I appreciate that abortion is a delicate issue but....?

Question

why do people who are "prolife" insist on answering questions about abortion with a load of abuse aimed at the asker?

Its a matter of choice! If you dont like it, dont answer the god-damn question! Dont even read it!!!
I am not ashamed to say I have had an abortion, and I would glady help anyone else going through the same thing and offer advice and experience where necessary.

Answer 1

I am with you!! Unfortunately we can't stop them, we can only hope that the poor soles in the predicament ignore them just as I do.....

Their words are not worthy to me, I have had 2 terminations (yes that's right 2!!) I do not doubt my decision for one minute, I did not use this as a form of contraception, my contraception failed me. I do not believe I deserve some 'pro life' anti abortion head slamming for my choices... Reality check, my life, my body, my decision!!

Answer 2

you are so right why aren't there more open minded honest people like this around. there's nothing wrong with abortion if there was it wouldndn't be legal in the first place!

when i first got pregnant at 18 every one (family) wanted me to have a termination but i couldn't because of how strongly i felt for this baby (maybe because it was my first) but all the pressure i got instead of support lead to depression and other problems. i got pregnant 3 months after my first son (carelessly i do admit) and had my B/F try pressuring me into keeping it. i had such pressure thrown on me but i didnt have it because emotionally physicaly and mentally i wasn't prepared for another baby so soon and when i did have the termination i felt lke a HUGE weight had been lifted off my shoulders, it was unbelievable.

it a matter of personal circumstances and opinions. there's no point into pressuring someone into having a baby when they aren't prepared for it (and this is where they all say contraceptive or abstinance) as accidents can happen. doing this can seriously damage a woman emotionally and cause all sorts of unnecessary problems for her and her baby.

a baby needs a mother who is positive and confident about her choices not someone who is forced or going to second guess every decision made. and every expectant mother/pregnant woman needs support regardless of her choice

for heaven's sake we live in the 21st century... get a grip people.

Answer 3

I completely agree with you.

If you don't agree with abortion and someone else does, why do they feel they have to push their views on others.

I hate people like that.

I'm prolife...but that doesn't mean I'm gonna knock someone for having an abortion....My views are not theirs. everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And if someone is going to have an abortion at least give them safe advice...

It's like how schools now a days only teach abstinence. Teach them how to be safe and protect themselfs. When the time comes they don't know what to do b/c no one ever told them. Only told them don't do it. So then teens get pregnant and STDs and they don't know what to do or how to prevent it from happening again.

If someone wants an abortion and all they hear is "don't do it" they aren't going to be safe about it.

Answer 4

I dont actually like the idea of abortions. Anybody who doesnt want a baby should take the necessary precautions against getting pregnant.
Saying that there are situations where the woman who is pregnant has had a situation change,got pregnant through rape, has split with the partner because of the pregnancy and several other very good reasons aswell as medical reasons that she wants to terminate the pregnancy.
If a womans final decision is to terminate the pregnancy then facilities for doing so should be made available, otherwise you will get backstreet abortion clinics and very dangerous medical practices adopted.
For all the pro-lifers keep your stance and express your views just dont insult others for theirs. It shows you in a very bad light. You dont want the death of a forming baby but to deny the medical aid to a woman who doesnt want the pregnancy may be causin the loss of the mothers and the babys life in a back street clinic or suicide.

To express a view over something is necessary but to insult others isnt and they need to temper their anger and just answer or post their views without insults or derrogatory remarks.

Answer 5

Good on you for saying exactly what I was just thinking. If someone asks what one's opinion on abortion is, then thats fine for answerers to spout their abuse, but if someone is genuinely asking for help, they should stay out of it. It's hypocritical, because if a 15 year old came on here and said they were pregnant and keeping the baby they would get a torrent of abuse for being a drain on society. But if the same girl asked for advice about an abortion she would get just as much abuse for being a murderer.

I'm sick of prolifers thinking they have the right to persecute someone who has a different opinion than theirs. There are many things I don't agree with in this world, but I don't go round forcing my opinion on anyone else. Live and let live.

Answer 6

I am pro-life, I don't get into debates about abortion - what's the point? If someone asks where I stand on it I answer them honestly, but if they aren't asking, it's none of my business. I have never had an abortion but I would also offer help or support to anyone who has.

Answer 7

i could never have an abortion but that doesn't mean i cant understand other women's choices to have it. when a woman is going through an abortion she needs support and advice, not to be criticised. the people who make others feel bad are just nasty, and should understand that a woman would have good reasons to make a choice like that

Answer 8

OK I am most defiantly pro life. I think Abortion is a killer and a damage of lives. Women most of all. I don't know why you have asked this question in relation to people like me who believe that a baby is a baby how ever small it is. Perhaps you think compassion is lacking. But I think everyone has a right to live a life and if that life is created by us who are responsible for it because most of us know what happens when we have sex. We must take the responsibility on that we started. I do agree that in the case of life for life it has to be done. But other than that we are all equal and non or us is better than another and that includes a baby in the womb.

I hope this doesn't offend you, but feel it may because you have been through such alot to feel you had to do this your self.

We are also responsible for what comes out of our mouths.

My other point would be that the world is upside down. IVF is being done where some of the embryo's are chucked down the sink and abortions of perfectly viable lives are destroyed. Why don't we keep the babies and let people who want babies adopt?

Don't get angry, you asked the question.

Some of the people here have expressed that their opinion is what matters. I question that. Are our opinions the basis for morality or is it the greater good? If my opinion or your opinion is the basis for right then you and I are the centre of the universe and all that matters. Well if that counts for everyone that our own view is the order of the day then this is a poor world indeed and chaos may reign sooner than we think.

Answer 9

Because pro-lifers believe that abortion is taking a life (ie murder.) If someone posted a question saying, "I'm thinking about killing my 2 day old baby because I really can't afford her and am too young, and I don't want to give her up for adoption because then other people will find out I was pregnant...." I'm quite sure people wouldn't post answers like:
"Well, it's your choice--- I can help you if this is what you decide"
And many would post answers saying:
"What you are about to do is wrong---think about it first and look at the other options you do have (ie adoption.)"

For me, abortion is killing a little soul who's personality and dna is already intact and just waiting to be strong enough to meet the world. Of course I am going to respond to a question by asking the girl to reconsider her choice.

Answer 10

I am pro-life and I would just like to stop you dead in your tracks...I do not curse at anyone when they have this type of question, I try to help them and not by saying they are killing another human, because I know they already having a hard enough time making the decision to abort their unborn child. I would not go as far as to say I am Proud I aborted my unborn child, Like some of them do. I am not proud to say my own mother has had many abortions after my birth. I see the signs that say Take my hand not my life and I will go as far as to say they are rude and crude to the woman who have choose to abort. So do not say all of us pro-life people do not think pro choice is good to because i DO. Woman have the choice to do to their bodies as they please. But you really have to sit down and think you are taking another humans life, and did this little person have a chance to live a full life like you? What if your mother decided to abort you? Just a few things to think about.....But I would like to say I am sorry on behalf of all the people who are rude..and us pro-life people aren't that bad I promise....God Bless And Good Luck

Just to add this I have never had an aboetion I have a healthy 18 month old baby girl with whom I got pergnant with at 17 years old and I am almost twenty now...

But Woman also havve the choice of making the man wear a condom or wearing a condom themself....I hate when people say girls who carry condoms in their purse or wallet are easy, but it's not true you are protecting yourself from std's and pregnancy. I think the girls who carry condoms are the smart ones not the easy ones. Birth control Is A good way to protect yourself from pregnancy but Not std. And Did some of you know a known STD called HPV can cause cancer? Tell me about It I have been Fighting with cancer from the age 14 6 years almost, And from what you ask because my mother was to careless to use a condom and she caught HPV and their is only a 1% chance you can catch it at birth and I did. so protecting yourself now could also protect your furture family.... Please ladies tell him no glove no love, not only to prevent unwanted pregnancy but to prevent STD'S.... Thank you for your time

Answer 11

You are right, of course, you ask a simple question about abortion on here and the pro-lifer wolves rip you to pieces. They did this to a teenage girl one night - beyond despicable.

I wonder how many of them have had to make a decision like this? Would they choose life if it meant they could perhaps die or if their child was so disabled he or she would have no quality of life.

Well done for standing up and having your say. I am 100% behind you!!

God Bless.

XXX.