Hey I just asked if it was wrong to want to keep the baby if I am pregnant.. I know it sounds bad yes I am 17 I work full time and I have my own apt. The guy I am with is older and I know that doesnt sound good either but I promise it isnt like that we have a great relationship and we work together. Im about to get my GED and Im thinking of online college courses. I dont know for sure if im pg Ive taken the test but so far negative. Its been a little less than a week since Ive missed my period but my stomach has been sore and I have a few other symptoms that make me wonder. I am on b/c and we do use condoms but I know nothing is 100 percent. If I am pg I def want to keep the baby. I wouldnt consider abortion and I could never give my baby away. Im very mature and responsible for my age and I THINK I can handle it and I know the father would financially support me. I have medical insurance as well. But Im still really scared.. any advice..?
2007-03-10 03:45:13 · 15 answers · asked by Krystina G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds to me like you may just be late on your period. Sometimes when we anticipate a pregnancy we can actually work ourselves up and cause our bodies to be late (This has happended to me) But.. on the flip side... I can understand your anxieties surrounding being a young mother. I'm 27 and expecting my first baby as well. If I can give you any adive I would say to finish school before you have that baby. Regardless of whether or not you are pregnant... you need an education to fall back on. Keep up your positive attitude. If you are already supporting yourself and living on your own...then you are doing great! Good luck hun... and remember... a baby is not the end of the world. He/she will end up being your best friend one day.
2007-03-10 03:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Shay M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to find out for sure. Go buy a pregnancy test to find out. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders for one so long. Raising kids is really hard though. I hope you have a good support network. If you are pregnant then get everything in place before you have the baby, like who will watch the baby while you work, stuff like that. Good Luck, I hope you are not pregnant.
P.S.- Rethink the relationship, "older" guys have no business having sex with anyone under the age of 18.
2007-03-10 11:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course your gonna be scared if it wasnt planned. even people who plan it get scared.
i had mai baby at 19, mine was planned and i was married but it all depends on you and how much effort you put into it. and how much love you give out.
i have about 8 homegirls (some sister-in-laws included) that ALL got pregnant at 14- 16 and some who are all now between 19-22 have 2 or 3 kids now and they are doing fine and some are on their own.
you'll be fine. your independant, yu work, and online courses are great, thats what im doing for medical billing.
and you have the guy who is going to help you. your gonna do great, just love your child with all your heart and always be there for him/her. never let your child be in need of anything.
im glad you not considering abortion, its wrong.
if you for some reason decide you dont want to keep the baby, give it up for adoption, there are lots of women out there who cant have children and would do anything to have a child.
good luck and best of wishes
2007-03-10 12:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by MsChuLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are a week late doesn't mean that you are pregnant. If you are on birth control and use condoms then it is possible that you are been stressed lately and that is why you haven't started your period. IF you are pregnant then it is your decision if you want to keep the baby. A baby is very hard to raise if you are by yourself but if you feel you are ready then you are a stronger women that I. Hang in there and try to relax. Everything will work out for the best
2007-03-10 11:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are very mature. Have you considered marrying the father so he'll be there?
I think keeping the baby is a very real possibility here. THANK YOU FOR NOT WANTING TO ABORT!!!!
Try taking the test again...
2007-03-10 20:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by thereligiousrightisneither 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are responsible and no reason why you shouldn't keep the baby if and when you have one. I have seen
many 14 year old that start having babies once a year each to a different guy and they keep their babies, although they do stick their moms with most of the responsibility
2007-03-10 12:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep testing and if it is positive take care of the baby and make sure to get support from the father
2007-03-10 11:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by kim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the test again in a week. And if you are get married. Kids should be with parents that are married.
If you are not pregnant. Then stop having sex until he marrys you! Sex is for the marriage bed only!
2007-03-10 11:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though its hard to do, and its a hard choice to make, keep the baby. abortion if flat out murdering your child. if you keep the baby, it will grow and soon you'll be out of college and settle down and you wouldn't have to wait for a child. the hard times will pass, and you will be SSOOO glad that you kept the baby. you will love it so much and protect it and keep it safe. good luck!
2007-03-10 11:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Silent Rumours 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...my friends mom had her when she was 19 and she said dat she would be able to handle da baby and she did for awhile and it did get really hard to take care of the baby but she got thru it and SO WILL YOU...
take care.
2007-03-10 13:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋