couples do it and it doesnt mean they want to do or be with the person they are looking at on the porn site....it is usally the act, not the person that is stimulating them....and you can be just as sexy as any of those women he is looking on at the porn site.

If the porn is taking over your sex life, then something needs to change.......Has your adversion to porn drawn him closer to it.....has your adversion to him watching porn made you think you werent as sexy? If you are thinking like that then you arent going to be as responsive or natural when you make love to your husband....so if its not as exciting...if you are uncomfortable now making love with him, then maybe he is sensing that and feels he cant satisfy you or you cant satisfy him, but the porn can.....dont let the porn come between you and your husband....it can be a very sexy tool in any marriage, but you have to open up your mind a little bit. Remember when you were younger....did you have fantasies that made you feel sexy?.....welll think of porn as a fantasy.....did you go out and do what you did in your fantasy, or was it just a stimuli that made you enjoy sex or masturbation?

As to your child opening up the site....theres not a lot you can do about it, unless of course your child is asking questions about it....just make the site a little bit more secure so she cant get into it. I dont think you need to make a big deal out of it because if the child is disturbed by it then you will be the first to know. The bigger deal you make out of it the more your child will think about it and probably wonders what the fuss is all about.

I dont know what you can do to get rid of your adversion to porn. You are a product of your environment as well and if you were raised to think sex was dirty or that masturbation was wrong, then go into as many porn sites as you can to see if you cant see if you dont get that tingle of excitement as well.

If your sex life is in tact, then the issue about porn is just your moralistic view on porn. If you have a good marriage, and this is the only thing that is bothering you, then its time for a reality check.......porn is not bad.....sometimes it can make a boring sex life incredibly satisfying. Sometimes porn can make your mediocre husband into a real bull in the bedroom....He is not comparing you to other women he sees.....like I said, its the act that is stimulating him.

I probably havent helped because your adversion to porn is obviously very strong, but I hope, at least, I have given you something to think about.

Take care.

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Answer 3

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