why dont people talk before marriage?

Question

its seem a lot of people dont talk about kids job house clean or what role they will play in the marriage ?and sex i would think you would want to find out all you can before marriage

Answer 1

Mature people do talk before marriage.
Love does not conquer all, when problems crop up down the line, and into the marriage.
There needs to be a foundation to begin, and discussions of money, children, and all kinds of issues that will arise, need to be discussed.~~ You may not cover everything, but cover what you can think of, that 2 people may differ on.
Those who get married, in the churches I know of, have classes they go to prior to getting married. It is a requirement.
Marriage needs to be talked about before marriage.~~~Jill

Answer 2

Isnt that the most sensible thing to do....if more people used their logical thinking skills then probably you would see divorce halved....Of course talking about each others expectations would save a lot of heartbreak after marriage when they find they have nothing in common and totally different values. At the very least, if you have honest communication about each's expectations before marriage there wont be any shocks after marriage...Of course there will be differences and compromises need to be made by both parties...but the big things, like children and how you would like them raised, etc would not be an issue if it was talked about prior to marriage. You make an extremely valid point and I believe if we talked about these logical things before marriage then there would be a lot more happier marriages...touche.

Answer 3

I think many don't put as much thought into it as they should. Why don't they? I think its a maturity thing. They have a romantic view of marriage and it's hard to see problems ahead. We've been married for 16 years and we saw a counselor before we got married. He really made us think, and talk about things that we really hadn't thought about. I think this is a primary reason for the high divorce rate. People work off expectations, not reality. I agree, finding out as much as you can before marriage will make things much simpler.

Answer 4

I think talking before marriage is very important.This gives each person a good idea of what the other is thinking and it should give some indication of things that needs to be discussed further. I also think talking after marriage is just as important.

Answer 5

LOL because there in heat .Nothing matters when your hot .