I always thought my family was perfect. We fought, but we always made up, and we always loved one another. I moved out 3 years ago, but my family is still central to my life. My mom told me today that she's leaving my dad. She said all these horrible things about him, things I can't even repeat, that I never even suspected were going on. On top of that, last semester, my parents encouraged me to quit my job and pull up my grades, saying they'd pay my tuition and rent. Well, they can't now. I'm behind on my rent, and I owe 10,000$ to the school that I can't get refunded, and I can't cover with grants and loans. I think I have to drop out of school. My mom has done so much for me over the years that I feel like a horrible person for being angry about her doing something that will make her happy. After all, I'm an adult now, I should be able to handle my own life. I just lost my family and my future in one stroke. I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have advice? Comments?
2007-03-10 03:44:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, first take a deep breath. She just called you today and you are in complete shock, understandably.
I don't understand your financial situation. Normally If you are on your own, not working, and not living with you parents, you can apply for grants and loans? What is the school situation exactly? How do you owe $10,000 - is it in loans already? The debt may be huge, but the education you earn will be well worth it if you can find a way to stick it out.
Would you be able to move in with one of your parents until you found a job and were able to cover next semester? Take it one semester at a time. There is probably a way to do it.
2007-03-10 03:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon for the pain you're experiencing. But you didn't lose your family, and you certainly still have your future. You're going to go through a whole lot now, and you should seriously get help to deal with this. Don't convince yourself that all is lost, however. No matter what your dad did, and where your mom goes from here, they are still your parents. Talk to your Mom about the financial burden. Your parents may still have the ability to assist you - it might just be more complicated trying to work that out. As for your future, I'm sure that once you adjust to the shock of whatever your mom told you about your dad, you'll be just fine. Get to a counsellor or therapist, deal with the NOW instead of the FUTURE, and try to keep a good thought.
2007-03-10 11:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's natural to feel angry, but you haven't lost your family; your dad is still dad and your mom is still your mom; both of whom you love; talk with both of them about the commitment they made to you about school, they should help you get on your feet so you can stay in school and get a job. Your life isn't over, just has taken a different direction; you can do it!
Oh, and if either of your parents start talking about the other negatively, just look straight in the eye and tell them to stop; you don't want to hear it; that is between the two of them.
2007-03-10 11:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move forward and upward that will be what they want.forget them.if they dont get it they will expect things of you...if they do get it they will keep it to themslves..arnt you glad that they finnally did it anyway..they will be better freinds and probably lovers living more modernly soon anyway..blow it off they did it to themselves not you.the change in both of them will help all of you.beleive me.don't lose focus..
2007-03-10 12:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by deezel09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋