a m8 of mine is pregnant?

Question

by this fella when they first met he dident have a job but about 5 mounths a go he joined the army they are sirpoze to get married in august but all he does is pi#s is money up the wall we keep trying to tell her it wont work out but she wont listen when she found out she was having a little girl he said oh great a split a#se what do you do when she wont listen

Answer 1

Just be her friend and wait for the fall out. Cause it's coming, and don't say I told you so! It won't help.

Answer 2

I think watching your mate go through tough times can sometimes be harder than going through it yourself. It breaks my heart to see my best friend make a fool of herself but I always hold myself back from telling her what she needs to hear because she is stubborn, as your mate sounds, and I know she will not appreciate the honesty. So I simply hug her when she crys, stroke her hair when she talks about how she is feeling. Short of that there is nothing you can do but just be there for her and when it all goes wrong, you simply give her a cuddle and assure her everything will sort itself out in the end. She will not appreciate you telling her she is in the wrong, along with everyone else saying the same thing. Just bite your tongue and be there for her when he breaks her heart. Having a baby is a huge thing but that is something she cannot undo. The last thing she will need to hear from you is 'I told you so'.

Answer 3

Give her the advice you think is right and then let her do what she chooses. Unfortunately, you can't make her do or think anything that she doesn't want to so just be there for her the best that you can. Atleast she's lucky to have a friend that cares so much.

Answer 4

It sounds like this man is immature,not ready to be a father and a proper jack the lad,unfortunately an innocent child is involved.This bloke must be made aware of his parental duties as a father and a good deal of growing up to be done.Normally when blokes like him join the army they get straightened out.Your friend needs to Wise up to the fact that this man will never have any money for a wedding,to support your friend and his child or child maintenance for that matter.she needs to put herself and her child first and leave this man as he is just a waster..........good luck.

Answer 5

this guy isnt worth it,she doesnt need him,she can bring the baby up alone,she may be scared at the thought of being a single parent,but she doesnt have to,as there is always lots of help for girls in the same situation,show her your answers maybe that will make her see sense,good luck,she is so lucky to have a friend like you.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, you are looking at their relationship objectively as an outsider and she is looking at it subjectively and therefore cannot see what is obvious to you.

All you can do is sit back and make sure you are around when it all goes wrong to support her. Try to resist the urge to say I told you so though.

Answer 7

im afriad if she is an adult she has to make her own choices and mistakes, people learn by thier mistakes and unfortuantly dont listen to other until its too late!!

Just be a good friend to be there and opick up the pieces

Answer 8

The only thing you can do is be there for her. She will find out soon what he is like hopefully.

Answer 9

if your friend won't listen...the only thing you can really do is be there for her when things go down. that is when she will see that you truely are a good friend ( not that she doubts it)

Answer 10

if she does nt want to listen.repeat that once again and again and again
you will suffer in the future
but i think with family bonds you having it would nt affect you much