My dads new g/f is a *****?

Question

So my mom died just a little over a year ago, and my dad has been dating this girl
that i think seemed really fast, well she is a sneaky ***** kinda way and really high mantinece, like my dad was gonna take us out to dinner and she didn't like any of the places he sugested
and she doesn't really talk to us shes just really quiet
but me and my siblings all don't like her and she's really just ahh

well next month she is moving in, again way too fast and i've told my dad i thought it was too fast but he didn't listen
her son is moving in that i've never met before and her dog

what do i do about this hole situation

i wanna be supportive of my dad but at the same time i think he's being rediculous

i ment for this to go in the family section ooops

ew they're kissing in the room next to me where i can see themm... ! ahg so anoying

Answer 1

You should print out all the answers you receive and show them to your Dad..

There should be no talk of living together without all of the kids meeting...and the dog too. It is far better and way more successful if you all go house hunting for a place to live. By ALL I mean everyone that is going to be residing under the same roof. It is then OUR house and know one has any territorial rights over anyone else. There should not be any relagating the young man to the couch or a pallet in the basement...if he had his own room before he should have it while living there or if he is going to room share he should know who he is sharing with and they should both agree to it. Of course a marriage license would be nice too, each person has more of an investment in the relationship. Don't forget the pre-nup outlining what each is bringing to the marriage and will be entitled to take in the event of a divorce.
You should have at least one meeting of all the new and old family members...grandmas, grandpas, sisters, brothers and etc. Living together prior to marriage has not proven to be the answer to the couple avoiding a divorce in the future.

The above was for Dad now for you... I know it must be difficult for you to see your Dad with someone other than your Mom but I am sure you want your Dad to be happy. Your Dad should allow you and his girlfriend to have alone time to get to know each other. I'm pretty sure she doesn't want to be your Mothers replacement, like you, she more than likely just wants your Dad to be happy. She probably feels your negative response to her. For her to go from caring for one child to (guess) caring for four is an awesome thing for her to take responsibility for. I am very sorry for your loss but life is fluid and things change...it's up to you to make the best of it for your own well being.
My best wishes for you and your extended family in a happy future.

Answer 2

My condolences on the loss of your mom. I know this is extremely difficult for you but for your own sake you must try and make the best of this. There really is not much that you can do about this. you have expressed your feelings to your father and he has decided to go ahead with this anyway. Try to see things from his perspective. Your mothers passing probably left him very lonely and vulnerable. He finds some comfort in this woman despite the fact that it compounds your suffering. The more you and your siblings rail against her, the more protective of her he will become and you could actually make him feel closer to her while distancing himself emotionally from you. tell your father that although you disagree with his decision, you will try to be pleasant and polite to her and her son. Ask him if he will request the same of her toward you. Then make a genuine effort to get to know the woman. You are not being disloyal to your mom by doing so. I am certain that your mother would be very proud of you for handling matters in a mature way.

Answer 3

dad is a grown man....he can do as he chooses.

So since you dad lost his wife, his life's companion. You think he should just sit at home and be miserable and not date, right? Don't you want to see your dad happy? Don't you want your dad to feel love? If you lost someone close to you, would you not want the comfort and all from another person?

And a child is nice.....but not the same, for a father can't lay in bed and discuss his deepest secrets with a child, specially one of his own.

All you can do is support him. Sounds like you are more upset that there is a woman there trying to replace your mom, To me that is where the issue is. Realize she can't replace her, for she was your mom. And realize your dad is not trying to replace her nor forget about her, he is doing what the mature thing in life is to do....move on. And I am sure you mom would of wanted him to move on, cause to love someone, you will let them go.

Talk to others, talk to counselors. The issues is in you, not dad nor the other woman. Sure she might do things different and all, but that is what you want. Do you want dad to go find a woman that is a mirror image of your mom? Would that not be a slap in the face to your mom to replace her with a duplicate twin?

Answer 4

There really isn't much you can do other than talk to your dad about how you feel. If he is adamant about having her move in then odds are it's going to happen. If they are happy together then be happy for your dad and try to work with the situation.
Try and get to know her and her son, you might find they aren't so bad.

Answer 5

you cant change what your dad does. Have you told him you dont like her? If not. CALMLY sit down with him and be very respectful and nice about saying that you respect his choice to date that woman, but you and your siblings notice some strong flaws that she has. Then tell him what they are... instead of flat out saying things, turn them into more upholding statements for his girlfriend. If you tear her down, he'll block you out. For example. instead of calling her a fake *****, say she seems to act differently when you're not around, not as child friendly, or whatever you feel.

as for the her moving in thing, sit down with your dad and tell him that though he may have moved on past your mom, you haven't moved past, and you're not ready for him to have moved past her. You are not ready to have another woman in the house, no mattter how much you like or dislike her. If he doesn't listen... Get therapy, do something, you need your mental health.

The one who siad he needs companionship, hes not wrong... but your dad needs to respect his kids needs and mental states too. You're not wrong or crazy. Keep that in mind. Once she leaves, sit him down and , RESPECTFULLY AND CALMLY, tell him whats on your mind. He'll resist, but let him know, you're his kid, you need him to, at least, slow down with this woman

MY dad did the exact same thing after the divorce. He was dating within 2 months

Answer 6

Sit your dad down when you are both alone. Tell him how much you love and care about him. Then ask him if this woman is what he really wants, ask him if he loves her, what can you do to help or get to know her, if she doesn't speak to you then ask your dad why? This is your chance to really find out if your dad is in love or not, just talk to him. Take care Heather

Answer 7

theres really not much you can do it just may be your dads way to mourn so talk to gm again and if that dosent work talk to her and if those dont work play pranks

Answer 8

tell ur dad.....im sure hell understand :)