We've been together for almost 3 years, lived together for 2. I am always stressed out and never want to do anything. Every day he says that "we are tonight" and I get so sick of it. All the time he talks about it. He gets mad when we don't. It usually happens once a wk, which means the rest of the wk I have to hear him complain.
Is this normal? Or am I not normal?
2007-03-10 04:08:48 · 24 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have talked to him about it, he still doesn't understand/care.
2007-03-10 04:16:57 · update #1
TALK TO HIM!!
If it's bothering you, talk to him. In relationships there are no normals. It's just you and he working out your differences.
Talk to him. Tell him how it annoys you. Listen to him, and make sure you get to talk too.
2007-03-10 04:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most men would assume that living with you would mean that you would have sex. I'm more concerned about the fact that you are stressed, and feel pressured. Are you not into him? Doesn't it feel good? Do some thinking about why you don't want it - and then you'll be better able to address the problem. For now, try to be patient with him. He's probably wondering what is wrong as well. If need be, talk to your doctor or a counsellor - get to the bottom of why you don't want to have sex more often. Also, explain that you're working on it, and ask him to be understanding. But yes, a live-in boyfriend would probably have assumed that he would get sex on quite a regular basis.
2007-03-10 04:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been living together for 2 years you should be more than comfortable around eachother right? Well then one night just sit down and have a nice talk with him. Just tell him that your a bit stressed and you dont want the added pressure from him. I went thru the same with my fiancee. We have been living together about a year now and we use to have sex like every night! Now work is killing me and im just stressed! I talked to him and told him that ill let him know when im ready. We went about 2 months w/o having sex. Then one night it just happened. He completely understands, completely! So just talk to your boyfriend and it should be just fine! Good luck!
2007-03-10 04:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by afireinsidexxx77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have chosen to "play house" with the guy, and give him all the rights and comforts of a marriage partnership without HIM having any commitment at all. He can make demands on you any time, and eventually if he doesn't get his way, guess what; he can upstakes and ride off into the sunset. If he feels too comfortable to do that, he can still get his laundry done and a nice comfy bed to sleep in, and feel free to get his jollies somewhere else. He also has got himself a woman who is prepared to put up with his bad behaviour, disrespect, and arrogance, and by the looks of it, will go right on being that kind of a doormat for as long as he wants to stick around. All of which, is very very "abnormal" even though an awful lot of women are prepared to put up with the same stuff from a man who isn't even committed to them.
2007-03-10 04:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men love sex and it doesn't change once you get married. I think everynight is a bit excessive but 2 or 3 time s a week is normal. If you do not enjoy it i would seek professional help like a sex therapist. Sex is important in a reltionship not the most importantbut you need it in there and YOU need to ENJOY it too.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-10 04:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by cusmano4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he truly loves you, he wouldn't pressure you to have sex if you don't want to. There are many other ways to show love. Be firm-tell him, "not tonight" If he lives with you/keeps complaining, threaten to kick him out if he won't stop pressuring you. It's not fair that he he keeps on pressuring you while you don't want to resulting in you having to suffer when he lives with you. You should both treasure it and if you are getting sick of it, something is terribly wrong. You are normal but he is too. Men often crave for sex so yeah.
2007-03-10 04:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with who is "normal".
This issue HAS to be compromised. One partner in the relationship can't make all the rules on this issue--including frequency.
If you only want it once a week, and he wants it 6 times, compromise on four. If you don't feel like intercourse, there are "other" things you can do.
Also, it's possible to have sex when you don't feel like it.
2007-03-10 04:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by huskerfanbb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish! If he love you, he wont pressure u with it. Instead he might helps u to get interest in it. Only then both of u can enjoy it.
If u r not comfortable with his actions, try te gentle approach 2 talk abt it. If things didnt improved, dump him. U r not his sex toy. Gd Luck!
2007-03-10 04:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were born the wrong gender. Get you own place and wear a big baggy dress from your neck to your feet and every time a man looks at you tell him you have aids. You won't have any trouble with men again.
2007-03-10 12:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Creepy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal but he shouldnt get mad if you say no, but it doesnt hurt to ask. just be glad he is asking yu and not someone else. yu are normal everyone has a different sex drive, i think women can go a lot longer without. why dont you guys go to a adult novelty shop and find some fun games and toys.
2007-03-10 04:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋