My wife and I never really had a good relationship. We have a 4 year old son together. I have always been on the fringe of getting a divorce but decided to stay because we have a child. Recently we had another argument in front of her sister, but this time she brought up our son during the argument. She said our son has a small **** and it's all my fault. She then proceeded pull down my sons shorts and underwear in front of me and her sister. She said that no women will ever want him because of his small **** and it's all thanks to his daddy. That's when I finally realized it was definitely time for a divorce. I mean taking shots at me and embarassing me is one thing, but to humiliate our son like that in front of another family member is absolutely insane behavior. Should I file for a divorce or ride it out until our son is older?
2007-03-10 03:23:21 · 11 answers · asked by jenzwatt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
file for divorce and FULL custody of your son; she is abusive to BOTH of you!
2007-03-10 03:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm usually the LAST one to advocate divorce. But, I think that in cases of abuse (which I think this definitely is) it's warranted. This may not be physical abuse, but it sure is emotional/psychological abuse to this poor little boy.
Good for you, for being a man and sticking with your wife because it was the right thing to do, and for your son, instead of walking away and taking the easy road.
Problem is, your wife is no longer only abusing you, she's abusing your son. That was probably humiliating for him - I know he's 4, but at that age they understand more than we give them credit for, and they pick up on tension in the home. No way he's going to forget that.
If you'd like, give her one last chance, with the condition being that she get herself in for some serious counseling. If not, get out while you still can, but make sure your son goes with you. If you're not going to be able to get custody, then I'd have to recommend sticking it out - because as your son gets older, he's going to need you there to support him, and to help undo the damage she's doing to him psychologically. Running far, far away would be better for you, but if he's stuck with her... it's not fair to leave a child with an abusive parent.
2007-03-10 13:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is not about divorce but protecting your son from this abusive behavior. You have to make sure he is protected and you have to get her some help. That type of behavior can honestly damage your son for the rest of his life. Take action now. Hopefully he is so young he will not remember that when he is older. Good luck!
2007-03-10 12:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by chanajane3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her behavior is totally uncalled for and besides, ALL 4 yr olds have small ones. They don't get bigger till much later. If you have talked to her about this in a rational, civilized way and she is still unreasonable and uses your son as an object of ridicule then she doesn't seem really fit to be a mother or a wife. Sounds to me like she is no longer in love with you. Sorry, but time to move on.
2007-03-10 11:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is a idiot! She should seek help! Was she dropped on her head? Theres just plain stupid and than theres her!
Divorce, is not the answer but she sounds like a nut job. Go get some counseling and if that doesnt work divorce her and take the kid with you.
2007-03-10 11:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by tommyhawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should divorce the ***** and get custody of your son that's lowering your son's self esteem and it could affect him when he grow's up thinking he's too small she doesn't sound fit to raise a child my goodness its normal for him to be small he's a little boy that doesn't mean he'll be like that when he's older if he is a good women will love him for his self not for how small or big he is when he get's grown thats mean of your wife doing her own child that way
2007-03-10 11:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very inappropriate behavior.
I don't like to be the one to encourage someone to divorce but your conscience of splitting is good thinking. If you do get a divorce. Present that scenario to your lawyer because you have a witness. If you are living right and not cheating, you could have custody of the child.
Enough said. I keep my personal thoughts to myself.
2007-03-10 11:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Big P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a loser and just manipulated herself and her son. Not only would I find a way out I'd get full custody.
2007-03-10 11:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by bwitt321 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave the cold hearted *****!! Who's to say your son won't end up having a 8" ****? That was very rude of her!!
2007-03-10 11:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by luvnau 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG thats terrible....yes you should leave her and you should take your son with you. That can cause lasting damage to him.
2007-03-10 11:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋