I am living with my boyfriend right now but things are not going well. I am about 3 months pregnant. I am also going through a divorce. Divorce will be final in a month but I am not changing my name back to my maiden cuz I have 2 children and want to have the same last name as them. My Ex is fine with that. (not a bad divorce) Now I am wondering if I should give my baby my boyfriends last name even though I know we wont last to much longer or should I give my new baby my ex's last name so he/she can have the same last name as her/his brother and sister? I already talked to the ex and he said that it didnt really matter to him and that I should do what I want. I dont want to put my boyfriends name on the birth certificate either. Do I have to?
2007-03-10 04:54:44 · 9 answers · asked by jakncoke0620 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok let me add a view details. I dont want to be with him. My EX says its fine to give my baby our last name. My Boyfriend said he wants to be in my babys life but he said he will not pay child support. With his job he gets paid cash so he has no proof of income. I just didnt know if there was some kinda law about puting him on the BC or not. Thank you all for your answers. You were alot of help!!
2007-03-11 05:45:03 · update #1
Give the baby your last name or your maiden name.
2007-03-10 05:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
***VERY IMPORTANT***
The Birth Certificate (BC): As far as I know, you don't have to put his name. BE FORWARNED... if you want child support, this will complicate and lengthen the process of establishing an order. If he wants visitation court ordered, he CAN ask the court to order a DNA test proving it's his. If it is his, he then DOES have the right to ask the court to order the BC amended to reflect him as the dad. So if you dont want him on there or to see the baby, but he wants to be on there and see the baby, theres ways he can get around you.
The Last Name(LS):
Some food for thought. If you give this baby your last name which is also the LS of your other children, ppl may think it is the ex husbands.
If you don't give the baby your LS you may run into this situation:
If you get remarried at some point, you will have 2 kids with 1 LS, another kid with another last name and you with yet another.
So you have to decide which you'd rather deal with
PPl thinking it's your ex husband's child OR
Ppl thinking you are sleezy even if you are not (if there's 3 lastnames involved)
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-10 06:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by amber055 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can put your ex husbands last name on the certificate since that is your last name too! Besides it's not just your ex's name it is all of yours. I would personally say that I would do that. I have a 7 yr old and put her Dads name on her certifcate and now I regret it. I hate going to her school and we have different last names and so does my 4 yr boyfriend.
It sucks 3 people living in a home together (me, my daughter, and my boyfriend) and we all have a different one. I really wish she could have mine now or my boyfriends but until I get married or something that isn't changing.
So in the end I say Put Your Name On The Birth Certificate!!!!!!
2007-03-10 05:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by CRAZYGIRL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave my daughter my last name - her fathers last name. She still carrys mine but his and his 3 chidrens as well. Was a compromise and if anything evre happens I can drop the second last name. You dont have to put your bfs name on the birth certificate but if you plan on going after child support it would help, otherwise you will have to go through the battle of DNA testing toprove the child is his and that he is responsible for him/her.
2007-03-10 05:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most states you can only put the fathers name on birth certificate if either 1: your married or 2: he signs it. if he wants to be in babys life ask him (if or when you split up) how he feels about the last name
2007-03-10 06:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by amber p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give the baby his father last name. Its not right that you put you're ex husband last name because his not the father.
Good Luck?
2007-03-10 05:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the father of the child? THAT is who's last name the child gets.
2007-03-10 06:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just use your boyfriends last name. Then if you want to change it later on you can. I have a different last name than my family and it's fine.
2007-03-10 04:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoever the father of the baby should have his last name... or he will deny the child later on.. and not pay for child support... the child needs to know his real father...
2007-03-10 05:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by gina B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋