we finished last year and now she wants us to try again but she could be pregnant what shoud i do i still love her to bits. she dosent know if she is yet but she dose look 4 months preg and that was the last time she was with someone..........
2007-03-10 02:46:37 · 19 answers · asked by scotishlad 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well thanks for all your help but i have decided to take her back and take the child on as my own i know it will be hard but i have to take the ups with the down and i am lookin forward to being part of this child life once again thank for your help
2007-03-10 11:15:05 · update #1
You need to remember why you broke up in the first place, and ask yourself what's changed that would ensure your relationship will last this time. Why does she want to try again?
As for the possible pregnancy, where does the father fit into the picture? Is this why she wants to get back with you? To have a father for her child and someone to help support her? She needs to take a pregnancy test immediately (there are lots of home test kits that give the results in just a short time). You can't make any sound decisions until you know for sure.
I know you still love her, but are you prepared to love her child just as much? And if she's not pregnant, will she still want to get back together with you? These are tough questions but you really have to know what you may be getting into before you can make the right decision. Good luck.
2007-03-10 03:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you value your sanity and your future happiness you will not touch this with a ten foot pole
if they child is yours ..then you will have to pay support
you would not gain anything if you went back now..i found out the hard way that being the "nice guy" cost me a lot of time and money plus it was all for nothing in the end
do what you want..but don't do this because you think you love her..that is just my opinion as i did not listen to this good advice either and i get stuck and paid a heck of a price..so learn from the mistakes of others..
2007-03-10 10:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks she's pregnant, then she needs to take a test. You can't just base if off the fact that she's gained some weight. If she takes a test and she is, then you need to decided if you can be with someone who is going to have a baby by someone else, and no, that baby wouldn't be yours, but you would end up having some responsibility with it if you were dating her. So that's all up to you, but first have her take a test.
2007-03-10 10:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Hayden's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love her enough then yeah get back together with her. Is the baby yours? That is a big decision. If you think that you can handle being with her with a child then go ahead.
2007-03-10 10:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Princess T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her- and if she wants you back , not because she is pregnant, but because she loves you give it a try. If she thinks she is 4 months pregnant, why hasn't she taken a pregnancy test?
2007-03-10 13:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is very though situation, only you know details in your relashionship and need a good time to think what you are ready for and what you're not. Take your time and hope everything turns out for the best.
2007-03-10 10:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her & can accept the fact that she will b carrying some other mans child & u will have 2 deal with him as long as u r with her, then go 4 it
2007-03-10 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well. though situation.
if u love her and ur certain that she REALLY LOVES u and not just wants to be with u so u can be her daddys baby...then u should give it another chance.
but make sure of ur feelings for her and hers for u b4 getting into this..remember there may b a baby on the way.
2007-03-10 10:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask yourself if you are prepared to be a parental figure in her childs life. if not then you need to move on. there is n othing wrong with it if you are not ready for this and you should be prepared that she may want more like marriage if she is pregnant.
2007-03-10 10:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Erin F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she want to get back together? Did you come out and ask her that?
It may be that she does not want to be alone if she is pregnant, and that is a real crappy reason to start a relationship...
Tread slowly, and make sure it is YOU she wants, and not security.
2007-03-10 10:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sue_Render_Urself_2Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋