Its been a very long time since i felt like this. I am always being used by friends and people i know. I dont no what to do. I feel left out and sometimes really want to break out. Its hard trying to ignore it, i feel like i am no one, or no one wants to know me. I have spoke to my friend about it and for a week or so she has really cared for me, but then it went back to normal. What shall i do?
2007-03-10 05:31:15 · 8 answers · asked by 1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you are shy, or at least have a low self-esteem. I do not critizise you for I have been that way a good part of my life.
Your friend does care about you please beleive that. But she has a life too so she can't devote all her time to you.
You need to try to figure out how to be more self assured. Even a little bit will be a big help.
People use people who let them. They may not even consider it as using you but you do and that is all that is important. You sound like my sister in that you can't say no.
What would happen sometime if you just said no I can't do that or no I won't do that. You would want to do this when that person is asking something of you that you don't want to do.
You know that feeling. You get it up front and know this is not what you want to do but feel you should do just to help them out.
What you have done is teach all those people that you will always do it. So they expect you to. The answer is not to ignore it but to stop it. Sit down and think about this. How would you feel if you gave yourself permission to do only what you want to do. Nothing else. Wouldn't that feel great. It truly does. And while the people you have taught to treat you this way will be mad for a while they will grow to respect you and you will see the way they treat you change.
That is truly all that it takes. I know it will not be easy. But it is very well worth it. Start by just thinking about every situation you have been taken advantage of....then think you you would have felt if you would have simply said "well I do see you need that but I can't do that right now". Make up your own words but simply decline.
Do it and you will be so much happier and as hard as it is to beleive most people will begin to respect you for it. After all that is what they do right.
2007-03-10 05:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heya aww of corse your someone! be positive i think you should sit down with your friend and really speak to them. if this doesnt work and it goes back to normal again. mix with a new people. make new friends because if your old friends arnt doing anything about it then they really arnt true friends.why not try joining a local youth club or sumthing? you cud meet more new people there. show yourself off and feel good about ur self be positive. everyone from time to time does feel left out in there life its normal but talk 2 sum1 and dont think that noone wants to know you of corse they do! yes it may be hard to ignore it but really explain to your friends how you are feeling. im sure it will be okay i hope this helps!:)
2007-03-10 17:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by XMiss Drama QueenX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erase the word "doormat" from your forehead. Choose friends that you enjoy and have fun with! Never let people use you, even once, the cycle is hard to break. You say "no one wants to know me". Why not work on yourself to become happier and more self assured. This will not only improve your self esteem but it will make you more interesting to others. If you're doing what you love to do, it'll put you in more social situations with like minded people.
Good luck :)
2007-03-10 13:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey mate , try to make some new friends but in the same time still be friends with your oldest , as soon as they see you making new friends they will soon be the way the used to be with you , or start makeing new friends and replace your old oned completly , BIG SMILE ;0)
2007-03-10 14:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up and be counted for!
Don't be friends with anyone just for the sake of it. Only spend time with someone who is a true friend.
2007-03-10 13:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are fed up for being taken for granted and to start showing you some respect if she can't time for you to make some new friends and you are somebody never let anyone tell you different ! HUGS
2007-03-10 13:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on yourself, sod whet anyone else thinks, people are drawn to confidant happy people, and you will be neither if you sit around waiting for everyone else to make you feel good, love yourself!
2007-03-10 13:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go SHOPPING!
2007-03-10 13:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by babii-gurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋