My husband really likes for me to talk about having sex with multiple partners. He likes to assume these things are happening while he watches, or talk about past sexual experiences with other men while I have sex with him. He has never once asked to involve anyone else, he just likes to hear about it. He claims the visuals he gets in his head really turn him on. I make up things most of the time. But he likes details. It seems harmless, is it common?
2007-03-10 03:25:23 · 37 answers · asked by momof5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I hate to tell you this, but once a cheater, always a cheater, once a "dawg always a dawg". The only thing a woman is leaving herself open to by taking back a cheating man is the higher risk of getting HIV or HPV or some other VD.
Dont do it. No man is worth it. Even if you feel you can't leave because you have nowhere else to go or can't afford to go anywhere. LEAVE isn't you LIFE worth it? If this guy lied enough to cheat on you and have an intimate affair - don't believe him when he says it "meant nothing". If it meant "nothing" would he really have risked you and his child? Obviosly this woman he was with he felt was worth risking his child and family for - so that shows you his priorities, and you and your child are not one of them. He's putting your health at risk. And believe you me - if he cheated once - he WILL cheat again. He might be on his best behavior for a few months or a year - but after that - he's going to cheat again. It's just in their nature. They just don't love you. Sorry but its the truth.
2007-03-10 03:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis K 2 · 2⤊ 6⤋
Really Dirty Sex
2016-11-09 21:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I would say it's pretty common and harmless too as long as he doesn't involve anyone else. Sometimes fantasies help a relationship, spice it up even. My husband likes for me to talk dirty and he talks dirty to me and it's a huge turn on for us! We don't necessarily talk about past sexual experiences, just whatever pops into our head at the moment. I think when it comes to two married, consenting, adults there are no limits in the privacy of your bedroom as long as it doesn't hurt either of you and involves just the two of you. The Chinese claim that sex is the best medicine and it really improves your health. I know I feel good after sex and I'm sure you would agree!
2007-03-10 03:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by MELISSA&ERIC 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I love it when my husband talks dirty as long as it's appropriate. If we are having wild and crazy sex then it is a major turn on but if we are making love then I like to hear sweet things. I have never had him ask about my past experiences while we were in the act but I have heard of other men doing this and I think it's normal.
2007-03-10 03:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is a fantasy. Who are any of us to judge someone else's fantasies if they are not hurting any one? I do not see the harm in it if you are comfortable with it and as long as it just stays a fantasy. I would even kick it up a notch for him. Have him wear a wig and a costume, tape it and let him watch it later. So it is like he is watching you with someone else but it is really him. That might take some of the pressure off you. Dirty talk is really common, I know some woman who like it just as much as some men. I know men who dislike it and find it awkward. Everyone has their own thing. I am sure that you have fantasies of your own. why not incorporate it into your routine, that way everybody wins. The multiple partner thing is really common as well because it is so taboo. Really I think that normal for a sex life is a pretty big range of things. As long as no one is uncomfortable or hurt then it is normal.
2007-03-10 04:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by chanajane3 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Misti! My husband started fantasizing about this same thing over 5 years ago. At first I was pretty disgusted, but time and an active imagination slowly developed it into a very fulfilling life. Make your own judgments, but give it a chance the way I did.
2007-03-10 08:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Candice B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats funny. Words that are often used everyday are suddenly considered dirty?
Maybe its this kind of classification which hold you back from really enjoying sex. Sex is an expressive language and its tools for communication (words, foreplay, roleplay and ect) are there to keep the human mind interested.
Maybe instead of being conservative, just go with it, release yourself and be able to communicate what you desire. If you want him to talk dirty, than allowances are in order.
The only spike in the road for you is to feel comfortable in your own skin. I feel that this is a rough patch for you.
You take care of yourself and have fun
cheers
2007-03-10 03:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by H Vice 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your husband sounds just like me. If my wife wasn't right here in front of me, I would swear she wrote this.
Here is the deal: Your husband enjoys that you are a sexual creature. He likes that you like sex, with or without him. Nothing wrong with that. And moreover, he enjoys that he has conquered you over everybody else. Most people act like they had no sexual life before their current partner. They don't like to acknowledge it. Frankly, for men it's hard to deal with. This is just a safe and honest way of dealing with it. I think it's healthy.
I've learned a lot of things about my wife this way. (however, I think she embellishes a little to turn me on) If you can't talk about everything with your spouse, then what's the point....
2007-03-10 03:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Common, and harmless, unless it offends you or becomes obsessive. As long as it's just you two, the only things that should be off limits are those that require zero gravity, are specifically forbidden by your life insurance policies, violate the Geneva Conventions, or require a 220 volt electrical outlet.
2007-03-10 04:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds UNHEALTHY what you are describing.
He may not be the man for you, or I guess I just do not know, but it sounds like he may not be "getting pleased" in the way he wants to and so he shifts to other means, I am not a mind reader so I am not saying that is the case I MEAN only he can know for sure. Maybe he manned the camera in alternate path PORN sessions.
I think for anyone they have to ask what they want, I can only suggest a VEGAN DIET and then go from there. There are some people who are "off the horn a little" because not only what they are eating that is "non-vegan", but also concerning stuff that is CHEMICALLY reactive in that way.
I know that sometimes we are in a WORLD-LIFE situation where we move from "point a" to "point b" and well we may just have "wives/husbands" or sexual partners along the way until we get to our "number one".
hope in peace, hope in better relations all around.
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2007-03-10 03:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋
It might be weird but I like to visualize my husband making love to other women. It just turns me on to think about. I wouldn't actually let him do it!
2007-03-10 06:44:13 · answer #11 · answered by LISA E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋