Help! Moving day and separating from hubby and can't eat and want to hurl.?

Question

Moving today can't eat cause I want to hurl from stress. Also separating (divorcing) from hubby at the same time plus I have to work tonight. Just plain scared. Feel like crap. Anyone else been through this?

Answer 1

Yep, I can certainly relate to what you are feeling.......and never before have I felt this way....as soon as I put food in my mouth I felt physically sick...and may I say I lost a lot of weight.......not a good way to lose weight, but it just shows you how stress can affect us all in a physical way. I dont know how you are going to deal with this because you are going to go through a series of emotions....and as hard as it is going to be, it is something you have to go through...its a process we all have to go through when something like this happens....its like death....well sometimes its worse than death because I know when I went through my divorce I wished he was dead...it would have been easier to cope with.

Time and more time is the only way you are going to get through this. There is a beginning and there is an end. Some people go through this grieving period in a reasonably short time, but generally it takes about 2 years for you to become "normal" again. It all depends on what you are prepared to do to quicken the process....if you wallow and feel sorry for yourself then the whole process is going to take a long time....sure there will be days when you feel sad, when you wished you were dead.....times you just wanted to stay in bed and wished the world would go away, I think that is quite normal. You dont have to be a superwoman, you are allowed to feel this way...it is all part of the getting over the hurt process. But there will come a time where you are sick of feeling this way, when you want more out of life than feeling sad. It is that day when you will get up, brush yourself off and start doing things to improve your life. Maybe you are going to need help to get through this....talk to your doctor, maybe you need some anti-depressants, but also with anti-depressants get some counselling too andyou will get through this grieving time a lot faster. I wish I sort out help in this period of my life because I did it all on my own and it took me 5 years to rejoin life again.

You are not alone. Love lost is about the hardest thing we have to deal with in our entire lives. Be kind to yourself...but dont wallow for too long because time is ticking by....and if youre not careful, life will pass you by.

If you cant go to work, then call in sick...you probably wouldnt be able to concentrate anyway....people do understand, just be honest about your feelings....I think you would be surprised at the amount of people who have felt exactly the way you do. Its very hard for life to be "normal" when you are dying inside. Maybe take some time off on annual leave....you need to come to terms with what is happening...you need to grieve.

It is no good looking too far into the future because it is just a new thing for you...so you need to deal with one thing at a time. Right now, you need to call in sick and cry...maybe you need to call a good friend who will be able to be with you and listen...who will allow you to feel all the saddness and loss you are feeling right now. You will know the time when this phase should end.....when you start to feel angry, then is the time to post another question on how to cope....how to move on, but right now, you need to be kind to yourself and allow your feelings to wash over you, but do it, if possible with a good and trusted friend around.....dont be alone.

I feel for what you are going through, but I guarantee you wont always feel this way. In twelve months time you will feel totally different....In two years time, you will be a different person....In three years time you willl be strong....and maybe somewhere in between, you will find love again. But right now you are devestated......and its OK.....I have been there, as I am sure thousands of other women....and men have been.

Take care and be kind to yourself.

Answer 2

Your feelings are totally natural. You need to be really gentle with yourself ... you can do it. I know you have to work tonight but can you call in sick? Once you get moved, spoil yourself with a bubble bath and some icecream ... play your favorite music, read a bunch of magazine's and just let yourself drift off into a peaceful place.
F = False
E = Elusions
A = Apperaing
R = Real
Your not alone a lot of us have been through this. Get a good book on how to emotionally walk through a divorce.

Answer 3

You've been staying with your in laws for 2 years? Move out, they'll probably throw you a party. Have you ever thought that maybe they'd LOVE for you to move out and they could have their house back all by themselves?

Answer 4

I was in your shoes once, but you do what you have to do & it'll all work out just fine. You'll be a much stronger person in the long run. I know it's all very overwhelming right now, but in time, it'll pass & you won't feel so stressed. Hopefully you have family & good friends to help you through this most difficult time. Just remember, you aren't the first to go through this, & you won't be the last. Good luck!!!!

Answer 5

Yup, Been there. I know what you're going through.
I walked in on the ex doing some dude.
I was sick to my stomach the entire time I was moving.
Stressed out. Couldn't eat. Lost about 20 lbs. which did me good. I started working out and was ripped!

Hang in there. You'll be fine.

Answer 6

Sure I've been through that. Remember, a person can only take care of one thing at a time. In the end, you'll see that you did survive it. This too shall pass and you'll be just fine.

Answer 7

yes i know how you feel mine is leaving too hopefully things will get better for both of us good luck

Answer 8

going through it now! it's miserable but you will live. time will be your cure

Answer 9

Yep lots of us .You will survive