Has anyone been cheated on, to what extent/reasons, and actually managed to work things out and have a decent relationship with that person. Or did you stay with them and get taken for a fool again?
2007-03-10 05:55:31 · 12 answers · asked by jamie123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No chance....he got caught once and that was it!!...If I'm not enough for 1 man...then he's not enough for me!!!
2007-03-10 05:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by prettywoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since most females are already naturally attracted to nonmonogamous males (i.e because seed spreaders were superior in evolutionary genetic survival terms) - obviously women are willing to go back to men that cheat - or simply find a new cheater
As for female cheaters - men have great difficulty for one key biological reason: that being (in evolutionary terms) men could never be precisely sure who was and was not their offspring - and any male investment in such non-offspring was highly disadvantage to their (the male's) genetic survival
So a female can accept a male cheater yet most men will never be confortable with a female cheater - its just the way biology and evolution designed it
Note that is irrelevant that today we can in fact identify the who exactly is the father - and the reason is we are talking about genetic PERCEPTION and human DNA which carries large amounts of evolutionary baggage that impacts on current day thought, actions, and decisions, and such genes barely, if at all, recognize such modern constructs
Since most women will never be attracted (in a chemistry sense) to a male that either doesn't cheat or doesn't want to cheat - best that they find the least-worst cheater that may have other positive characteristics
2007-03-14 03:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cheated on my partner just over 2 years ago when our son was born, I actually left him for the other guy who I thought I loved. My partner had been really horrible to me during my pregnancy and the other guy had been really great.
My partner begged me to come home, and I am not sure why I did or why he wanted me to, but that next year was really rough, finally, over the last 9 months we have got our relationship just right again.
You can work through these things, but you both have to want to. It takes a really big person to forgive someone for something like that, but he has been rewarded with my loyalty for life.
I think that it totally depends on the people and the personal situation, if both parties feel that something is worth saving then they should do it.
2007-03-10 06:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by SexySexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on, ALOT, and usually I just dumped whoever and moved on. But recently I have created my new "zen" peacefinding attitude on life and I try to work things out. Like the last time it happened we worked things out and talked it through all of it and moved on, but once you've been cheated on be someone then there's no possible way you can look at that person the same way again.
2007-03-10 06:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by lildiz_420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe everyone deserves a second chance BUT just the once, and see how things go, you need to work at relationships, and no good digging the past up as this causes more arguments
BUT if they ever do it again, no chances thats it say bye bye
dont listen to once a cheater always a cheater, as thats BS
good luck hun im sure you'll do he right thing
2007-03-10 07:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend had a one night stand when we had been together nearly a year. we have now been together for 5 years, but it took a lot of hard work, I didn't trust him for a long time after, I used to get very paranoid, check his phone and emails. We are happier than we have ever been now though! I think it would have been different if it had been an ongoing affair though.
2007-03-10 07:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by welshplaygirl84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was stupid.... He made out with my best friend for weeks and they never told me. When I found out I was devastated but I managed to get over it and forgive both of them....big mistake....We dated for 2 more years after that and he never did anything but we had a hard break up and I totally regret forgiving him...oh and I don't talk to my "best friend" anymore, I mean who does that to a friend.?? So it can happen but I would just end it, now someday they'll hurt you again
2007-03-10 06:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a funny thing, once broken I dont think it can be fixed
I am in that now, he said I am sorry a million times, now in church but in the back of my mind........ I do not think I can ever trust again. and what is sad I am not to the point I dont know that I would ever trust ANY MAN....
2007-03-10 06:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never go back to a guy if he cheated on me. people who cheat dont care who there hurting or what pain they can cause,if your with someone you dont go with anyone else no matter what the situation!! NO EXCUSE for cheating in my books!!
2007-03-10 10:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by DREAMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex cheated on me , she was a virgin when i met her , she said she cheated on me because she wanted to try se- with another person b4 she marryed me , i found out and finished with her , i have allways thought once a cheat allways a cheat , she wanted me to take her back but i just couldnt not knowing if i could ever trust her again , but thats me mate ,
2007-03-10 07:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is always a mistake to go back what ever happened,
because it happened for a reason.Or turn the tables on the person and see how they would react.
2007-03-10 06:26:39 · answer #11 · answered by iwillifuwill 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋