My step-daughter is 9, and lives with her mother who is nervous, and clueless about training bra shopping.
2007-03-10 03:27:03 · 9 answers · asked by dragonslayernd 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
When I was a child that was very embarrassing to me. My mom was the type to make big deals out of things like kissing in a movie and shun it off.. it always made me feel really embarrassed to talk about anything like that with my mom...
I raised my daughters to not be embarrassed of those things. I never shuned anything like that and they always knew that they could tell me anything without me making out like it was a big deal. My daughters do not think bra shopping is embarrassing at all, matter of fact at ages 16 and 13 they love shopping for bras, and my 10 yr old daughter is even looking forward to it.
My best advice is .. if it's the mother or father that thinks it's embarrassing the child is going to feel it. If it becomes a big issue to you then the child will feel that and be embarrassed. Children who are confident with their bodies do not feel embarrassed....
The best way in my opinion is to go to the mall ... take her shopping, don't focus all of the attention on "getting a bra" give her some money to go shopping and tell her that the items you want her to buy are underwear, bra, socks, and pajamas, that you think she needs these items and that's what you want her to focus on. This takes some of the focus off of the bra, but allows her to shop for one on her own. If on the other hand she is very embarrassed, then it may only be you she is embarrassed with. Perhaps ask someone she trusts who is female like an older sibling, a cousin, a friendly teen, to go with her.. someone she knows and trusts. Someone who she feels comfortable with.
In reality, there is nothing at all that should be embarrassing when it comes to anything like this, be it bras, underwear or femine hygene products... the only time a young female would feel embarrassed is if the parents or people around her made a big deal out of it. Sometimes her embarrassment is not for herself but for them....
2007-03-10 03:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by ~Live,Love,Breathe~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about your attitude toward this. If you approach this as shameful, or embarassing, that's what it will be. Are you concerned you will overstep and offend the Mom? Here's something to try. Ask the Mom if she minds if you take the step shopping. Don't mention the bra. For the child, make it a "girls day". Tell her you're going to have a day for just the two of you. Line up some special things, a movie she'll like, lunch at a fancier place than you normally go. While you are shopping, (and it doesn't have to be a blow-out, you could say, we are both going to buy a new spring dress", just go into the lingerie department and say, "Let's make this day really special for you, let's get you started wearing bras". Hopefully, this whole experience will draw you closer together. Of course, pre-teenage girls are uber sensitive about their bodies, so if she's embarassed about the whole process, just keep trying to tell her that this is what being girls together is about. If the Mom gets miffed, play dumb, just say it happened naturally when you were shopping and you didn't think it was a big deal. I wish you luck.
2007-03-10 03:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure to measure the girl ahead of time, so the least amount of time possible is spent trying the bras on. They should just approach it like adults and do it. It won't be as scary as they imagine it to be.
2007-03-10 03:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now dont freak, my mom got my DAD AND LITTLE BROTHER to come, dont do that. when you go to the store, in the bra place, tell her the basices,cup and traning. tell her to chose the ones that she likes but not the really tight ones.dont ask her y she wants a bra dont tell her she has nothing to put in a bra be nice this is you time to bond with her.gil to girl.dont do what you mom did to embbaress you.
2007-03-10 03:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by top teen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just take her shopping and ask her what she thinks of training bras and if she would like to have some and what colors and styles she likes and then buy her some.
2007-03-10 03:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the mother won't be embarrassed..
and the girl shouldn't either..
theres nothing embarrassing about buying a bra.
just a hint- if you are easily embarrassed, make sure you go to a female cashier.
2007-03-10 03:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just go and don't make a big deal out of it. The bigger the deal the more embarrassment
2007-03-10 03:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
http://victoriassecret.com/html/custsrvc/storeloc
this is an actually bra fitting place only for us ladies!!
2007-03-10 03:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.bra.com
2007-03-10 03:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by chicago cub's bat bunny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋