In the past 8 weeks his uncle died, then his dad died, his parolee nephew and his wife had a preemie and I was with all of them thru it all then his sisters and mom dump on me saying you do such great things but you bring drama to situations sometimes-I'm a nurse also. I deal with drama everyday so what do I do different. He's living at his moms after being together 7 years like mid life crisis or did I do something wrong.
2007-03-10 03:16:06 · 4 answers · asked by bwitt321 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you married to this guy? Because I see you have a divorce question as well here?
Frankly, it's hard to tell you if you did something wrong or not, we don't know you.
Ask him. If he says he doesn't want to bring drama to your life then explain that you choose to go through the drama with him. That's what being a spouse is all about, being a team player.
You don't leave the team when things get tough, you put your heads together and make a plan to face the drama and get through it, growing closer together in the process.
2007-03-10 03:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have to step back and look at yourself in a mirror and ask yourself that question. But on the other hand, it seems like he's not ready to commit to your relationship, he seems a bit insecure about leaving the nest or his comfort zone.
What kind of "drama" are you bringing into family situations? Being a nurse you are accustomed to dealing with life and death, and in dealing with such situations. Someone in your profession can seem to have a 'cold heart' at times, but that's how nurses, doctors and even morticians deal with situations. One cannot let their emotions override their work, or else he/she will never survive to continue in providing a much needed service.
But getting back to your boyfriend, if he's not ready to commit to you 100% and keeps making excuses, then dump him. Or you might have to ask yourself another question... "how long are you willing to wait for him?"
2007-03-10 11:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Braddah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really understand your quiestion?? Are you asking us to say if you dramtise things! Because we dont no u. but does he say you bring drama or just his family? If its his family then just try and shrug it off, and mayb just take a step back. If ur a nurse you'l be used to drama and fast pace life. Just relax a little bit. Maybe your just been abit to much for them? and as far as your partners concerned mayb he is at a crisis, hes lost his dad and his uncle. Stop making this about you, and be there for him
2007-03-10 11:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by rochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he realizes or visualizes there is an internal conflict between his family and you. He doesn't want to choose you over his family. That says he values them more than you. Tell him if he wants to continue the relationship, his priorities have to change.
2007-03-10 11:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋