Did you just know....or are you still not sure if it was the right choice?
2007-03-10 01:55:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because i knew things were never gonna change....you never know if its the right decision...you just have to decide if you can stay or not...no matter what the future holds you cant be too scared to give it a shot..if you know your future isnt with the one your with. its always a risk but when you get to that place where it doesnt matter what the future holds because you know what you have isnt right..it wont matter
2007-03-11 13:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by old wise one ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am taking that you have left your husband or are thinking about doing it. Let me ask, are there kids involved? If so, think it thru. You have to do what is best for them as well as you. When I left, I really thought it was for the best....it helped me grow as a person. I will not lie and say that I don't miss my husband, cause I do....we have been separated for almost 3 years now. I even moved out of state, and yes, that has been the best thing for me and the kids....but not sure if I made the right choice when I left him. It's one of those catch 22 things.....I hope you follow your heart and do what is best for you....no one else knows what that is, but you.
2007-03-10 02:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left because I just "knew" I needed to. I just knew I'd never be happy with him, he'd never be the husband I wanted, he'd never treat me the way I felt I deserved to be treated, it would never get any better. Within hours (or possibly even minutes) I was second guessing my decision - did I really do the right thing, or was I not thinking clearly? Within weeks, I knew I had screwed up one of the best things I'd ever had, it just needed some effort on both our parts to make it work, and started trying to get him back. Unfortunately, packing up my 2 kids and moving 300 miles away while he was at work without so much as a note kinda damaged the trust he had for me. Within a year, we were back together, and 6 years later, we're doing better than ever.
I've never heard someone say with regret years later that they wish they would have left their spouse. But I've heard plenty say with regret that they wished they would have tried harder to save their marriage.
2007-03-10 02:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced twice, and both times i knew i was making the right decision and i never regretted it. I was married to a man who beat me and mentally and emotionally drained me the first time, and the second time I married an alcoholic. Just take it from me, if you leave, make sure you take your time before you hook up again so that you don't find yourself with another person just like the one you left.
2007-03-10 02:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he never took a real active role in parenting our daughter and never gave me any support in that matter. He was mentally/verbally/emotionally abusive and was becoming physical/throwing things at me as well as physically abusive towards our daughter. I am more than sure that it was the right choice.
2007-03-10 07:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people leave for all kinds of reasons, ego, rejection, betrayal, problems, i left due to cheating on me, i left not because of the betrayal but due to the cover up, and hurt after it happened. its usually not the thing done that causes one to leave but fears of what the future will bring later on. yes i made the right choice and don't have to deal with the things that hurt me or the man who rejected me anymore. moved forward, because what was behind me was far worse than the uncertainty of what was in the future.
2007-03-10 02:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after losing 63 lbs and looking hot he thought i was running around with someone and got verbally abusive. then physical by raping me three times in one night, the LAST night too. need i say more? a person just knows and if the thought is there its for a reason. i now live 2300 miles away from everyone ! remarried after four years to someone i met by fate and now live on a marine base. HAPPILY.
2007-03-10 03:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by privateone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I felt like I was holding him back from being happy. We were going in two different directions. I know it was the right thing. He can find someone and have kids. I can get on with my life.
2007-03-11 06:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by 2Jaded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left because it got to be either leave, or kill my wife. I chose to leave. Sadly, I probably should have just killed her and been done. It's been over 15 years now, and I still dream of the pleasure of putting a bullet into her. She is the only person on earth that ever managed to truly shaft me and live. I know it's sick, but every time I hear of some guy killing his cheating wife, I feel a sense of loss and regret, because I didn't do the same.
2007-03-10 02:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I left my last boyfriend before my husband we were really serious and everything it was because we couldn't get along. Everyone has their reasons however for leaving. I think that you should go into more details even vent a little a bit because you are hurting.
2007-03-10 02:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋