Is it ok to have sex for the first time?

Question

Im alittle nervous i just dont want to get pregnant im just unsure right now i dont no if i should do it or not?

ok thanks everyone your all right thanks

Answer 1

if you are unsure then no, i am 23 and just had my first child and i feel that i am to young in my opinion

Answer 2

NO birth controll is 100%. that said, every day I get up at about 3:30am with my baby I change her feed her and burp her, most of the time she stays awake so I can't go back to sleep, when it is time for me to go to work I take her to the day care, which cost's $250.00 a week( and that is actually pretty inexpensive) after work I pick up the baby and head home , if she takes a nap I can work out , if not we sit in the living room while she plays. I will make her a bottle and make dinner, If she falls asleep I can eat, if not I have to hold her and eat at the same time. No matter how tired I get I have to wait for the baby to fall asleep and even after she goes to sleep she can wake up shortly after. On the weekends I really can't go out with my friends unless it is something that a 4 month old can do.And by the way that is only half the responsibility, I have a very good wife who does the other half, we are both well educated , have good jobs and are committed to each other. If you are ready to surrender at least the next 18 years of your life and you have a faithful and mature, responsible partner and the financial resources for day care and you don't mind not being able to go to the beach, party's the movies or even use the bathroom sometimes, then go right ahead an have all the sex you want.

Answer 3

You sound so young. Wait---you'll never regret waiting, but you *will* regret jumping into something you're not ready for. Besides all of the enormous risks like pregnancy, std's etc. sex really complicates a relationship. So many girls want to "take their relationship to the next level" but don't realize that this next level isn't all sunshine and flowers. When I think back on my high school boyfriends I have the best memories--not that we didn't fool around (we did quite a bit, but never had intercourse) but there was an innocence to them that can never be recaptured once you have had sex. On top of that, unless you've been with your boyfriend for quite a long time (at least a year) you'll never know if he's just really into you for the sex. No matter how many "I love you's" he says..... the VAST majority of teenage guys don't have the maturity to really want a commitment past the sex part.

Just wait. If he leaves you because you won't do it then you should be glad that you didn't lose your virginity to him anyway! If he stays then you know he really does love you and RESPECTS you..... and maybe down the road you *will* have a future together.

Answer 4

How old are you? If you aren't sure, you are definately not ready.
Don't be in such a rush to hurry into these things. Your innocence will be lost soon enough and you'll long for those days again.
I won't say sex isn't great, that would be lying but you are right to worry about pregnancy and you should also worry about sexually transmitted diseases.
And a word of advice, it's very true that we females view sex very differently from males. We attach a lot more emotion to it - for them, most times, especially as teens, they couldn't care less who they are doing it with as long as they are getting it. You could end up feeling like you are "in love" after you have sex with your boyfriend, but for him, your relationship could still be on a much lower level. Your heart could be broken.
You are nervous and unsure. Wait until you know when it's right.....you'll know the feeling. Don't rush things.

Answer 5

Well, if you're unsure, then you are not ready. Sex is something very important and you won't ever be able to change who you had your first time with. Think hard about whether you wanna do this now or if you want to wait first. Being nervous is the first sign that you are not ready though.

Answer 6

If you are unsure about having sex then don't, that is your better sense telling you that it is not the right time nor the right person.

Answer 7

If you are under the age of eighteen and not married in my opinion it is wrong. You are your on person though and you have to make these choices for yourself, and if you are worried about getting pregnant then you need to refrain from it because no controceptive is full proof.

Answer 8

If you are scared and unsure, maybe you are not ready yet.

Think of this... if you are dating a someone and slept with that person, if he/she dumped you the next day would you regret sleeping with him/her. If you are certain you wouldn't regret it, then perhaps that's the right person and time.

Answer 9

Your likely young, and you don't want to risk yourself. There's an immense amount of pressure to have sex at your age, just look at the media everywhere you go. It's best to wait until you are an adult and mature enough to really make your own decisions and stick with it. You don't want to do something and regret it later on.

Answer 10

It's only OK if you're married. Don't let some silly boy talk you into it. You'll be glad later. There is more power in the ability to say no than there is to make some boy happy for 5 minutes!