My daughter-in-law had an affair with a black man while with my son and got pregnant. The baby was born 2 weeks ago and she is beautiful. Son says it is his and she is adorable and I do love her no matter what. He says she is his but around her nails is turning brown. Mixed????????
2007-03-10 01:52:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am NOT a racist and YES it does matter because I DO NOT condone what the mother did to my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 02:00:47 · update #1
My children are mixed and I could look at the skin just at the bottom of their fingernails about how dark they were going to be. Pretty accurate. They are all over 20 years old now and they are all about the complexion I thought they would be-my middle child is pretty light but looks kind of exotic and I could tell when she was a baby that she was going to be kind of light skinned.
Another good indicator is when the leg is straight look at the knees-if mixed usually have a kind of tanned or dusky color.
Now that I have answered the question I must say that I don't really think it should matter unless it matters to your son. He was really the one who was cheated on and in no way is it the baby's fault. So if he doesn't care then let it go and let everybody be happy.
2007-03-10 03:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by nursegrneyes2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that is a beautiful baby, but you need to stay out of it, be there for both parents,I pray that the parents bring the baby up in a loving, caring,home ,filled with all the love patience and warmth that baby with ever need ,I also pray that you support the parents ,and in the future if the baby turns green ,you as the grandparent continue to love and care for your grand child , Children are Gifts from God ,given to us to watch over some times for a long time and some times a short while, don"t waste time looking for things that may or may not be there ,its a baby ,God Bless the Parents and that baby
2007-03-10 02:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it doesnt matter then why even post the question? Maybe she had the affair and got pregnant, your son knows, and forgave her. Maybe in every way but DNA she really IS his!!!!
I abhore your question. But it is sad too....the fact that you would bring it up just shows how you really feel, despite what you say. That is like those people who say "I am not racist because I have black friends." Love your grandchild no matter what and stop bringing up the fact that she had an affair or that the child may be biracial. My 2 children from a previous marriage are biracial. And I dont love them despite the fact that they are biracial, I LOVE MY CHILDREN. PERIOD. Their race has NO part in anything....they are kids. My kids.
I feel for your daughter in law, son, and grandchild. They dont really know what lies underneath your veneer of support.
2007-03-10 02:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For all of you people out there, She's not being racist!!! She just wants to know if the child belongs to her son and since they are of two different races she wants to know what characteristics to look for to see if her son is the child biological father.
Now, to answer the question:
Being a "daddy" to the child, be it his or the other mans (which it sound to me like it's the other mans), is more important, at this time. If your son is willing to raise this child as his own (even if he finds out it isn't) and is willing to forgive his wife of her mistake, then he's being the bigger man. He obviously loves his wife and the child.
"Daddy" goes far beyond biological matter.
2007-03-10 04:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself find it absolutley absurd that this is even a concern for you . Your son has obviously accepted the child as his and is not worried .It is not your place to be concerned with thier marriage. He married her not you ,cut the apron string and just be suportive of your sons desicion . As far as the baby is concerned ,if she is bi racial so what ,Will you stop loveing her for it ? Will you stop accepting her as your grandchild for it ? I think your real issue is your daughter n law ,and the child is just an excuse to point the finger at the woman who took your son .If an affair really did happen, it is your sons place to decide the future of his family and if he loves the wife and the child then let them be . Love your son enjoy your grandghild ,and work out issues with your daughter n law .
2007-03-10 03:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by sarah l 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is only two weeks old, you are not going to truly be able to tell for a few more months. They say you can tell pigment by looking at the color of the skin around the outer ear.
If you absolutely need to know now, then just get a DNA test.
2007-03-10 02:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a possibility...but the only way to be sure is a paternity test...if not u just have to wait until the child is a lot older then u can tell.
2007-03-10 01:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a DNA test if it really matters to anyone. That way you will be certain if this is your blood-relative or not and that will end any future questions or disputes.
2007-03-10 01:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's an quite honorable factor you're doing, i think of for you to objective to locate the girl's Black kinfolk (like a grandmother, an aunt, or cousins and so on.) this is one way she will see people like herself. additionally teach her photos of blended celebrities like Mariah Carey, Halle Berry and Jada Pickett- Smith to call some. additionally keep in mind that it possibly difficult for her to love herself by way of fact of what her father did. Foster delight in her, teach her you adore her, and practice her approximately God and the thank you to love herself. additionally keep in mind some infants of blended history have a tricky time setting up in (own experience) they do no longer consistently be attentive to the place they belong,and there will be merciless people who will take care of her badly (like the trolls on yahoo), this is have been love will come into play back. i think you and your loved ones will do wonderful. i think you are able to pass to google and look up books for infants of blended history, like "Leona and The Honey Bears" a Black version of Goldilocks and the three Bears.you additionally can proportion together with her each and all of the marvelous invention created by ability of Black people.
2016-12-14 15:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's adorable. you love her, and your son says the baby is his. End of story.
2007-03-10 01:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋