there's someone that i know who keeps saying "shut up" when u talk to him, he's saying it for joking...but it's sometimes irritating when u are talking to him seriously and he answeres: shut up......so i'm looking for sth to answer him when he says "shut up",,,so i would let him down!!!
*****please do not answer by writing me "shut up"...i'm serious here
2007-03-10 04:23:48 · 33 answers · asked by misk 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He is not joking. It is rude and a way to insult and abuse someone. This is a VERY VERY important crossroads for you. Examine your own self esteem. Why are you tolerating that type of behavior? DO NOT try to change him, or make him understand his behavior is rude. 1. Avoid interacting with this person. 2. If you can not and he still manages to throw a "shut-up" at you, you have to confront him and simple and direct way, and say "Do not ever tell me to shut up again".
Good luck.
2007-03-10 04:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Gatsby216 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? when he says shut up. Do the opposite of that.
Get a t-shirt with Shut up on it. First time he says it. put in on. when he ask why you have it. Say because I need it to remind me you don't want to hear what I have to say. Then walk away and don't get in a conversation until the next day or next time you talk. or you could just start crying, do it every time. Make him feel, what you are feeling. Hurt and irritate
2007-03-10 05:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him when he does this. Just walk away or pretend to get distracted by something else. He keeps doing this because it is reinforced in some way. Maybe he WANTS to get a rise out of you, or there is something else that he gets by doing this. If you ignore the behavior, you are cutting off any reinforcers he gets by saying "shut up". If you reward other behavior (like acting interested or smiling or nodding when he says something intelligent) eventually he will act more in this way around you. This is assuming that this is a one on one situation, and he gets no other rewards from others by saying "shut up".
2007-03-10 04:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try just being silent for a couple minutes when he says that. Tell him, when you're ready to have this conversation, let me know. That must be very irritating when you are trying to have a serious conversation with someone. It is also very rude on his part even though he's joking. Try giving him the silent treatment or walking away next time he does that.
2007-03-10 04:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look him straight in the eye, say okay, and walk away. Do not say another word. After you do this a few times, he'll stop. It's just his current slang for "you're kidding" or "no way". It's an easy habit he got into and you can break him of it. Tell him to use real word exchanges in your conversations because you would like to talk with him, not at him.
2007-03-10 04:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't like to engage, perhaps it is a subject specific thing, but he probably also has learned to manage the reactions he gets. My bet is that this is one way he can avoid losing his mojo in the discussion, in other words he doesn't like to lose control of the discussion once his attention wonders. If you determinedly ignore him or move away from him when he does it, as if distracted, which is not a reaction he would prefer, he will soon get the point consciously or otherwise and stop doing it.
2007-03-10 04:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This solution usually works, but does take a little patience and effort on your part.
Start saying "shut up" to him ALL (and I mean ALL) the time, he will soon ask why you are doing it (and you tell him you were trying to show him how annoying it is) or he will figure it out on his own and stop.
Good luck!!!!
2007-03-10 04:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a dimunitive nickname and use it ALL the time and in front of everyone...something like "teapot", "boy-bandie", "pet", "puppy", "kitten", "peach", "b*tchie" (but, not b*tch). Use this with him even when he doesn't say "shut-up", but when he does say "shut-up" consistently 100% of the time respond with "oh, that's my puppy (or whatever), so insecure!" And then keep right on with whatever you were saying as if his outburst were otherwise irrelevant.
2007-03-10 05:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by paralegaltechnik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old he is... seems to be a kid trying to fit in to me. He must think that it's cool to talk to people that way. However, he could also be a shy person, who doesn't know how to respond to people's questions tacfully while hiding his timidity. Don't know how close you are to him but you could talk to him in person how you feel about his behavior. Make sure you do that when there isn't anyone else around to avoid his feeling of being humiliated or offended.
2007-03-10 04:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by sleepyhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may try to annoy him by keep saying what you were but without any voice. Now he'd say 'what?' instead of saying 'shut up'.
2007-03-10 04:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by irf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋