2007-03-10 02:42:16 · 16 answers · asked by jannat k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jannat,
We don't know why you feel you Hate your Hus., but, if it is THAT bad, make the steps to "move on" with your life. It isn't complicated when you find out what direction you want to go!
If you don't feel that Counseling is an option, then you need to tell your Husband, for whatever reasons, the marriage isn't working out and plan for you and your baby where you're going.
Don't stay in a relationship where you aren't happy, and that's what I want to get across to you!
Experiences are different for everybody and noone can compare theirs to any other, but those can be just as stressful, and maybe worse, so you aren't alone!
Your baby will be fine through this, kids adjust. All they want is for their parents to be happy. They pick up on stress between the parents quickly and isn't a good environment for them mentally, so if you choose to Divorce or to separate, if that's what you have to do, you're doing it for yourself and that's First, ok?
(Well, it was for me when been through it twice.)
But, as I said, breakups are different for all couples, it's just that everybody has their limits and they need to find their own "equal ground"and do whatever it takes! Life is short and we all need to live it to the fullest! If you stay in a marriage
unhappy, I can guarantee you will get emotionally sick and it would mess up your child at the same time! It happened to me and my Dau. is going on 12 and she is having problems adjusting with life in general. I worry about that coz her Dad & I used to fight in front of her when she was 4.
SO, "fix" your lives NOW!
Hope I helped!
2007-03-10 03:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when do people stay together for kids?? If you hate your husband, you kid will pick up on that. Grow up in a house hold that yells and screams all the time. Hears the parents say "I hate you" to each other. OR you can leave and let your child have some kind of normal house hold without screaming and yelling.
2007-03-10 02:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of the baby maybe you guys should work out the problems. The baby is special and shouldn't be punished the rest of their life because you and your hubby have problems. The problem with the world today is children not being raised by both parents. Kids need both their parents. I'll bet you are from a broken family because if you were raised by both your real parents you would have morals. It's not fair to screw up another live. Work it out and deal with the child like a mature adult.
2007-03-10 02:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by felippie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get serious counseling with a family-oriented counselor. If you hate your husband why did you have a child with him? Now you want to put your kid and your husband through limbo?! Grow up and get help.
Unless there is abuse of yourself or your child (which I'm sure you would have mentioned if it were a factor) you need to work on your relationship. Love is a decision - make up your mind!!!
2007-03-10 03:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hating your husband. I thought marriage vows were about loving your spouse.
That doesn't mean you have to like everything he does. But to hate someone, especially if you once loved him sounds a lot like a grade school girl who is best friends one day and hates her best friend the next day.
So, grow up, and separate your dislike for certain actions from your love for your husband.
You had to love him at some point or you wouldn't have married him. If you married him without loving him, then why not learn to love, rather than feed your hatred?
Are we not called to love one another? So drop the hate and learn to love.
2007-03-10 03:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the reason you hate your husband..
If you have no good logical reason then you may have
some kind of post-partum psychological problem and
need to see a psychiatrist...
If you have a good reasonable / logical reason because he
had done something then you need to start saving money
for a divorce....
2007-03-10 02:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your shoes, I would first try to determine who YOU are, and what kind of life you're seeking for you and your baby. Then perhaps you can begin to think about how to achieve your goals minus this man that you married... father of your child......and now man that you hate.........and WHY.
2007-03-10 02:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first id tell u to let him know how ur feeling about him..
try to work things out...
if ur trying for a while and c that its not working...
then go separate ways.
the kid should not hold u guys together if theres no respect or love in the relationship anymore/but u guys should try to work things out 4the sake of the kid.
2007-03-10 02:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and ask someone help you take care of the baby
2007-03-10 02:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you married him if you hate him. Sad situation, especially for the child...
Nevetheless, if you truly "hate" him then file for divorce and move on with your life.
2007-03-10 02:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋