I'm tierd of being lonely and married. We sleep in separate bedrooms. There is no affection or sex. Over time I have become attracted to another man (which is married). Should I talk to this other man about how I feel or just keep my mouth shut?
2007-03-10 03:22:38 · 13 answers · asked by delorisjp 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You must ask yourself a lot of questions first. You know that by talking to the other guy you are going to open up a can of worms,especially since he is also married. I think you need to really decide if you love your husband and if you really want to hurt him or live without him. Chances are good that you could get crushed by this other guy and loose your husband too. Couples get really lazy with each other after being together for a while. Maybe it is not another man that you crave,but just some excitement! Good luck, I hope you make the right decision. Use your head not your heart.
2007-03-10 03:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't involve him in your marriage problems. Unless he is also unhappy in his marriage, and you are absolutely certain of this and not just being hopeful, then there's no reason to cause him problems. If you're tired of being lonely and married, it sounds like your marriage isn't working out for you. I suggest either counseling or a divorce. Counseling might work, but things also might be too far gone for it to help. It might be hard to seriously consider a divorce, but if you are so unhappy in your marriage that you're considering going outside it for happiness, it's better to break things off cleanly. Chances are your husband might be feeling the same way, and it just might be the best thing for you both at this point.
2007-03-10 13:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Technopygmalion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a covenant for life. You loved each other at one time. Find that love again. Fix the problem. Make it work. Marriage isn't there for you to see if you might be compatible together. You and he made the choice by a legal contract to be committed to one another. Don't be a loser. Keep your word.
2007-03-10 14:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by kjv_gods_word 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your husband about it and let him know your pain trust me he will understand im sure he is feeling the same just make thing's work just think of the frist day's when you both met and how special it was for both of you try to good his fav dinner or try to get his attention all over again :) that's cool i dont think you should be doing "anything" with other man u dont want to be in big mess and hurt your husband trust me try to get his attention all over again
2007-03-10 11:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by food is evil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is about as open minded as it gets - check out your local swingers group. You will have sex - all that you want - and be able to talk to people about anything. It is a stop gap measure because you are going to have to do something about your home life, but this will keep your spirits up while you do. And you won't have to worry about ruining some one elses life.
2007-03-10 11:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wow, that is awful. I think that if I were you, I wouldn't talk to the other man, but I would talk to my husband and tell him that something has to change. You have desires that he needs to fulfill! Just give him a warning that if ya'lls relationship doesn't take a drastic turn, you might just have to find pleasure elsewhere.....
2007-03-10 11:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely seek marriage guidance. or a divorce attorney. you are asking us to have an open mind, but so should you.
do not talk to this man about anything that you will regret.
talk to your husband.
2007-03-10 11:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Liv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with this new man until things are utterly over and finished with your husband.
2007-03-10 11:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by - 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God gave you the ability to change your life, so talk to the man. You should NOT do anything sexually with him, but it can't hurt to know your options.
Please consider a divorce or, at least, counseling before taking a major step with another man.
2007-03-10 11:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Abby O'Normal 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I think you should seek a divorce before even thinking of being with someone else.
2007-03-10 11:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋