I don't see why and I never have. I think it's a joke. I think it's not worth anything, and that it's better being single. I like being single because I don't have to deal with all the drama and all that other crap. I could drink and live in the Carribean if I was single. But if I was married, I couldn't. I couldn't imagine having to deal with kids either. I hate little kids, and I feel bad for my parents because they had to deal with me when I was a little brat and my brother. But then again, it's their faul they had me. Kids are one of the common reasons why people get married. I just don't like romance, but it intrigues me why so many people want to ruin their lives by getting married. Your life is basically over after you get married. After you get married all you hear is US, US, US, AND WE WE WE. I would hate that. It's no longer about me, which I don't like.
2007-03-10 01:42:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I married when I was younger, it seemed like a good idea at the time! I later divorced. I would not even consider marrying again, although I would live with somebody IF I found the right person
2007-03-10 01:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get married to celebrate their relationship. To commit to each-other. Whether u r married or single, each has its own pros & cons. U might not get ur personal space or time or freedom as a married person but then u have somebody as urs. Someone u can grow old with. And children r a blessing. Giving birth to a new life and growing up with it by giving him all the affection & love it takes to nurture that little soul is an experience in itself. But then it takes ur time away from u because u have to share it. Anyways, I still think there isnt much that u cant do if u r married. Get ur family involved in whatever u do. the joy will multiply.
But I must say I really admire ur honesty & its good that u r true to urself. It is better not to have children rather than have them & then regret. Just try not to put it bluntly to avoid hurting sentiments of others.
2007-03-10 11:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then let me suggest that you remain "single" and please, don't ever have children (they deserve far better than you. Thank goodness we don't all agree with you.
While you are certainly entitled to your opinion, so are the rest of us, the ones who are married with children. For you to say "it's a joke and it's not worth anything" shows your lack of maturity. Just because you have a difference of opinion doesn't give you the right to be disrespectful to others. If you want people to respect your decisions, then you need to learn to respect theirs.
You have absolutely no idea why people get married, just as you have no idea what being married is like. You sound like a very young, immature and selfish person.
Since I have been happily married for 34 years, I think I know a little more about "marriage" than you do. Sharing my life with a person who loves and respects me, has been one of life's greatest joys. Raising three beautiful children who are all grown and well-adjusted with families of their own has been one of my greatest achievements.
I can't imagine going through life alone, having no one to share life's joys and sorrows with. Never knowing the sense of belonging and acceptance that a family provides, nor the unconditional love.
I'm sorry you have such a terrible opinion about children, how anyone could "hate" them is disturbing and speaks volumes about you. I feel sorry for your parents also, you must be such a disappointment. Surely they deserved better.
2007-03-10 10:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think many people get married in order to concencrate their relationship in the sight of God. But if you're not a religious person then this does not apply to you. The other reason I've found is that people want to be married before they have children. I think it's in order to establish stability for the child. However, if you dont like children, again, it's not a concern for you. Do what makes you happy, more and more people are finding the idea or marriage antiquated now anyway. You don't have to understand, just do what's best for you.
2007-03-10 09:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do a quick search of residence of the Caribbean. Your going to find that the vast majority are married had kids and retired together. Any thing you can do I can do better, But while being married! Married life is complete bliss! I pity you for such an opinion. You'll never feel this way, and that's the sad part.
2007-03-10 09:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your question says a lot about you, and how messed all of your relationships must be. I would guess molestation or abuse in your childhood, but I digress. People get married because they have found someone that they feel they could spend the rest of their life with. Many do ruin their lives because people change, feelings change, or they had a preconcieved notion about what married life was gonna be like. Marriage isnt for everybody. And you my friend seem to be one of those. All the best during your long and lonely nights my disturbingly bitter friend.
2007-03-10 09:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someone fears commitment. I do too. I feel you. I have a girlfriend that hates marriage and children as much as myself. You should find one like that too. I understandt the whole thing too, I don't want to feel tied to one woman, to feel that, that's it no more fun for me, just responsibility. But at the same time having someone there for you if uplifting. Having someone to hold when you have your ups and downs is a great thing. I think that if you want to be alone forever just be a swinger, if you want to have someone but not feel like you are on a leash, find someone that thinks like you. You may bring her to the islands as well and he you both can have tons of fun. He look at Johny Depp and his girlfriend. Also statistically there are lots of people that have been going out for years, 6-10 years, finally get married then divorce and never see each toher again.
2007-03-10 09:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like 24/7 company.
2007-03-10 09:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Laila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is really about giving to the other person, making their life good, and not thinking about ourselves as much. so u definitely don't need to be married, as marriage is not all about u, it would require giving of oneself, making the mates life good, not allowing circumstances to guide ones heart. marriages only get ruined because of selfish people, who have too many expectations.
2007-03-10 09:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ppl get maried to show there love for each other
it is commen yeh but i know that marrage can ruin everything but if ur in love with someone so much u will get married as it show that u r willing to spend ur life witheach other
2007-03-10 09:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by black rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋