We split up about 4 months ago. She went off with another not long after, who she is still with. She only recenlty told me this. I still love her and have worked hard at trying to get her back as despite the end it was actually very good. We argued badly for a while and she left one day. This guy showed her attention when she was down and they started from there. We have now met up about 4 or so times recently and it has gone really well. I told her I loved her and she says she loves me. I don't know why she won't come back. She says it cos she doesnt want to go back to the bad times again and get hurt. But I have said we now know how it feels to lose eachother and will work at this. Anyway, she says she doesnt love him but he is good to her and he after 3 months wants to get engaged! She doesnt yet! We are sleeping together when we meet up. She does play down her realtionship with him and says she needs to sort her head out but it goes on and on. I dont know what to think.
2007-03-10 04:24:48 · 17 answers · asked by jason e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe she needed to get away from you needed a break and while she's been gone she's non stopped thought about you she was on the rebound and probs cudnt get out of the rebounded relationship she loves you clearly she's not using you if you were down in the blues you wud use someone as a rebound thats all you got to think about but before you do anything make sure that she tells the other lad that shye's dumped him and till you have made sure dont do anything becoz i don't know wat she's thinking and mite only want to have a one nite stand be careful babe how you approach her take things slowly and hopefully you two will get back together again
good luck
2007-03-11 06:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pal, I get the feeling that you are not really looking for this sort of advice but here goes anyway.
Leave her well alone.
She has a proven record of bad behaviour:
1. She does not want the 'bad' times - what relationship is with out bad times? She is being unrealistic.
2. The two of you are already sleeping together. What effect will this have on the other guy (especially health wise, for you)?
3. She has admitted to you that she does not love this guy and yet she is still considering getting engaged to him?
Start thinking with your brain and leave her well alone for a good couple of months and if you are sure you still feel the same about this girl once you have enjoyed a bit of your own time and space then head back in there.
If by this time she has moved on then it is no loss really anything supposedly that good can afford to wait a little time.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 05:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on let me get this strait... she left you and went to another, and you are now seeing each other again...only now YOUR sleeping with her behind HIS back...but it's okay because you were her...what?..bf at one time?
I'm just wondering now that maybe her NEW man isn't giving her the attention that YOU AT ONE TIME DIDN'T GIVE HER. These types of things never change. Sure she loves you NOW! but what happens when she finds another? Of course she plays down her current relationship! EVERYONE that has an affair DOES THIS! that's so they can sleep around guilt free. If you want a real relationship with this girl. You should both get some counseling. BOTH! other wise your in for many more re-runs of this sort....
Much Luck to you three.
2007-03-10 05:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
98% of women are unhappy with their body- fact. You're beautiful. Just because you don't believe it, it doesn't mean other people don't either. Someone out there is right for you, you just have to find them. The many you talk about seems stupid, ignorant and rather idiotic. Why do you want to be with him? He seems very shallow, and my personal opinion is that it won't last, and you'll end up getting even more hurt, if he ever comes back to you. There's 7 BILLION people on earth. Surely there's one out there absolutely perfect for you? Just try and find him. I'm positive you will. And by the way, I'm sure God forgives you, so don't feel guilty. A quote from Matthew: For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Good luck in the future. God bless.x
2016-03-28 23:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrrgh. This young woman does not have a clue what she wants.
I know that you still love her, and I sympathize with that. But right now, she's sleeping with a man (you, friend) that is not her boyfriend. If she's downplaying the relationship with him, it's because she wants to keep you (and him too, obviously) on a string. She's not willing to sever ties with either one of you at this point.
If she doesn't love him, and does love you, WHY does she consider the other guy her boyfriend? Saying that "he's good to her" doesn't cut it; I'm guessing that you were pretty good to her, too. If there was really nothing there, he wouldn't be considering engagement.
Please tell her to get back with you after she's made up her mind. I know this will be hard on you; it's always better to know for certain than to wonder. But your heart is at stake here.
2007-03-10 04:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would do what i did with my cheating ex get rid and stay rid find someone thats gonna respect and love you the way you should be.. she had a case of the grass being greener but now realizes it isn't always the case she is playing you mate and you are allowing it.. stop sleeping with her think of how this bloke she is with would feel as for going back to the slapper and and the bad times forget her she just wants her cake and eat it thank your lucky stars YOUR WELL RID
2007-03-10 06:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by loubylou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically, shes cheating on this other man. What type of person does that make her. if she did get back with you, would you trust her?
If I were you, providing you still want her back, I would give her an ultimatum, him or you.
At the moment she having her cake and eating it!
Be careful! or better still, find someone else and forget about her, unless you want your heart broken again.
2007-03-10 04:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by missBambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT play this game. Do NOT allow her back in your life. Move forward, my friend. Your ex is just trying to keep you in the picture... just in case her new life doesn't work out. Find someone who respects the love you have to give.
2007-03-10 04:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i'd forget about her. She thought she had found somrthing better and is realizing that it wasn't. She wants to come back to something that she knows or hopes will still be there. You have to ask yourself how long it's gonna take for her to do this again...i'd say forget about her.
2007-03-10 04:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by mighty1981mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe her. A wise man should not repeat the same mistake again. The world is full of sincere, wonderful and honest girls.
2007-03-10 20:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Shahid M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋