i dont have alot of confidence and go red easily what can i do?

Question

i have lost alot of confidence lately, iv fell out with friends recently, but have made new ones and am happy but i have no confidence in school even if a teacher asks me a question i will go red because i feel like everyones looking at me i will also go red if i am talking to some 1 who is more confident than me ane ideas that will help me build up my confidence? <3 thnx

Answer 1

Nobody can give you confidence. It has to come from within. You can begin by getting up everyday, and looking in the mirror, and telling yourself that you are loved. Then as your day goes along you can self talk, and remind yourself throughout that you are someone, and that you have good things about you. At the end of the day take a few minutes to self reflect. Keep a daily log of your daily accomplishments, and also things that you would like to improve. At the end of every week go back to your daily log, and you will be amazed at what you have accomplished, and what you have improved upon. Last, but not least, at the end of each day, realize that everyone has weakness's, and strengths. Life is about progress and not perfection. Keep your head up, and smile, because you are special.

Answer 2

Confidence comes from experience. Everyone has a mixture of both confidence and insecurity. I have been very shy my whole life. However, there are a few things that I am proud of because I have spent time reading and learning about them. I'll give you one example. When I was 12 a friend of my dad's took me to a book store and offered to buy me whatever book I wanted. I saw a book with Arnold Schwarzenegger's picture on the cover. He was flexing his muscles. My eyes got big. I had never seen him or heard of him. I chose that book. That was 23 years ago. I am now 35 years old and I'm big and expect to get bigger. People ask me for advice on how to build muscle or what supplements to take. I'm still very shy. But I can converse confidently about things that I know alot about. I have read alot about music, especially classical music. I read the Bible daily and I read Christian books. My point is this. Choose a few things in life that you have a passion for. Read and learn about them. Let your passion become so great that you will lose all awareness of yourself. You will notice that when you talk to people about things that you have strong beliefs about, you wont be red. You'll look more like an old-fashioned fundamental Baptist preacher with fire in his soul.

Answer 3

I used to..and still sometimes have awful blushing spells. That's just me, I'm shy. I make up for it by being silly. I make people laugh. I also convinced myself that I do not care what others think of me if what they think is negative. Everyone makes mistakes, so don't be afraid to give the wrong answer. you might find that people think you are really smart. Just take a deep breath before you start when you have to talk infront of the class, a little trick I learned in my advanced speech class when I was in high school is, look above people's heads. I can appear to make really good eye contact but I am actually not looking at anyone at all. Good Luck!

Answer 4

If you can remember that most people feel the same as you INSIDE you'll relax a little. There is nothing wrong with being shy, I'm a total extrovert but I just adore shy people. Be who you are, focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. Non of us are perfect.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

I would say it's just a phase. Most people go through something like this at some time in their life. Just try and tough it out and find friends that can help.

Answer 6

Just go out with friend/s who u believe would not make ur fun and if u don't think that anybody is like this just go out with anyone and when s/he makes fun(which i don't think any one would do) say him what are u feeling. Just try.I did and now i am confident.
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