My gf's bi and had a bf when we met back in January. She thought she could have both of us and although i didn't agree i didn't say anything because i wanted to see where we'd end up i said i wouldn't push her into making a choice between us both but since Valentines day she's realised she can't keep us both happy. She kept it secret that she was going to stay with him the day after valentines day; The weekend after valentines day she said she'd think about what she wanted but that weekend her mum was diagnosed with breast cancer and so i've not pushed for a decision. Trouble is emotionally i'm in far too deep now and have no idea what to do about it. I was going to mention it last night but we had such a nice day i didn't wanna ruin it, but in the process i'm hurting myself. Should i add to her troubles and push for a decision or stay and wait for her to make her choice in her own time? Help!
2007-03-10 05:36:15 · 10 answers · asked by Lea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She said she loves me but how can i feel it when i don't know if she has said the same thing to him?
2007-03-10 05:53:08 · update #1
In general, it's a good idea to give the people you care about a wide berth during times of trouble. But the fact that bad things are going on in her life right now doesn't really excuse her from stringing you along. I imagine this might be a watershed for her, in a good way, because she'll find out who she needs when she comes undone... (*)
If I were you, I'd just be honest about how you feel but emphasize that you're there for her no matter what (presumably, you do genuinely care about her, romantic stuff aside). Don't give her an ultimatum, just tell her that you're thinking through the situation and things might change.
(*) sorry, quoting 80s music doesn't help ...
Difficult situation, but good luck with it
2007-03-10 05:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
AS long as you are enjoying the pain, stay for some more of it...that is what you are going to get. You act as if this is the only person on Earth that you can love. Nonsense! Be single, have some fun in life..that is what it is all about. Sooner or later, you will meet the right person..this one ain't it kid, ain't it. You are hooked up with a user...she is using both of you for her own reasons...stop playing her game. If you think it is not a game, you are in sadder shape than you realize. Good luck.
2007-03-10 07:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you are asking the question means deep down you already know the answer. But it's hard to do and painful, especially when you are so emotionally involved.
You have to care more about yourself than her.
2007-03-10 06:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know where you stand with her and that is in limbo. So, gather up your dignity and leave. Don't waste any more time on her. She doesn't need to make a decision because she already has what she wants......both of you on a string.
2007-03-10 05:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave.
Even if you push her to make a choice, and she is ultimately with you.
If she can cheat on him, what will stop her from cheating on you?
2007-03-10 05:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Leave. who wants to be someone's hard choice
2007-03-10 05:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by lisa s 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Move on
2007-03-10 05:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Richkat76 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
wait to see what she wants to do
2007-03-10 06:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you hot? you should video tape you two! hot lesbians rule
2007-03-10 05:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by F1isTHEbest 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
love waits for no one, so why should u wait for it...
2007-03-10 05:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by HP 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋