Everyone played in baseball game but my son what do I say to the coach/?

Question

The last two games everyone played but my son.His strenghts in baseball are pitching.The first game we lost and he pitched an inning the second game we won and the last game was a double hitter the double hitter last night the score was 10 to zero and 4 to zero.We lost big time!!! He goes to all the practices and he pitched for an inning at the first game and had a strike out.One of the coach's assistants told his Dad he would be pitching some last night.He didn't play at all!!!! A lot of parents say that he is also a pretty good catcher. I am going to call the coach but need help in knowing the right thing to say.Please don't tell me thats life anyone.He held his head down as he walked on to the field at the end of game when all the players go out to greet one another.He also told me he wanted to quit.He wasn't whining just depressed.So he didn't play at all last two games.Was only one that didn't play the last two games.

I forgot to add he is in the 8th gade 14 yers old and plays for the school.

Well just wanted to thank everyone for their input and I called the coach and he said that my son just got lost in the cracks .There are 22 kids on the team and next year maybe they can arrange to have 2 teams somehow.He said he was sorry and would talk to him on Monday to keep his spirits up.

Well just wanted to thank everyone for their input and I called the coach and he said that my son just got lost in the cracks .There are 22 kids on the team and next year maybe they can arrange to have 2 teams somehow.He said he was sorry and would talk to him on Monday to keep his spirits up. Coach suggested that I didn't ask him to.I am glad I asked him what to say to my son and he gave me a good logical answer I think he was trying to be fair I am glad I didn't sound off on him.

Answer 1

I've coached for years and the last thing I wanted to hear was from some irate parent who didn't think his or her son was being treated fairly. Unless you are willing to put the time in that these volunteer coaches put in, you don't have the right to sound off. Your son will get his chance. Not every kid is Mickey Mantle although most parents I ran into thought differently. Let the coach do his job and stay the hell out of his way!!

Answer 2

Ask the coach, "what can my son do to become better and see more playing time"

In a non-confrontational way, this will let the coach know you are aware of the fact that Jr. is riding the pine. At the same time, every coach wants his players to improve so it frames the situation in a positive light.

There is a chance that the coach hasn't even realized that you son sat our both games. Coaches have a lot to worry about and sometimes when the game is over, they look back and realize they didn't execute the plan as well as hoped (for instance played everybody).

I would not be aggressive with the coach for both his and your son's sake. Just ask a simple question and then DO (you with your son) what the coach says. This will show commitment and respect.

Answer 3

This is a tough situation to be in and I feel for you. First off I would make sure it was ok with your son if you talk to the coach. You don't want to do something he doesn't want you to. At the same time you don't want to have your son taken advantage of. I would approach the coach in an adult manner and be firm but calm and pose the question as to why he was the only child not to play. Additionally I would make an effort not to let the discussion escalate into a shouting match or argument. If the coach gives real reasons as to why your son didn't play as far as flaws in his game, ask the coach to work with him extra to improve these areas. Additionally if your son feels inclined ask work on these areas with him. If your boy decides to quit support him but also before he quits let him know that many great athletes overcame long odds. Don't let one coach stop him from playing the game if that is what he wants to do.

Answer 4

You CAN talk to the Coach, if he is a decent coach. If he is a macho idiot then I'd suggest finding a different team - you never said what age group .
The key is not to criticize the coaching staff, just tell them that you need help in explaining to your son why he is the only one not getting any playing time. This is a gentle way of pointing out to them that you are aware of what is going on....lots of coaches are so wrapped up in everyhting they are thinking of fair playing time for all.
Also realize that depending on what level you are at, pitchers won't play every game. That is normal. Good luck and don't let him quit!

Answer 5

You don't say a thing to the coach, this is school baseball not little league. You have a talk with your son. He CAN talk to the coach. But, he does it in this way, and he does it in private. "Coach what can I do to improve" "I don't feel like I'm helping the team" "I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get better" , ETC ~~

He has to look at it from the coaches point of view, as in, what's best for the team. The coach if he's worth his salt should both be willing to work with your son and give advice as to what he should work on, on his own..

If he likes baseball don't let him just quit. Lots of players have had to work at it, there are thousands of examples of players in their younger years who had little success. One of the reasons I love baseball so much is, it's more about the brains than the sheer physical size. Baseball is the thinking mans game.

Answer 6

You should say nothing.


Your son should ask the coach what he needs to do to improve his abilities and playing time. "I really want to play coach" will go a long way.

It may be the coach wants him as a "weapon" pitcher. Many times they will sit the bench, not because they are not valuable, but BECAUSE they are valuable. You don't waste a strong pitcher in a 10 to zip rout!

Son is 14 years old, its time for daddy to back off a bit.

Answer 7

Don't say a word. Stay out of it. Your son would be pissed if he heard you were going to the coach. Winners don't quit and quitters don't win. So what, you have a jag-off coach. Get used to it. It happens. If your kid quits everytime he bumps into a jag-off, he'll be playing chess in his room on his computer for the rest of his life.

Answer 8

If it was little league, you'd have a right to demand that your son play. On a school team, that's a different story. One thing I'd want to know is did my son commit any rules infractions that kept him on the bench? Was he late to practice, disrespectful to the coaches, not hussling in practice or not doing well in his class work?

Answer 9

First of all just ask him.Don't tell him.As him why your son doesn't play.Then just try to coax him into playing him more.If that doesn't work take him off the team and go somewhere else where he has more playing time.

Answer 10

ask him why your son was the only one that didn't get to play in the game