I met this guy last summer and we hit it off straight away. I only knew him a few days yet we got a bit mischievous. Later in the week I returned home and didn't hear from him, until now. We have been talking a lot via IM and texts, and he said that he is prepared to travel miles on a train to visit me. I am unsure whether I should meet up with him as -
1) I am extremely nervous about seeing him
2) My parents don't know about him and
3) I am worried that our close relationship only exists because of the thrill of not seeing each other and only communicating by texts or whatever.
So please help me! What should I do?
2007-03-10 01:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you feel so worried then it may be better if you do not meet --- if you decide to meet him make it a public place and just have a sit down with something like a coffee --- talk and see where the conversation goes
2007-03-10 01:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please Listen to yourself ! I am not trying to be smart with you, Everyone has a built in defence to protect themselves against harm , Girls more than men .It means something inside of you is telling you,pay attention ! something is not right about this. Before you do anything do some investigation on this person find out if he married ,is he in an relationship, or is he hiding something bigger, The fact that he offered to travel such a long distance to you is strange the norm is to invite a girl sometimes with her own friend to your own town for her to get an idea of what the other person is like in their own environment and it is taken from there
You sound quite young ,If I were you I would let your best friend or an older friend meet this guy with you
here are 3 questions to ask yourself
1 do i trust this guy
2 do I feel safe with this person
3 am i looking forward to seeing him
If the answer is NO to any of these questions back off until you have found out more
Remember your safety is number 1 do not ,never put yourself in danger for anyone Remember the questions you ask today may save you from serious harm I am not a kil-joy I just do not want to see you get hurt being mischievous comes with a price! be carefull !
Best of luck
Exterminator
2007-03-10 02:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by exterminator 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any serious reason why not if, from the texts you think you two have a lot in common or worthwhile to get to know each other better. If you are very young & feel unsure about meeting a stranger, attend your first meeting with another friend, brother or sister maybe, & you should also tell your parents about this person & let them know when & where you are to meet. Perhaps you can ask him to come to your house to pick you up. If he is not a nice person & mean to be straight & fair with you mostly likely he won't show up.
2007-03-10 01:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You liked him in the summer , and it was nothing to do with texts etc then. So you will still feel the same. I would say go for it!!
Two things though, don't know how old you are but if your under 18, your parents should know about him BEFORE you meet up and 2) Nervousness as in I wonder if he will still like me is a good thing but if your nerves are caused because you think he is slightly dodgy don't go
2007-03-10 01:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say give it a shot , you and him havn't seen eachother in awhile and yet he's prepared to travel to see you , thats gotta count for somthing So i say go out , see a show , go to the movis , dinner or sumthing but keep it light and se where things go. He could end up being your true love.
2007-03-10 01:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by femmegoddess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the Exterminator - Ask yourself those
questions.
As you have come on here and are unsure as to
whether you meet up with him - doesn't that tell you
something?
2007-03-10 02:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with him. If he thought a lot of you he would have been in touch a long time ago. Why has he suddenly got in touch with you now? I would be very suspicious. It's up to you what you do but be very careful.
2007-03-10 01:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by whitney 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him let him know you like him but don't want to rush into that again unless he lived closer cause you feel weird about it good luck
2007-03-10 01:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah sure you met him before nothing to be nervous about. :D
2007-03-10 01:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
meet him and hope for th best. u cnt live your life in fear
2007-03-10 01:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋