What do you suggest I do? I have had two kids and I am 22 My abdomen muscles have slightly seperated at the belly button so my belly button is really big. Also, I have a lot of stretch marks. My husband wants a boy REALLY bad. But I am content with two kids and I don't want anymore because my body has been really screwed up by having kids. Do you think I am being selfish? Or do you think he is being selfish? Also, what can I do about my stomach? Anyone had plastic surgery for this?
2007-03-10 02:59:39 · 14 answers · asked by wifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's easy to want more kids when you are going to be the one sitting on the side lines for 9 months. If you don't want them, then don't have them. I'm sure that it was a stressful situation and having kids to please someone is not going to make it any better for you. Your husband should understand that. Just tell him and let him know how serious you are about it. If he can't accept that then he is the selfish one. In time maybe you will change your mind but until then he shouldn't pressure you. Also he shouldn't be so obssessed with having a boy. He should love the kids that he has and stop being so sexist.
2007-03-10 03:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 22 so that's pretty young and I could understand your feelings of not wanting more children now and why should you, you have alot of time left to have more children in the future if you decide you want to. I know how hard it is to have 2 young children very young and you're probably taking care of the children 95% of the time so I understand where your coming from. Explain to your husband your feelings and how you are already tied down to the children you already have and give him an estimate on when you think you will be ready to start trying for another child. And also explain to him that you are still very young and you have plenty of time to have more children. And also explain to him that you understand his desire for a son, all men want a son. And tell him that you just don't want any more children right now not forever. Because believe me you will change your mind. And just wait a few years and if you still don't want any more get a tubal done and you won't have to worry about it. And I lost my baby pouch by doing exercises in the morning after I get out of bed, I do 40 sit ups, 40 pushups everyday and I also watch what I eat no fast foods, and i cut down on eating out, I prepare my meals myself including lunch, and I drink plenty of water. Sorry but there really isn't anything that could get rid of stretch marks but you could try blemishing cream, nothing worked for me.
2007-03-10 03:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you are more worried about your abdomen muscles than your relationship with your man. You have somewhat low priority for your husband's request. What I am trying to say is that you have to have the issue in your relationship correctly. The issue in your case seems to be another additional member to the family. In that case, you need to speak to him calmly and directly how an additional family member would affect your marriage and your family finance, not your abdomen muscles. You can deal with that when the time comes. You must accept your motherhood and your husband should be able to understand strains that a new member would bring to the family.
Think about this and talk together. I hope this helps.
2007-03-10 03:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by dansdna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's your question?! And did you no longer talk whether or no longer you wanted little ones formerly you purchased married? could have been clever... seems such as you'll be able to desire to sit down down inclusive of your husband and artwork out whether there is any way you are able to share an analogous ingenious and prescient for the destiny, otherwise one among you is going to be very unhappy. sturdy success!
2016-09-30 11:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you just not want to be pregnant again but would be comfortable raising another child?
If I knew I could provide love and financial support to another child but was just unhappy about the pregnancy thing I would still give it one more go. If you do try again, make it clear to your husband that he may not get a boy anyway but tell him three children is it. I would get my tubes tied and also get the tummy tuck!
2007-03-10 03:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you guys adopt a boy?
Assuming the problem is that you don't want to be pregnant again, and not that you also don't want another kid in the house.
2007-03-12 11:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u had two kids before ..a third wont hurt much :).. it will also make ur husband happy too..and add another flower to your garden... as far as your body goes..yes pregnency does have effects but through certain exercizes it might go away...check with your physcian..he/she should be able to guide u through better.
2007-03-10 03:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby that you dont want another one. Even if you did there's no guarantee it will be a boy. Then what your hubby do, want to keep trying till a boy pops out?
2007-03-10 03:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the children that you already have., as well as each other!!!!!, As far as plastic surgery is concerned, Spend that money on your children, or husband, I don't have much hair on my head, but you won"t see my running to the hair club for men, for Christ sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 03:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, surgery will correct your stomach / abdomen...
You both have a valid argument....
2007-03-10 03:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋